Bumkini

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

"Crank their hog". Lol!! I am sorry but you cannot post again. This isn't a place for cogent, reasonable logic such as yours. It is a place for insecure battle axes to lob grenades at others' parenting and attack men

[Anonymous]

Little kids gawk at their @$$e$ hanging out of their triangle Brazilian suit as well.

And don’t get started on the lack of muscle or body tone on some wearing butt cheek-out bikinis. Only in America.

[Anonymous]

Side boob
Butt cheeks out
Butt floss bikinis
Pasties.

All good at the community pool after the real swim meet! No more with or standards in the above. Especially the flabby ones. Who needs to see your skin on skin sweaty butt touching and sagging over your legs?

What a role model out in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are reading this together and having a bit of a laugh, butt, the other day one of our neighbors 23 year old stunning au pair came to the pool wearing butt floss. I love my wife very much, butt she doesn't look 23 anymore and God knows I don't either. I took a couple of looks and then chilled. My wife is cool and she knows I am probably gonna look, but I respect her and won't push the boundaries.
Little boys, girls, tweens and teens were also taking eye fulls. Some giggled but that was it.
The people who were really complaining were the adult women! Now I get it because what this lady was wearing really was minimal and some people don't want their kids seeing someone's ass on full display, but I think jealousy was also a catalyst for some.
As for our kids (teen twin girls), they wear the more typically American cheeky suits. I am kind of whatever about it and so is my wife, but we have caught people looking at them who shouldn't be. I don't say anything because nobody has ever approached then or gotten close enough to "accidentally" brush up against them, but they do get the looks and they know it. It's there choice but they do have to at least be aware of what is happening around them

Your girls will know feel pressured to get waxed. Have fun with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

AMEN!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

The woman that get assaulted and graped more than any in the world wear burkas

What woman wear is what woman wear. Do nude beaches have more SA's? - nope.

This has nothing to do with woman and everything to do with raising boys to decent men. But when we have moms here saying these girls are asking for it or asking to be looked at, miss the ENTIRE point. They are bathing suits. Girls wear trends. No teen is going to wear a mommy suit and it has nothing to do with teen boys. They follow their friend's and their trends.

It is the moms judging their teen girls that allow this victim mentality and the mom of teen boys who say the girls are abc because of what they wear

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

"Highly toxic teen male culture" shut your yap. You have a problem with guys, probably because you an overbearing annoying person. Don't paint all teen boys with the same brush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we have this debate every week over a few inches of skin.

Nearly all swim suits in our culture, even the modest ones, even my one piece with cap sleeves, are form fitting and show a lot of skin. You can still see my butt cheeks even though they’re mostly covered. They show the contours of the body and allow one to easily imagine what an individual looks like naked.

Guess what? Unless the teen girls are wearing burkinis, they’re getting male sexual attention. The dads are trying to avert their eyes. The teen boys (and some teen girl peers) are noting who has the great t*ts and big butts and talking about it with their friends. The lecherous pervs are taking mental pictures to crank their hog to later. And someone who aims to sexually assault a teen girl will not be stopped by a more modest swimsuit. It’s just not how it works. Thong, bikini, hipster, it doesn’t matter. Teen girls, in swimsuits or otherwise, get male attention with their bodies. That’s just how the world works.

And the only ones who are judging a teen over whether her whole cheek is out or just part of it are other women, mostly unhappy and middle aged, and maybe a few mean teen girls.

If a one-piece with cap sleeves is as sexually alluring why does anyone bother with a thong? Because it's not true.

And we're not taking about lecherous pervs taking mental pictures, we're talking about lecherous pervs taking actual pictures, and we're taking about a highly toxic teen male culture which is already horrifically objectifying of women—it's no crime to wear a thong, but advising your daughter to not encourage the Junior Andrew Tates of the world is sensible. Because there are lots of them. He and his acolytes are disgusting losers, but you can't pretend they don't exist.

"Highly toxic teen male culture" shut your yap. You have a problem with guys, probably because you an overbearing annoying person. Don't paint all teen boys with the same brush.

I didn't paint all teen boys with the same brush. I painted a group of teen boys who have a very toxic culture with a very specific brush.

[Anonymous]

I always think of that part of Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling says, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise." As a PP pointed out, AMAZING how the fashion for teen girls (and grown women) is super skimpy. Incredible how that always works.

Wish I could convince my DH to show up to the pool in whatever swimsuit DD picks for herself. Would make the point of how completely silly it looks.

Look, I wore (or tried to wear) stuff my mom didn't like when I was a kid. I liked to wear it so the boys would think I was attractive and the girls would think I was cool (because the boys thought I was attractive). My mom didn't like it because she thought it was trashy (it was usually trashy). Sometimes she was successful, sometimes I removed the safety pin holding the neckline together. No permanent harm was done on either side. So I guess the stakes are fairly low. But no, my daughter is not allowed to wear low-coverage bikini bottoms. She'll either do some thinking about why she really wants to wear these things and what that reflects about our society, or she will hoard some allowance and learn some ingenuity. Either way it's character-building.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always think of that part of Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling says, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise." As a PP pointed out, AMAZING how the fashion for teen girls (and grown women) is super skimpy. Incredible how that always works.

Wish I could convince my DH to show up to the pool in whatever swimsuit DD picks for herself. Would make the point of how completely silly it looks.

Look, I wore (or tried to wear) stuff my mom didn't like when I was a kid. I liked to wear it so the boys would think I was attractive and the girls would think I was cool (because the boys thought I was attractive). My mom didn't like it because she thought it was trashy (it was usually trashy). Sometimes she was successful, sometimes I removed the safety pin holding the neckline together. No permanent harm was done on either side. So I guess the stakes are fairly low. But no, my daughter is not allowed to wear low-coverage bikini bottoms. She'll either do some thinking about why she really wants to wear these things and what that reflects about our society, or she will hoard some allowance and learn some ingenuity. Either way it's character-building.

It would be nice if there was an easy way to explain to teens that if they want boys to pay attention, NOT wearing the thong would work better. They definitely like seeing the ones who wear the thongs, but they also think they're trashy and WISH they could see more of the ones not in the thong. The girl in the normal bikini will be the one they like, the one in the thong will be seen as the try-hard sl*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always think of that part of Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling says, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise." As a PP pointed out, AMAZING how the fashion for teen girls (and grown women) is super skimpy. Incredible how that always works.

Wish I could convince my DH to show up to the pool in whatever swimsuit DD picks for herself. Would make the point of how completely silly it looks.

Look, I wore (or tried to wear) stuff my mom didn't like when I was a kid. I liked to wear it so the boys would think I was attractive and the girls would think I was cool (because the boys thought I was attractive). My mom didn't like it because she thought it was trashy (it was usually trashy). Sometimes she was successful, sometimes I removed the safety pin holding the neckline together. No permanent harm was done on either side. So I guess the stakes are fairly low. But no, my daughter is not allowed to wear low-coverage bikini bottoms. She'll either do some thinking about why she really wants to wear these things and what that reflects about our society, or she will hoard some allowance and learn some ingenuity. Either way it's character-building.

It would be nice if there was an easy way to explain to teens that if they want boys to pay attention, NOT wearing the thong would work better. They definitely like seeing the ones who wear the thongs, but they also think they're trashy and WISH they could see more of the ones not in the thong. The girl in the normal bikini will be the one they like, the one in the thong will be seen as the try-hard sl*t.

TBH I'm not sure I'd want to use that explanation. My real ideal (dare to dream!) would be that she chooses what she's most comfortable in without a thought for what will best entice Puberty Paul.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's the fashion and they don't blink an eye at it just like we don't blink an eye at seeing women's ankles when in certain times and cultures it would be horrifying. As for their parents seeing them, they really don't care about that either. Why should they be embarrassed? She doesn't feel like she's flashing people. You do have problems if you find this disturbing.

Go look at a ton of pictures of competitive divers. Go to brazil. This is a you problem and not a her problem. Personally I did a double-take the first few times and now it doesn't even register as a pool norm.

You don’t need to go to Brazil they are becoming common here. Miami beaches are full of topless females with thong bottoms. I wouldn’t want a teen to wear it.

Isn’t a bumkini a wax job in the bum area?

Drug murders and street crime are also popular in Miami and Rio - it’s not persuasive to say teens wear thongs there.

Also, if you’ve ACTUALLY been to Brazil, you’d know that most people are not wearing thongs. They just wear normal bathing suits. The men wear more briefs, but even they were board shorts.

Stop projecting your weird fantasies on other countries.

Read the post and tell me where it says teens wear thongs in Brazil.



I hate how small the front has gotten. Women aren’t just standing there posing. They are moving around, swimming, doesn’t take much for that to move

I meant this thong bottom …

This is a micro-bikini and not very common at the public pool.

But based on the logic deployed here for cheeky bikinis there's no reason 15yos shouldn't be wearing them at public pools.

Why not just let teen girls go to public pools completely naked? It's men's faults if they look!

I mean I would love to get to this place.

Very starship troopers lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I always think of that part of Crazy Stupid Love where Ryan Gosling says, "The war between the sexes is over. We won the second women started doing pole dancing for exercise." As a PP pointed out, AMAZING how the fashion for teen girls (and grown women) is super skimpy. Incredible how that always works.

Wish I could convince my DH to show up to the pool in whatever swimsuit DD picks for herself. Would make the point of how completely silly it looks.

Look, I wore (or tried to wear) stuff my mom didn't like when I was a kid. I liked to wear it so the boys would think I was attractive and the girls would think I was cool (because the boys thought I was attractive). My mom didn't like it because she thought it was trashy (it was usually trashy). Sometimes she was successful, sometimes I removed the safety pin holding the neckline together. No permanent harm was done on either side. So I guess the stakes are fairly low. But no, my daughter is not allowed to wear low-coverage bikini bottoms. She'll either do some thinking about why she really wants to wear these things and what that reflects about our society, or she will hoard some allowance and learn some ingenuity. Either way it's character-building.

It would be nice if there was an easy way to explain to teens that if they want boys to pay attention, NOT wearing the thong would work better. They definitely like seeing the ones who wear the thongs, but they also think they're trashy and WISH they could see more of the ones not in the thong. The girl in the normal bikini will be the one they like, the one in the thong will be seen as the try-hard sl*t.

TBH I'm not sure I'd want to use that explanation. My real ideal (dare to dream!) would be that she chooses what she's most comfortable in without a thought for what will best entice Puberty Paul.

well ideally, yes... but maybe a better way to talk about it is teaching your daughter that looking attractive is not the same as wearing as few clothes as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens do not get assaulted by what they wear or what they say or what they do.

They get assaulted because men think they own woman. That’s it

Stop putting in Brazilian thong bikinis and comparing it to the cheeky bikini bottoms teens are wearing.

Girls wear most things to impress girls and peers. Not about men

You seriously think there’s a difference between labeling one cheeky and the other thong? There are different styles of both but the prime goal for both is showing your ass.