Advice from Parents of *Minority Students*
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
There are divorced Asians who (gasp) are not STEM majors. You can’t just put individuals in a box or make assumptions about how they are or will be- good or bad. That’s one of the underlying points on this thread. |
Anonymous
|
Troll. Don't even need to read this thread, Troll. And I'm certain the troll has be sock puppeting all day long.
Is there a sock puppet emoji? |
Anonymous
This cannot be more racist! You are saying minority cannot be family-oriented, education-oriented? |
Anonymous
Agree. If you looked at my kid's university's accepted students insta, you would have expected the class to be 75% female, 10% gay guys, 10% indian guys, 4% international students, and a handful of guys from the midwest who liked watching football. You are only going to get the people who want to post. |
Anonymous
+1 It can be downright nauseating at times. "Anyone not Asian hate" with a "we're smarter than everyone" comments. . |
Anonymous
| So much upheaval by parents horrified that Asian students are better students, more prepared, and successful. |
Anonymous
Saying that “my culture is family-oriented” or “education-oriented” can sound like a benign expression of pride, but it often carries an unintended sting. When you frame these qualities as special to your own group, you implicitly invite comparison: if my culture is the one that cherishes family or schooling, what does that say about yours? The compliment to oneself doubles as a yardstick against which other communities can appear indifferent or deficient, even if that is not what the speaker intends. Because most societies prize kinship and learning in their own ways, labeling these values as uniquely ours comes across as a quiet form of ethnocentrism. That sting is sharper in places like the United States, where “family-oriented” and “education-oriented” have long been coded into racial and immigration debates. Praising Asian Americans as especially studious, for example, props up the “model-minority” myth, which has historically been used to shame Black and Latino communities by suggesting they fall short through cultural flaws rather than structural barriers. Politicians who laud “hard-working, family-centered immigrants” often do so to single out certain nationalities for approval while casting others as less desirable. In these contexts, what sounds like a simple self-celebration actually reinforces old hierarchies. |
Anonymous
Is this supposed to be endearing? How do you want people to respond to this? By saying yes, you Asians are so much better than us, we need to humble ourselves and learn from you? Don't you realize societal change does not work in this way? People are not influenced and malleable by insults. |
Anonymous
This is the most Bizarre and twisted rubbish. When someone says “my culture is family-oriented” or “education-oriented,” their immediate aim is often to explain what shaped their own attitudes and behaviors—nothing more. This is a descriptive claim, not a prescriptive one. In everyday conversation, people routinely name the earliest influences on their values: “I grew up in a community that always put family first,” or “Education was all my parents talked about.” If we immediately assume every such statement carries a hidden comparison or hierarchy, we risk discouraging honest self-description. Intent matters: most of the time people merely want to share where they come from, not measure others against that standard. It’s possible to celebrate cultural strengths without implying that those strengths are absent elsewhere. For instance, saying “In my family, elders always gather every Sunday to share a meal” does not necessarily mean “Your family doesn’t.” In practice, everyone’s definition of “family-oriented” will look different. By framing it as “for us, this is especially important,” you can leave space for others to tell their own stories. In other words, you can express pride in your upbringing without forcing a zero-sum comparison. You assumes that labeling any value as “special to my group” automatically positions other groups as deficient. But cultures are not monoliths, nor are all members of a culture identical. If you say “In my Korean American community, education is pitched as the surest path to stability,” you acknowledge a particular historical and social context—namely, the immigrant experience, Confucian legacies, or post-1965 university admissions patterns—without claiming that every other community lacks those same motivations. Being precise about why a community emphasizes schooling (for example, to overcome language barriers, or because of first-generation immigrant pressures) keeps the statement grounded in particular circumstances, rather than a global comparison. |
Anonymous
I’ve definitely have heard people use the “my family cares about education” to subtly call someone else stupid. Especially if one is having a conversation about race and education, leading with that statement is pretty clearly intentioned to mean the other speaker is from a background that doesn’t care about education |
Anonymous
The arrogance of their parents is nauseating. |
Anonymous
+100. This is often said with regard to lower income African Americans especially those in the inner city. |
Anonymous
|
Yes, Blacks can choose Howard.
Asians didn't have such an option. |
Anonymous
+1000 Immigrants particularly Asian immigrants don’t have much left for support, family and education are the two things they can rely on to survive here. This thread really reveals how much hate some hold against Asian Americans. We are not even allowed to say the most important things that matter to us. What’s next? Are you going to take away those two things from Asian Americans? Are you going to send us to internment camps? |
Anonymous
Martin Luther King dreamt of a time when people will be judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. He was thinking of whites judging blacks as people of color. Ironically, America has been so successful in achieving his dream that the pendulum has swung the other way with black people doing the judging now. |