Bumkini

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Summer is here, and the annual battle for what is appropriate to wear to the pool and what isn't is in full swing.
Our daughter insists that all of her friends wear those really cheeks out bikinis, that it is "normal" now, and that we are tyrants for wanting our 15 yo DD's butt behind a suit.
I went to the pool today and evidently she is right to some degree, but I ( we) find it pretty disturbing. Kids her and their age have no idea what goes through the heads of adults, and they live in this world where they are impervious to any form of reason that runs contradictory to their desires ( actually, that isn't just limited to kids nowadays). However, as we have pointed out to her, her desire to but flash people is rooted in something and I doubt it's just a desire to fit in .
We are unfortunate enough to have a sex offender living on our block, and she still resists logic.
Fortunately for us, we are her parents and not her friends, and she will do what we say or lose a lot of her freedom, but I still wonder how many others have faced this?
I would THINK that to wear such swim garments would actually be embarrassing to teens knowing her sibs and parents are likely to show up at the pool at any time.

You need to get a grip on the idea that your 15 year old has a sexual identity and not shame her for it. My father said stuff like this to me and I am still very, very mad at him. The older I get, the more mad I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Summer is here, and the annual battle for what is appropriate to wear to the pool and what isn't is in full swing.
Our daughter insists that all of her friends wear those really cheeks out bikinis, that it is "normal" now, and that we are tyrants for wanting our 15 yo DD's butt behind a suit.
I went to the pool today and evidently she is right to some degree, but I ( we) find it pretty disturbing. Kids her and their age have no idea what goes through the heads of adults, and they live in this world where they are impervious to any form of reason that runs contradictory to their desires ( actually, that isn't just limited to kids nowadays). However, as we have pointed out to her, her desire to but flash people is rooted in something and I doubt it's just a desire to fit in .
We are unfortunate enough to have a sex offender living on our block, and she still resists logic.
Fortunately for us, we are her parents and not her friends, and she will do what we say or lose a lot of her freedom, but I still wonder how many others have faced this?
I would THINK that to wear such swim garments would actually be embarrassing to teens knowing her sibs and parents are likely to show up at the pool at any time.

You should wear a matching suit!!!!!!

Maybe I will just go Full Monty!

[Anonymous]

Too bad OP has a daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her every time she dresses like that some dirty old man will be masturb8ing to that image, killing half a dozen kittens later that night to the memory of her

Dirty old men will masturbate to images of literal children, girls in full Amish clothing, etc.

I do kind of adore the idea that a dirty old man is sitting at home sad because all the teen girls wore full coverage bikinis and now he can’t be a perv.

[Anonymous]

I visited Miami a couple months back and I can tell you, this is what those under 25 are wearing these days. it's the fashion to have the front and the back of the bikini bottom be the same size. I think it's more about embracing body positivity and that comes from growing up during their time and not the 80s like I did. I have two teen girls and although we talk about it, I long ago stopped being responsible for their clothing choices so it's really up to them to navigate it all.

[Anonymous]

LOL @18:32

My teenager wears a cheeky bikini bottom, not a thong. We live at the beach in CA and you see plenty of thongs on the beaches, too, though it tends to be mainly tourists vs the local sporty/surfer/beach volleyball/junior lifeguard instructor population. When we moved here 12 years ago, I was astonished at the amount of skin on display; bathing suits have gotten smaller since then. It's a pendulum -- I assume it'll swing toward more coverage at some point within the next few years.

OP -- take the criticism with a grain of salt. DCUM is rife with parents of younger kids jumping to judge those of us dealing with teenager issues. This is their first rodeo and they haven't encountered the clowns yet...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the fashion and they don't blink an eye at it just like we don't blink an eye at seeing women's ankles when in certain times and cultures it would be horrifying. As for their parents seeing them, they really don't care about that either. Why should they be embarrassed? She doesn't feel like she's flashing people. You do have problems if you find this disturbing.

Go look at a ton of pictures of competitive divers. Go to brazil. This is a you problem and not a her problem. Personally I did a double-take the first few times and now it doesn't even register as a pool norm.

Watching you tie yourself in knots trying to be the cool mom is hysterical.

[Anonymous]

I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her every time she dresses like that some dirty old man will be masturb8ing to that image, killing half a dozen kittens later that night to the memory of her

Dirty old men will masturbate to images of literal children, girls in full Amish clothing, etc.

well at 15 is literally a child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Summer is here, and the annual battle for what is appropriate to wear to the pool and what isn't is in full swing.
Our daughter insists that all of her friends wear those really cheeks out bikinis, that it is "normal" now, and that we are tyrants for wanting our 15 yo DD's butt behind a suit.
I went to the pool today and evidently she is right to some degree, but I ( we) find it pretty disturbing. Kids her and their age have no idea what goes through the heads of adults, and they live in this world where they are impervious to any form of reason that runs contradictory to their desires ( actually, that isn't just limited to kids nowadays). However, as we have pointed out to her, her desire to but flash people is rooted in something and I doubt it's just a desire to fit in .
We are unfortunate enough to have a sex offender living on our block, and she still resists logic.
Fortunately for us, we are her parents and not her friends, and she will do what we say or lose a lot of her freedom, but I still wonder how many others have faced this?
I would THINK that to wear such swim garments would actually be embarrassing to teens knowing her sibs and parents are likely to show up at the pool at any time.

Lol, you are right it is not about fitting in, it actually rooted in fashion and style. You are way off on this. It really is a universal style.

If you dont want her to wear it, she wont but id leave it at that and not accuse her of being perverse for following the trend which will be here multiple seasons. Maybe she has something going on but this is not a good example

wow

[Anonymous]

I hate it too. Best way to turn off the teens is for us old people to start wearing them.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yep my 15yr old is wearing them. Thanks Shein! Honestly they’ll grow out of it and cover up as they get older so I’m kind of like, enjoy while you can! I’m not worried about sex offenders and yes, I do see grown men checking her out (gross) but we’vehad discussions about unwanted advances from boys her own age or older and this is something all women have to be aware of and keep in mind. Tale as old as time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop blaming your child for people being sex offenders.

Do you also think girls and women who showed ankle were tempting sex offenders? What about knees? What about cleavage?

I'd rather support my child and not give in to misogynistic principles that punish girls and women for the behaviour of sick and twisted adults.

THANK YOU!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy