How do I tell my daughter's partner to back off?

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Anonymous wrote:OP can not like the situation, but she really shouldn't do anything about it. Her daughter is an adult. After college, I moved in with my boyfriend, I was 22. I'm sure my parents weren't thrilled, but they didn't say anything, and anyway what could they say? I had a job and was paying all my own rent and bills, I was completely supporting myself. I'm glad they didn't share reservations if they had any, because 30 years later that boyfriend is my husband and we have children. So if OP does say something, and the relationship becomes long term, she could potentially be shooting herself in the foot.

I'm not planning on saying anything to my daughter. She's done nothing wrong. She's the victim, here, and is too young to realize that. Her boyfriend's the one who oughta know better. It's HIS responsibility to end this inappropriate relationship. That's why I'm planning on talking to him, and him alone.

Let us know how it goes! And how your relationship with your daughter progresses!

I'll understand if she's mad at me now. But when she's about 26 or 27, she'll understand that I was just doing my job as her father.

Enjoy not seeing her or any future grandkids, you controlling loon.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly 23 year old men are pretty immature. What’s the real reason you don’t like him, OP?

He’s probably a different race. OP will deny it, of course, because anonymous message board, but there you go.

OP here. He is not of a different race, so there's that theory debunked.

No, there’s the anonymous lie, just as predicted.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not be happy if my 23 year old daughter was dating a 29 year old, but I wouldn't say anything. I would say something if a 33 year old tried to date my 19 year old daughter. My father and uncles certainly would have put a stop to it when I was 19 by taking the guy behind the woodshed for a good talking to.

What kind of Joh Deere Hillbilly YeeHaw nonsense is this?

If they tried doing that in 2023, they’d be arrested.

Nobody would know.🤫

Grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...

Where did I imply that I hate women? On the contrary, I feel that I, as a man, have a duty to protect the women in my life.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

Light years measure distance, not time. Jesus, you’re dumb. You have no business telling someone else how to live their life when you don’t understand basic facts.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

Who’s the girl? Because no one over the age of 18 is a “girl.”

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...

Where did I imply that I hate women? On the contrary, I feel that I, as a man, have a duty to protect the women in my life.

Troll and misogynistic a**

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...

Where did I imply that I hate women? On the contrary, I feel that I, as a man, have a duty to protect the women in my life.

Dude, that IS the definition of misogyny.

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Di you want to explain what's wrong with your daughter that at 23 she is incapable of carrying out normal social relationships with her peers?

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

Who’s the girl? Because no one over the age of 18 is a “girl.”

To anyone over 27, 23 should seem like a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

Who’s the girl? Because no one over the age of 18 is a “girl.”

To anyone over 27, 23 should seem like a kid.

What???

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

The mere act of dating a girl lightyears younger than him is what he HAS done.

Who’s the girl? Because no one over the age of 18 is a “girl.”

To anyone over 27, 23 should seem like a kid.

If your child goes to a large public university or any urban school I can guarantee they will have some classmates who are 25+, with a sampling of 30+ year olds. What are you going to do then?

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Dude, you're the creepy one by infantalizing your daughter to such a degree.
Honestly, all my alarm bells are ringing with your explanations here. Ew!

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...

Where did I imply that I hate women? On the contrary, I feel that I, as a man, have a duty to protect the women in my life.

You want to control. Why does she need protection? From what? You are a control freak and if your daughter doesn't hate you now. She will if you persist in your present mission.