Are those of you with very arrogant, condescending kids aware of it? Does it bother you?

[Anonymous]

I frequently encounter kids with very haughty, arrogant manners. I'm not personally offended, but it surprises me when they behave this way in front of their parents and their parents don't correct them. When my kids speak like this, I always correct them, both at home and especially in front of teachers, other parents, and other kids. I don't want to raise jerks. But I see it so often in other kids without any response from parents that I wonder if perhaps other people just don't see this behavior as problematic?

Examples would be things like a kid being condescending about clothing brands (Kid 1: "hey, our jackets match!", Kid 2: "no they don't, this is a North Face").

[Anonymous]

How old are the kids? The example you gave wouldn’t be something I’d notice. The kid is stating a fact (they’re different brands).

[Anonymous]

Younger kids? Yes, you are correct.

Older kids? It gets complicated.

A lot of teens are very rude with their friends, and this is considered normal - they sneer and condescend and the level of snark is off the charts. Sarcasm is highly valued.

Problems arise when they snark on adults who aren't used to it. Teachers are a special category: some banter with their students in class and snark right back, some make it clear they want traditional respect from their students. It's hard for you to assess who is and isn't an appropriate adult, OP, if you're just witnessing this as an outside observer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger kids? Yes, you are correct.

Older kids? It gets complicated.

A lot of teens are very rude with their friends, and this is considered normal - they sneer and condescend and the level of snark is off the charts. Sarcasm is highly valued.

Problems arise when they snark on adults who aren't used to it. Teachers are a special category: some banter with their students in class and snark right back, some make it clear they want traditional respect from their students. It's hard for you to assess who is and isn't an appropriate adult, OP, if you're just witnessing this as an outside observer.

It's all bad. These are awful manners. It is one thing to engage in sarcasm or snark with very close friends. It's not public behavior. It is especially not appropriate with adults and teachers shouldn't tolerate it, and definitely shouldn't engage in it.

I feel so old, being annoyed with the young kids for their terrible manners.

[Anonymous]

Your example wasn't really arrogant. Sure, North Face is a "better" brand, but to young kids it's an observable difference rather than a comparison in who is richer. I doubt kids even know (or care) how much jackets cost or what $20, 40, 60, $80 jackets even mean.

If youre talking about older kids Thames know it's common for them to roast each other. Its not personal or spiteful. Just their strange immature way of how they talk and laugh about it

[Anonymous]

The US is a place of bad manners now, OP. And for many people it has no consequence.

Look at the guy who won the White House. Twice.

Kids today have only known power in the US to include the very rude Donald Trump.

[Anonymous]

Op, how do you know your kids aren’t like this when you’re not around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your example wasn't really arrogant. Sure, North Face is a "better" brand, but to young kids it's an observable difference rather than a comparison in who is richer. I doubt kids even know (or care) how much jackets cost or what $20, 40, 60, $80 jackets even mean.

If youre talking about older kids Thames know it's common for them to roast each other. Its not personal or spiteful. Just their strange immature way of how they talk and laugh about it

I teach middle school. Kids know how much things cost. They know who's poor and who's not. This is true by 3rd or 4th grade for many kids.

This has always been true.

[Anonymous]

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Their parents don't say anything to chide their kids b/c they see nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, how do you know your kids aren’t like this when you’re not around?

+1. I've never seen this behavior from my kids but I also know that they can be really different away from me.

[Anonymous]

I don't see the arrogance in your example. I wouldn't have even noticed that comment, and can't imagine what you would expect a parent to say. What would you think a parent should say there?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I don’t think your example was the clearest. I’d also consider that in some cases the parents might address a comment privately rather than make a big deal on the spot — context dependent.

[Anonymous]

OP, there are lots of shitty parents who raise shitheads. Just because one is an adult doesn’t mean they are fit to be a good parent.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been driving a camp carpool with a 9th grader who acts like this and it drives me insane. Trying to correct me and the other kids in the carpool (some 5+ years younger) with a snobbish attitude and to top it off she’s wrong more often than not. At first I ignored it bc it’s harmless but after 2 weeks I’ve started corrected her with the same tone she gives me. Apparently the parents are going to correct the behavior. I don’t tolerate that from my children and I won’t tolerate from poorly raised children either. It’s already been decided this family will not be in our carpool next year and I have no idea if anyone will let the parents know why.

[Anonymous]

NOVA/DMV was rife with kids like this when our kids were younger. Striver parents create obnoxious kids with no manners.