I want my thread removed after your write up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Yeah, he summarized one thread that I was active on once, on a topic that is very raw for me, and described me in an unkind way. Maybe I am being too sensitive, but it hurt my feelings and made me feel bad about being on DCUM.

+1. I agree. I didn’t like his take on a very real problem on this site about bashing of evangelicals, etc. It just makes the site even more haughty and unpleasant
+1 I've also been hurt by some of his summaries, particularly when he was dismissive of a post I put a great deal of thought into. If you post on a topic he has little patience for or strong beliefs about and your views don't match his, you might wind up feeling anywhere between ignored, mischaracterized, or even mocked.

Yeah. And this is especially bad when DCUM already tends towards pile-ons anyway. I'm not sure why Jeff would want to take the role of being part of the pile-ons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

TIL Jeff summarizes threads.

[jsteele]

Someone mentioned this earlier but just to reiterate and provide receipts, I have previously not deleted a thread because it was one that was included in my daily blog post:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1104592.page

The poster who requested that the thread be deleted was pretty understanding.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, Jeff, I can see how difficult it is to have an unclear thread-deletion policy. Precedent is largely what people expect. But your definition seems reasonable, just not well known.

This is an anonymous forum, so what one gains in anonymity one gives up in ownership. We don’t individually own the threads we start, we collectively own them. Deletion is a courtesy to the OP, not a right. And a reasonable bar is that when a thread is popular enough to appear in the blog, the value to the majority outweighs the consideration to the OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW, Jeff, while I enjoy your write-ups, I admit to having experienced a sick feeling in my stomach when you once discussed a thread I started. I'd already been roasted for what was a genuine question/problem on my end, and reading your characterization of my travails was difficult.

I've been online since Usenet days, so I know how to move forward with a thicker skin. However, I've been loath since then to share personal issues. What I notice happening lately is an abundance of what are clearly, to me, troll threads. I don't remember such a troll takeover as I've been seeing. It is likely unrelated to your recaps, but it's something I've noticed.

Usenet! Which groups?

I was active in the rec.arts.sf.tv.babylon5 group for Babylon 5, where the creator used to post, and later on the Buffy and Angel groups. I was also active in variety of alt.support groups for parenting issues. I read but rarely commented in news (can't remember the specific group). How about you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:FWIW, Jeff, while I enjoy your write-ups, I admit to having experienced a sick feeling in my stomach when you once discussed a thread I started. I'd already been roasted for what was a genuine question/problem on my end, and reading your characterization of my travails was difficult.

I've been online since Usenet days, so I know how to move forward with a thicker skin. However, I've been loath since then to share personal issues. What I notice happening lately is an abundance of what are clearly, to me, troll threads. I don't remember such a troll takeover as I've been seeing. It is likely unrelated to your recaps, but it's something I've noticed.

Usenet! Which groups?

I was active in the rec.arts.sf.tv.babylon5 group for Babylon 5, where the creator used to post, and later on the Buffy and Angel groups. I was also active in variety of alt.support groups for parenting issues. I read but rarely commented in news (can't remember the specific group). How about you?

DP. I was on rec.pets.dogs.*. Actually met some people from there IRL, and online friends with many still, decades later.

[Anonymous]

*grabs popcorn*

This is probably my favorite section of the forums.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, Jeff, while I enjoy your write-ups, I admit to having experienced a sick feeling in my stomach when you once discussed a thread I started. I'd already been roasted for what was a genuine question/problem on my end, and reading your characterization of my travails was difficult.

I've been online since Usenet days, so I know how to move forward with a thicker skin. However, I've been loath since then to share personal issues. What I notice happening lately is an abundance of what are clearly, to me, troll threads. I don't remember such a troll takeover as I've been seeing. It is likely unrelated to your recaps, but it's something I've noticed.

Usenet! Which groups?

I was active in the rec.arts.sf.tv.babylon5 group for Babylon 5, where the creator used to post, and later on the Buffy and Angel groups. I was also active in variety of alt.support groups for parenting issues. I read but rarely commented in news (can't remember the specific group). How about you?

Mostly nerdy stuff. IBM/AIX/physics. I also followed the dogs group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, Jeff, while I enjoy your write-ups, I admit to having experienced a sick feeling in my stomach when you once discussed a thread I started. I'd already been roasted for what was a genuine question/problem on my end, and reading your characterization of my travails was difficult.

I've been online since Usenet days, so I know how to move forward with a thicker skin. However, I've been loath since then to share personal issues. What I notice happening lately is an abundance of what are clearly, to me, troll threads. I don't remember such a troll takeover as I've been seeing. It is likely unrelated to your recaps, but it's something I've noticed.

Usenet! Which groups?

I was active in the rec.arts.sf.tv.babylon5 group for Babylon 5, where the creator used to post, and later on the Buffy and Angel groups. I was also active in variety of alt.support groups for parenting issues. I read but rarely commented in news (can't remember the specific group). How about you?

DP. I was on rec.pets.dogs.*. Actually met some people from there IRL, and online friends with many still, decades later.

Funny - I was on there too, as a grad student longing for a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

OP is the author of her own distress. She conveyed a profound lack of self-awareness and introspection in her thread and has only doubled down. No one is obligated to play along with her victimhood and I'm guessing that has something to do with why her son hasn't told her a thing about his girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

Exactly. Jeff refusing to remove the thread is a really bad look for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

OP is the author of her own distress. She conveyed a profound lack of self-awareness and introspection in her thread and has only doubled down. No one is obligated to play along with her victimhood and I'm guessing that has something to do with why her son hasn't told her a thing about his girlfriend.

I agree. Clearly Jeff feels the same way, since he did a write-up about this thread this morning!

Hilarious. Yes, I'm mean, but OP really shouldn't have whined in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

OP is the author of her own distress. She conveyed a profound lack of self-awareness and introspection in her thread and has only doubled down. No one is obligated to play along with her victimhood and I'm guessing that has something to do with why her son hasn't told her a thing about his girlfriend.

Ok well I guess Jeff deciding to perpetuate and enjoy this is on-brand for the “mommy fight site.” the thing about Jeff is that he clearly aspires to be seen as a good guy and for DCUM to have some modicum of a reputation as a socially useful service. But joining pile-ons, refusing to delete a distressed person’s post (with potentially identifying personal info) makes Jeff closer to 4-Chan and Kiwi Farms than Reddit. Not sure that is what his is going for. PS: reputable social media sites allow people to delete content.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

OP is the author of her own distress. She conveyed a profound lack of self-awareness and introspection in her thread and has only doubled down. No one is obligated to play along with her victimhood and I'm guessing that has something to do with why her son hasn't told her a thing about his girlfriend.

I agree. Clearly Jeff feels the same way, since he did a write-up about this thread this morning!

Hilarious. Yes, I'm mean, but OP really shouldn't have whined in the first place.

That is some really nasty behavior by Jeff. Wow.