You walk into an OB office and sit next to a couple crying...

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It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.

What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.

What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.

I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not enough that they get attention by crying in the waiting room, but they need all the additional attention by posting this on DCUM.
Your public cry for attention didn't work, and now you are mad.

What happened to you sucks, but demanding all this public sympathy isn't goi f to change your situation.

I was crying for the baby I very much wanted and was dead in my belly. My husband was crying. He's not an emotional person. This isn't some kind of cry for attention, I was in actual pain.

Don’t bother responding to cruel bullies like this. They may learn to be human someday.

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The person knitting might have been worried about their own sh*t. What were you paying enough attention to them to know exactly what they were knitting. I genuinely feel like this post is insane.

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Anonymous wrote:The person knitting might have been worried about their own sh*t. What were you paying enough attention to them to know exactly what they were knitting. I genuinely feel like this post is insane.

Plus OP seems to think the knitter was knitting something for OPs baby. Was the knitter even pregnant?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine to knit in a waiting room. Or read a baby book. Or scroll through pictures on your phone of your kids. Or watch your baby while you wait for an appointment. Not everything is about you.

I have a specialist appointment that requires me to walk through the "special" pregnancy area. The office keeps rescheduling my appointment and now I have no childcare. Am I am evil witch demon if I bring my three kids?

Are you sure you can even bring 3 kids? Some have a strict no kids policy and you will have to reschedule again.

Regular OB offices have no rules against kids. Maybe REs?

He's a specialist surgeon with an office in the giant floor with all the hospital OB offices. I had childcare lined up for the first appointment. If they want to reschedule with 3 weeks notice, then kids are coming.

Good luck with that. I know when I get a mammogram there are NO kids allowed. How can you focus on the doctor with 3 kids right next to you? They don't want kids around either so I'd check if I were you before wasting your time.

Do people getting mammograms typically have small children?
How can you tell somebody getting care for a C section complication to not bring kids? Crazy world we live in

Mammograms are recommended for age 40+ (tell me you don’t live in the dc area without telling me…)

I live in commie paradise Canada, where they dont do screening colonoscopies either

Ha- I assumed you were just questioning the idea of women 40+ having young children but didn’t know that about Canada and mammograms

I thought they were walking back from screening mammograms at 40 because a large study showed they don't decrease mortality

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OP, I think you should stop reading the responses. This isn’t good for your mental health.

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I haven't read all the replies, but there are any number of things in an OB's office that could be triggering, like heavily pregnant women, the new mom magazines, or photo collages of babies the OB has delivered.

My question is why the OB's office doesn't have a more compassionate place for grieving people to wait?

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I think it would be very uncomfortable for pregnant moms to have a crying person in the waiting room. The OB should have given you a private space to cry. I am sure miscarriages or unviable pregnancies are not rare occurrences in their business.

I've lost many and at no time was I offered a private space.

Ditto. And after one, the OB said “oh well, better luck next time” and walked out. Granted it was 11 weeks not 16. But I have never forgotten it.

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I think it would be very uncomfortable for pregnant moms to have a crying person in the waiting room. The OB should have given you a private space to cry. I am sure miscarriages or unviable pregnancies are not rare occurrences in their business.

I've lost many and at no time was I offered a private space.

Ditto. And after one, the OB said “oh well, better luck next time” and walked out. Granted it was 11 weeks not 16. But I have never forgotten it.

OBs are only sensitive to $$$.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you literally show up at the doctors office crying hysterically after you miscarried? That is crazy. 70 percent of pregnancies miscarry. Sorry it didn’t work out the first time for you. Was a bummer each time for me too. But I didn’t go around making public disturbances.

I've been miscarrying for 3 years and in no way is miscarrying in the second trimester something normal, but thanks for your assumptions. Regardless of my losses, I would treat anyone with a miscarriage with compassion, but I'm not a monster.

Are you saying the knitting woman was not treating OP compassionately?

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Anonymous wrote:The world does not revolve around you.

They probably didn’t even notice you.

Thanks for the kind words. My dead 15 week baby also thanks you.

I think it would be very uncomfortable for pregnant moms to have a crying person in the waiting room. The OB should have given you a private space to cry. I am sure miscarriages or unviable pregnancies are not rare occurrences in their business.

I've lost many and at no time was I offered a private space.

Ditto. And after one, the OB said “oh well, better luck next time” and walked out. Granted it was 11 weeks not 16. But I have never forgotten it.

OBs are only sensitive to $$$.

Try to keep an office running while making enough $$ to pay your staff and overhead, and enough to pay back your massive student loans, then get back to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I've been where you are. The misdirected anger doesn't help at all. Trust me. I lashed out so much during my grief at people who didn't deserve it (even when they did something wrong, my reaction was over the top). All it did was prolong my grieving because instead of dealing with my loss, I just redirected my feelings into my anger at others.

This, times 10000. This is exactly what’s going on, OP. Yes, you are being irrational here…but, no judgment, I get it

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Anonymous wrote:It sucks - but it’s an awkward place. I was told I had HPV and then had to sit a waiting room with all these pregnant people.

Women. Pregnant women.

Everything isn’t a culture war statement and you should not be policing language like the woke, either. I’m a woman not a bleeder, but was also just speaking colloquially there.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you have a lot of anger at the situation and also jealousy. All of it is very understandable, but this person was not trying to hurt you and could not have known what was going on. I’m sorry for your loss.

I was DEVESTATED, my husband, a military officer was crying. We lost our baby. It was dead in my body.

Why assume anyone crying in the OB office is crying because of a dead baby or infertility?

Going on with their knitting is the least nosy thing they could do.

What else is there to cry about at an OB office with a partner there? Cancer? Either way, it's not good news if someone is crying in a medical office.

So, every one else at the waiting room needs to stop doing what they were doing and bring tissue papers to the crying people? In this country, you will be told to MYOB.