I want my thread removed after your write up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about everybody who thinks Jeff shouldn't state his own views on this thread, or others that they deem sensitive, just leave DCUM and lets see how much the numbers go down. I predict zero since those of you taking the time to criticize Jeff are just as invested in this forum as the rest of us and you aren't going anywhere are you!

I mean, I’m not the one who owns the site whose reputation is at stake.

You clearly overestimate DCUM's status in the real world. It's entertainment. Pure and simple. Who gives a F about it's "reputation".

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

Omg you are just too much. I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

You are absolutely reveling in this, aren’t you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

I believe this is your 3rd or 4th “goodbye forever”?

[Anonymous]

So strange...I feel like this needs a true crime podcast to get to the bottom of all of this.

Team Jeff btw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

Lady, you're taking yourself too seriously.

[Anonymous]

Who makes a post planning to ask that it be deleted? That's interesting.

The hole digging is being done by you op. You keep repeating, like a 5 year old with your hands over your ears, that Jeff has doxed and bullied you.

Where has he doxed you? Where have you been identified?

Please do go away but I doubt you actually will. Your posts sound very much like another poster who posts things that are guaranteed to get a reaction. That poster then gets the vapors when people react to her posts and complains about being attacked and doxed even though they aren't. Admit it, you;ve done this before here and you get a kick out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

Neat. No one cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

Exactly. Jeff refusing to remove the thread is a really bad look for him.

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

Exactly. Jeff refusing to remove the thread is a really bad look for him.

The thing is, Jeff probably would have if OP would have just asked nicely and explained the situation like people normally do instead of immediately launching into crazy accusations of cyberbullying and doxxing. OP is getting what she deserves, which is nothing.

“Just ask nicely or I will join the site anonymous pile-on of a distressed poster” is also not a good look for a site owner reaching for credibility.

How many times are you going to re-comment, “pile-on” poster? We got it the first four times. And yes, you are the same person.

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Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Promise?

Wow, you people are asses. Op (or former Op) is clearly in distress. For goodness sake, remove the thread and leave her alone. How sad all of you are, and pathetic.

Exactly. Jeff refusing to remove the thread is a really bad look for him.

The thing is, Jeff probably would have if OP would have just asked nicely and explained the situation like people normally do instead of immediately launching into crazy accusations of cyberbullying and doxxing. OP is getting what she deserves, which is nothing.

“Just ask nicely or I will join the site anonymous pile-on of a distressed poster” is also not a good look for a site owner reaching for credibility.

Is Jeff reaching for credibility? I think he's just doing his thing and not letting one crazy woman scold him and tell him what to do as if she is his boss or his mom.

Yes, Jeff wants to be credible and distinguish DCUM from sites like Fairfax Underground. Arbitrary policies like “I won’t delete your thread because I don’t like you and am enjoying the pile-on” puts him squarely in the Kiwi Farms ambit.

You are being ludicrous. I explained why I won't remove the thread which has no relation to what you are explaining. Comparing DCUM even on its worst day to Fairfax Underground or Kiwi Farms destroys any credibility you think you may have had. I am not sure why you are devoting yourself to criticizing me today, but you are doing nothing but providing further exposure to this thread. If you care about the OP, you would stop posting. If you want to hurt me, find another site to use.

Sorry Jeff. It’s true. It’s a very bad look for you to refuse to delete a very personal thread that is distressing the OP and generating a pile-on. It’s not at all clear what you are trying to accomplish.

DCUM Drinking Game: Everyone, do a shot every time this person yet again posts the world “pile-on!”

Wait, no, don’t. Think of your liver.

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Anonymous wrote:How about everybody who thinks Jeff shouldn't state his own views on this thread, or others that they deem sensitive, just leave DCUM and lets see how much the numbers go down. I predict zero since those of you taking the time to criticize Jeff are just as invested in this forum as the rest of us and you aren't going anywhere are you!

I mean, I’m not the one who owns the site whose reputation is at stake.

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm just posting a reply to bump numbers because I'd love to see Jeff will make a very meta post in his hot topics summary tomorrow. I never knew about the original thread until it this thread showed up in Recent Topics.

I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

Oh, Lord, it’s “nothingburger” poster again. Just stop. It’s not 1996 anymore.

P.S. “Bye, Felicia” and “I said what I said” aren’t things anymore either.

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I already posted the meta post today. This thread was number 3. Absolutely eclipsed by a thread in Family Relationships that had twice as many posts.

Why isn’t there a report button on your meta posts?/s I’m curious about this feedback thread. How many are repeat snarky posters? This is my second post. First was supportive of OP. I eventually read yesterday’s summary. You gave a fair summary of the OP, but then accused her of being a troll. Why? There was only one poster who declared troll in the OP. Most of the comments were benign. Honestly, the thread was a nothingburger, and wasn’t really worthy of a recap. IIRC, there was a poster in OP who wanted to know what a child would look like if parents were a mix of Caucasian/blue eyed and South Asian/Indian decent. You assumed it was OP asking, but I don’t think it was. Regardless, why does it matter?

You’ve been much kinder in the past. I’ve been much kinder, too. There’s a new crop of belligerents on your site. I’m not on as often because it’s become tedious and disjointed. I don’t report much. I skip to last page, another thread, or leave. Much respect to you for a great site. We’ll agree to disagree on the treatment of OP. Be the gentleman you’ve always been. Much better look.

I'll try to answer as many of your questions as I can. I don't know how many repeat snarky posters are participating in this thread and don't want to take the time to find out. I didn't exactly accuse the OP of being a troll. What I wrote was, "The troll/not troll scales got tipped a bit further in the direction of 'troll'". I didn't make clear in my summary, but I received multiple reports asking if that thread was a troll. There have been a bunch of threads involving Indians, especially in the relationship forum. Some posters believe they are all, or at least mostly, meant to be anti-Indian. Others think they are just clueless white people. Regardless, threads involving Indians tend to get reported either for trolling or for being anti-Indian. That one got reported for suspected trolling. The comment about what a baby might look like was from the OP. There were two replies to that comment suggesting that the poster was a troll. I assumed that most posters would guess that was posted by the OP. Your comment makes me think I was wrong. If I did something to deserve the OP's anger, it was probably revealing that she had made that comment. I don't choose which threads are included in my daily posts. I run a data base query to determine which threads received the most replies the day before. Many times I don't think the threads deserve coverage either and that is reflected in my commentary.

I’m the original poster, the clueless mum you continue to cyberbully instead of just deleting all of this.

I have to chime in because I think you’re taking advantage of my absence to mislead and gaslight in an effort dig yourself out of this hole, which has exposed you as an unethical bully who won’t hesitate to casually and cruelly break precedent, dox, and smear “anonymous” parents who post here.

I reported my own thread for removal *before* I made this thread. Twice, I believe. To be clear, I created the original thread with the full intention I would ask for it to be removed—per your forum’s well-established precedent—because it’s a touchy subject, I didn’t want to offend anyone, I figured there would be some personal attacks no matter how delicate I tried to be, and I didn’t want to dox my family to satisfy my own indulgent curiosity.

I would have reported it the night prior but I thought someone may post something insightful while I slept, so I figured I’d request its removal when I got a moment that next morning.

After you ignored the removal requests that morning, I saw your purposely cruel editorialized blog post and for sure wanted it gone because you were ridiculing me for content and highlighting a thread I asked to be removed. You broke precedent and ignored my requests so you could dox my anonymous post(s) and cyberbully me, a random mum, and smear me as a liar (“troll”), while you hide behind disingenuous “snark”. You also locked the thread to bolster your false smear that I’m a liar (“troll”) and made sure to note that in your disingenuous “summary” to create a false narrative and smear my character. For what, a cheap laugh? A few thousand extra clicks, which might make you a few bucks? That’s all your reputation is worth?

I want nothing to do with your forum. I will never post here again. I hope this thread is your most popular feedback ever so more kind people can read it and see your true devious nature and think twice about giving you “anonymous” content you’ll consider exploiting and cyberbullying them with. Great work eroding trust and integrity you built up over many years to stick it to me.

Wish you well. Goodbye.

This isn’t the airport. No need to announce your departure.