Bumkini

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This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

Except the teen girls people are trying to exploit are trapped in a cult, they're posting their exploitation on Instagram.

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Anonymous wrote:It's the fashion and they don't blink an eye at it just like we don't blink an eye at seeing women's ankles when in certain times and cultures it would be horrifying. As for their parents seeing them, they really don't care about that either. Why should they be embarrassed? She doesn't feel like she's flashing people. You do have problems if you find this disturbing.

Go look at a ton of pictures of competitive divers. Go to brazil. This is a you problem and not a her problem. Personally I did a double-take the first few times and now it doesn't even register as a pool norm.

You don’t need to go to Brazil they are becoming common here. Miami beaches are full of topless females with thong bottoms. I wouldn’t want a teen to wear it.

Isn’t a bumkini a wax job in the bum area?

Drug murders and street crime are also popular in Miami and Rio - it’s not persuasive to say teens wear thongs there.

Also, if you’ve ACTUALLY been to Brazil, you’d know that most people are not wearing thongs. They just wear normal bathing suits. The men wear more briefs, but even they were board shorts.

Stop projecting your weird fantasies on other countries.

Read the post and tell me where it says teens wear thongs in Brazil.



I hate how small the front has gotten. Women aren’t just standing there posing. They are moving around, swimming, doesn’t take much for that to move

I meant this thong bottom …

This is a micro-bikini and not very common at the public pool.

It might not be common at your public pool but they are out there. All it takes is one teen girl to show up at a pool party with this on and the rest will follow.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

I’ll just “advise” my daughter not to date the Andrew Tates and leave encouraging them or not to themselves and their own parents because THAT’S NOT HER JOB.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

I’ll just “advise” my daughter not to date the Andrew Tates and leave encouraging them or not to themselves and their own parents because THAT’S NOT HER JOB.

Do you think anyone intends to be one of his victims?

You're basically saying that if your daughter is bullied, it's fine, because the bully's parents should do something about it.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

Except the teen girls people are trying to exploit are trapped in a cult, they're posting their exploitation on Instagram.

well, you and I have extremely different views on where the exploitation starts and ends.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

Except the teen girls people are trying to exploit are trapped in a cult, they're posting their exploitation on Instagram.

well, you and I have extremely different views on where the exploitation starts and ends.

You're... okay with it? Because I'm not.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

I’ll just “advise” my daughter not to date the Andrew Tates and leave encouraging them or not to themselves and their own parents because THAT’S NOT HER JOB.

Do you think anyone intends to be one of his victims?

You're basically saying that if your daughter is bullied, it's fine, because the bully's parents should do something about it.

I’m saying that I teach my daughters to avoid or deal with bullies, but I don’t teach her that she should dress or act in one way or another to stop them from being bullies in the first place.

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I know a lot of middle aged fathers do not want to look at their child’s friend’s ass or boobs hanging out, it very awkward for them.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

Except the teen girls people are trying to exploit are trapped in a cult, they're posting their exploitation on Instagram.

well, you and I have extremely different views on where the exploitation starts and ends.

You're... okay with it? Because I'm not.

We don’t allow public social media posts of any kind. If you think predators only go after teen girls if they post skimpy bikini photos, I think that’s very, very naive. I think predators will use SM to pursue girls even if all their photos are in turtlenecks, and I’m not going to teach my daughter that she is responsible for someone exploiting her image if she decides to post it against my will. It’s gross and we can try to avoid it for safety, but it’s NOT HER FAULT. and it’s not shameful! and it’s okay if she doesn’t always manage to recognize and vanquish all the misogyny that might have colored her own motivations to wear whatever. That doesn’t make her any more responsible for someone assaulting her than those girls in their long white dresses are at fault for their pastor raping them in a church. It’s not their fault. It’s not their fault! It IS NOT.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread just makes me think about that horrible Warren Jeffs documentary.

Except the teen girls people are trying to exploit are trapped in a cult, they're posting their exploitation on Instagram.

well, you and I have extremely different views on where the exploitation starts and ends.

You're... okay with it? Because I'm not.

We don’t allow public social media posts of any kind. If you think predators only go after teen girls if they post skimpy bikini photos, I think that’s very, very naive. I think predators will use SM to pursue girls even if all their photos are in turtlenecks, and I’m not going to teach my daughter that she is responsible for someone exploiting her image if she decides to post it against my will. It’s gross and we can try to avoid it for safety, but it’s NOT HER FAULT. and it’s not shameful! and it’s okay if she doesn’t always manage to recognize and vanquish all the misogyny that might have colored her own motivations to wear whatever. That doesn’t make her any more responsible for someone assaulting her than those girls in their long white dresses are at fault for their pastor raping them in a church. It’s not their fault. It’s not their fault! It IS NOT.

whoa whoa whoa... you don't allow public social media posts, but you have no limits on actual public behavior? hmmm...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

The woman that get assaulted and graped more than any in the world wear burkas

What woman wear is what woman wear. Do nude beaches have more SA's? - nope.

This has nothing to do with woman and everything to do with raising boys to decent men. But when we have moms here saying these girls are asking for it or asking to be looked at, miss the ENTIRE point. They are bathing suits. Girls wear trends. No teen is going to wear a mommy suit and it has nothing to do with teen boys. They follow their friend's and their trends.

It is the moms judging their teen girls that allow this victim mentality and the mom of teen boys who say the girls are abc because of what they wear

+1
The people opposed seem to be 2 categories
-jealous
-perverts themselves who need girls to cover themselves so they don’t do/think something inappropriate about children

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Anonymous wrote:I always think of that part of Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling says, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise." As a PP pointed out, AMAZING how the fashion for teen girls (and grown women) is super skimpy. Incredible how that always works.

Wish I could convince my DH to show up to the pool in whatever swimsuit DD picks for herself. Would make the point of how completely silly it looks.

Look, I wore (or tried to wear) stuff my mom didn't like when I was a kid. I liked to wear it so the boys would think I was attractive and the girls would think I was cool (because the boys thought I was attractive). My mom didn't like it because she thought it was trashy (it was usually trashy). Sometimes she was successful, sometimes I removed the safety pin holding the neckline together. No permanent harm was done on either side. So I guess the stakes are fairly low. But no, my daughter is not allowed to wear low-coverage bikini bottoms. She'll either do some thinking about why she really wants to wear these things and what that reflects about our society, or she will hoard some allowance and learn some ingenuity. Either way it's character-building.

It would be nice if there was an easy way to explain to teens that if they want boys to pay attention, NOT wearing the thong would work better. They definitely like seeing the ones who wear the thongs, but they also think they're trashy and WISH they could see more of the ones not in the thong. The girl in the normal bikini will be the one they like, the one in the thong will be seen as the try-hard sl*t.

TBH I'm not sure I'd want to use that explanation. My real ideal (dare to dream!) would be that she chooses what she's most comfortable in without a thought for what will best entice Puberty Paul.

well ideally, yes... but maybe a better way to talk about it is teaching your daughter that looking attractive is not the same as wearing as few clothes as possible.

Ah, okay, that does make sense to me (and is very true!). Thank you for that.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a teen boy. I heard my mom and sister talking about this thread and I did get permission before posting.
My sister wears one of these and I hate it. My friends never stop tormenting me about her, but in the end it is in good fun. We do that to each other and I guess having sister my friends consider hot is better than having a mom that they do. One of my other buddies has the hot mom- I will skip the letters that we us to describe her, but he has it worse.
I do LOVE it when my sister's friends- particularly one of them - wears them though. Sorry- I see a nice tush, I am looking. I have even been busted once or twice and that sucks but if a girl I think is hot wears one, I am lookin'.
If it helps, we don't wear shirts to the pool, but I just don't think stuff like that gets girls all hyped up like it does for us.
For people who don't like them...please don't make such a stink they get banned! It's only for a couple months. A couple wonderful, glorious months

NOPE. No teen boy has EVER used the word "tush." Nice try, Mom.

Haha. I almost believed it until that.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a teen boy. I heard my mom and sister talking about this thread and I did get permission before posting.
My sister wears one of these and I hate it. My friends never stop tormenting me about her, but in the end it is in good fun. We do that to each other and I guess having sister my friends consider hot is better than having a mom that they do. One of my other buddies has the hot mom- I will skip the letters that we us to describe her, but he has it worse.
I do LOVE it when my sister's friends- particularly one of them - wears them though. Sorry- I see a nice tush, I am looking. I have even been busted once or twice and that sucks but if a girl I think is hot wears one, I am lookin'.
If it helps, we don't wear shirts to the pool, but I just don't think stuff like that gets girls all hyped up like it does for us.
For people who don't like them...please don't make such a stink they get banned! It's only for a couple months. A couple wonderful, glorious months

NOPE. No teen boy has EVER used the word "tush." Nice try, Mom.

I was trying to be respectful and my dad loves ZZ Top