Advice from Parents of *Minority Students*
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Anonymous
No one intelligent enough to get into a top college cares about this. You don't go to a good college to spend your 4 years proving you are smart enough to get in. Much of these schools are filled with wealthy, subpar students who had the right connections or athletes with craters in their skulls and the minimum stats for admission. You get over merit when you quickly realize those who climb quickest are never the smartest in the room. |
Anonymous
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Asian hate is just acknowledging asian people's existence now... Swap the words black and Asian in the OP and my guess is that you’d be screaming racism. “We went to this school thinking that there would be a lot of Asians because in the past they were let in for their race, but now they can’t be and so everyone is white or black and there are only a few other Asians in her classes! My kid wants to leave because it’s terrible and I agree so what should we do?” My bet is that you would not be sympathetic to the Op. |
Anonymous
| She should join the Pomona College Black Student Union: https://claremont.campuslabs.com/engage/organization/pomonabsu |
Anonymous
Asian hate is just acknowledging asian people's existence now... Swap the words black and Asian in the OP and my guess is that you’d be screaming racism. “We went to this school thinking that there would be a lot of Asians because in the past they were let in for their race, but now they can’t be and so everyone is white or black and there are only a few other Asians in her classes! My kid wants to leave because it’s terrible and I agree so what should we do?” My bet is that you would not be sympathetic to the Op. No. I think it's completely valid for an asian student to not feel comfortable in an environment where they are heavily underrepresented. Maybe, like, stop making assumptions and actually try ton understand others. |
Anonymous
You think this wasn't a complaint prior to when asian Americans weren't more represented in higher ed? This mythos that people like being in environments where they are at the margins is really strange. |
Anonymous
Bizarre conclusions on a pretty harmless post. |
Anonymous
Liberal art colleges never attract many Asian students. Bring Asian in this conversation is clearly targeting Asian. Take Williams as an example, the percentage of Asian students stay nearly unchanged over the years. https://williamsrecord.com/467282/news/first-year-demographics-shift-slightly-following-affirmative-action-ban/?utm_source=chatgpt.com |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry your child doesn't feel welcome, OP. I lived, as a mixed-race child, in a part of the world where I was the ONLY non-white person. I still made friends.
I certainly do not want to minimize your daughter's feelings of vulnerability, but she should give it her best shot, before thinking of transferring. |
Anonymous
What? Op's child's college is over 21% asian: https://www.pomona.edu/news/2024/09/12-pomona-college-class-2028-profile . Amherst is 20% asian. Swarthmore at 17%. Asian Americans are only 7% of the US population. How could they not "attract many Asian students" while being nearly 3x the US population percentage. |
Anonymous
| t’s okay for your daughter to feel out of place—social media can give a skewed view, and the campus might feel different in person. Encourage her to seek out pre-orientation programs, affinity groups, and others who share her values and experiences. If it truly doesn’t feel right after giving it time, she still has options, but she absolutely belongs there. |
Anonymous
Asians are not being "targeted" by OP. The issue is the Asian and White students will not want to be friends with and share in life with the non Asian or White students, so why would a non Asian or non White student subject themselves to that? What "Asians" have to understand is that you never want people talking about you, even in a netural way, otherwise you claim "Asian hate" but at the same time all over DCUM, "Asisans" have so much to say about black people, and even white people at times. |
Anonymous
When they are not controlling the narrative at any given time, they call it hate. |
Anonymous
Most absurd assertion. Not in NYC anyway. |
Anonymous
And looked at this comment from the UCLA thread, one in response to a note that ethnic groups stick together and exclude others at UCLA: I think this is a weird comment to make about UCLA specifically because I've never been in a community where this isn't the case (my college, my jobs, church, my kids' schools, etc). It's human nature for people to segregate based on identity. It is very hard if not impossible to get authentic mixing of cultures and races on any sort of large scale. Asians may be ok with this, but don't cry "Asian hate" when we call it out. |
Anonymous
Come to California. Berkeley is insanely racially segregated. All asian groups basically everywhere that judge white students and especially other minority students. White students flock towards the greek life for their "community." It's pretty clear when these campuses are heavily segregated, and you really get to see how this generation operates. There are many other parts of the country where people are very very race-sensitive, and California is one of them. |