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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy

Op here. I tried to relate a real issue and got flamed by NOw psychos. Thanks to the people who answered kindly. The rest of you need more therapy than you are already getting. Hubby and I are laughing our covered butt's off at ya

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop blaming your child for people being sex offenders.

Do you also think girls and women who showed ankle were tempting sex offenders? What about knees? What about cleavage?

I'd rather support my child and not give in to misogynistic principles that punish girls and women for the behaviour of sick and twisted adults.

THANK YOU!!!

You all are so sick and lonely....and deserve it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are pretty trashy. I assume that any teen wearing this has a mom with dyed hair, over done eyebrows, and really into suburban fashion.

My daughter is wearing them. I’m frumpy with my roots showing and you don’t see me at the pool since I’m dropping her off.

We had this battle in the winter and then went on spring break where we saw a lot of teens and adults in straight up thongs. Her cheeky bathing suit bottom doesn’t seem that bad to me anymore, especially after seeing almost the same coming out of shorts at the bus stop by many all spring. My parents didn’t approve of my clothes back when I was that age. Now I’m the out of touch mom. So she won on the swim suit and I’m picking my battles.

Hey thanks! I love this. No judgement about me, just a great perspective. Maybe it's not so bad

I’m in a similar boat, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay so I’ve spent a fair amount of time thinking about this.

Across cultures and times, the rules about what is an inappropriate level of skin exposure vary widely. Like, as far as they can possibly vary, from burka to fully nude.

The consistent part is that people object to what girls and women are wearing and blame them for the inappropriate sexual thoughts and behaviors of adult men and women.

So I generally feel that people are responsible for their own behavior, and I’m not going to draw any red lines over swimsuit bottoms. I’m going to focus on behavior, like inappropriate flirting with adult men or something like that. Like any social media posts that risk unwanted communication from adult men. If it’s just that she wants her butt cheeks out for fashion, that’s not the hill I’m going to die on.

Great post, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy

Op here. I tried to relate a real issue and got flamed by NOw psychos. Thanks to the people who answered kindly. The rest of you need more therapy than you are already getting. Hubby and I are laughing our covered butt's off at ya

If you are actually the OP, you need to leave your poor daughter alone and get yourself and your “hubby” to therapy. Hopefully you are not OP or not for real.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the same people that want women to wear burkas

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy

Op here. I tried to relate a real issue and got flamed by NOw psychos. Thanks to the people who answered kindly. The rest of you need more therapy than you are already getting. Hubby and I are laughing our covered butt's off at ya

If you are actually the OP, you need to leave your poor daughter alone and get yourself and your “hubby” to therapy. Hopefully you are not OP or not for real.

Therapy is for lovers. Sit there and listen to someone you don't know give you advice about you! Lol. If I was a therapist, I would keep telling people they are screwed up. What's my incentive not to? So I lose business?
I had a concern about my kid and brought it up. This place is just toxic though. It's a few great and honest people amongst a plethora of trolls and lovers who have made nothing of themselves and want to bring others down.
Sad, because the idea of the forum is so good. It is people who screw it up.
If you think me being concerned of how much skin my 15 year old is showing is somehow playing into a misogynistic mindset you are nuts. I live in the real world and have concerns about it. Once again, thanks to the honest and kind replies and the rest of you can take a long walk off a short pier.
I had no idea this would become so acrimonious

[Anonymous]

What I find troubling about it is body positivity and fashion and trends always seem to err on the side of girls and women being half naked while men are well covered.


Hmmmm…pretty convenient.

If this is feminism and body positivity and sticking it to the man, well it kind of sucks.

As for OP, I’d just let her wear it but let her know she might get some comments and looks she doesn’t like and how to handle them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I find troubling about it is body positivity and fashion and trends always seem to err on the side of girls and women being half naked while men are well covered.


Hmmmm…pretty convenient.

If this is feminism and body positivity and sticking it to the man, well it kind of sucks.

As for OP, I’d just let her wear it but let her know she might get some comments and looks she doesn’t like and how to handle them.

Thank you! This is a well reasoned response. I will add though that some women enjoy being barely clad and that is there prerogative as adults.
For my child, though, it is my job to make her think about things and consider reactions.
So thanks again. Really

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I find troubling about it is body positivity and fashion and trends always seem to err on the side of girls and women being half naked while men are well covered.


Hmmmm…pretty convenient.

If this is feminism and body positivity and sticking it to the man, well it kind of sucks.

As for OP, I’d just let her wear it but let her know she might get some comments and looks she doesn’t like and how to handle them.

Rock that banana hammock, and make sure it’s soft enough to not constrain an erection. Body positivity for everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I find troubling about it is body positivity and fashion and trends always seem to err on the side of girls and women being half naked while men are well covered.


Hmmmm…pretty convenient.

If this is feminism and body positivity and sticking it to the man, well it kind of sucks.

As for OP, I’d just let her wear it but let her know she might get some comments and looks she doesn’t like and how to handle them.

Rock that banana hammock, and make sure it’s soft enough to not constrain an erection. Body positivity for everyone!

What's good for the chick is good for the c@ck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy

Op here. I tried to relate a real issue and got flamed by NOw psychos. Thanks to the people who answered kindly. The rest of you need more therapy than you are already getting. Hubby and I are laughing our covered butt's off at ya

If you are actually the OP, you need to leave your poor daughter alone and get yourself and your “hubby” to therapy. Hopefully you are not OP or not for real.

Therapy is for lovers. Sit there and listen to someone you don't know give you advice about you! Lol. If I was a therapist, I would keep telling people they are screwed up. What's my incentive not to? So I lose business?
I had a concern about my kid and brought it up. This place is just toxic though. It's a few great and honest people amongst a plethora of trolls and lovers who have made nothing of themselves and want to bring others down.
Sad, because the idea of the forum is so good. It is people who screw it up.
If you think me being concerned of how much skin my 15 year old is showing is somehow playing into a misogynistic mindset you are nuts. I live in the real world and have concerns about it. Once again, thanks to the honest and kind replies and the rest of you can take a long walk off a short pier.
I had no idea this would become so acrimonious

If you listen to the sincere posters here and read your original post, you will hopefully begin to understand that you are playing into and exhibiting a misogynistic mindset. But if you think therapy is only for lovers (and losers?), I don’t hold out a lot of hope. It’s for all the people who want to do better in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the fashion and they don't blink an eye at it just like we don't blink an eye at seeing women's ankles when in certain times and cultures it would be horrifying. As for their parents seeing them, they really don't care about that either. Why should they be embarrassed? She doesn't feel like she's flashing people. You do have problems if you find this disturbing.

Go look at a ton of pictures of competitive divers. Go to brazil. This is a you problem and not a her problem. Personally I did a double-take the first few times and now it doesn't even register as a pool norm.

A) just because it happens in Brazil doesn't make it right

B) it's not at all like women showing ankles, it's showing almost all of a body part that is sexually arousing regardless of cultural norms

C) she's not responsible for the disturbing thoughts of others, but others are having disturbing thoughts, she is being objectified, she is being disrespected, she is being thought less of and given social media habits of her male peers, photos of her doing something she views as quite innocent may well be winding up in some weird and creepy places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned by op commenting that she told her daughter she has deep rooted issues for wanting to wear these bottoms.

Exactly. She is just trying to pass along her deep rooted issues to her poor kids. It’s disgusting. She needs therapy

Op here. I tried to relate a real issue and got flamed by NOw psychos. Thanks to the people who answered kindly. The rest of you need more therapy than you are already getting. Hubby and I are laughing our covered butt's off at ya

If you are actually the OP, you need to leave your poor daughter alone and get yourself and your “hubby” to therapy. Hopefully you are not OP or not for real.

Therapy is for lovers. Sit there and listen to someone you don't know give you advice about you! Lol. If I was a therapist, I would keep telling people they are screwed up. What's my incentive not to? So I lose business?
I had a concern about my kid and brought it up. This place is just toxic though. It's a few great and honest people amongst a plethora of trolls and lovers who have made nothing of themselves and want to bring others down.
Sad, because the idea of the forum is so good. It is people who screw it up.
If you think me being concerned of how much skin my 15 year old is showing is somehow playing into a misogynistic mindset you are nuts. I live in the real world and have concerns about it. Once again, thanks to the honest and kind replies and the rest of you can take a long walk off a short pier.
I had no idea this would become so acrimonious

If you listen to the sincere posters here and read your original post, you will hopefully begin to understand that you are playing into and exhibiting a misogynistic mindset. But if you think therapy is only for lovers (and losers?), I don’t hold out a lot of hope. It’s for all the people who want to do better in life.

OP doesn't want advice. She just wants to argue. If you criticize her, she gets all thin-skinned. I wouldn't bother trying to help her. I just feel bad for her DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I find troubling about it is body positivity and fashion and trends always seem to err on the side of girls and women being half naked while men are well covered.


Hmmmm…pretty convenient.

If this is feminism and body positivity and sticking it to the man, well it kind of sucks.

As for OP, I’d just let her wear it but let her know she might get some comments and looks she doesn’t like and how to handle them.

And body positivity doesn't mean you HAVE to display your body, it means you shouldn't feel ashamed of your body. Being proud of who you are and what you look like has nothing to do with whether or not you were skimpy clothes.