How do I tell my daughter's partner to back off?

[Anonymous]

Serious question, op: how old are you and your wife?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...

Where did I imply that I hate women? On the contrary, I feel that I, as a man, have a duty to protect the women in my life.

That's even worse than hating women...you honestly think the fair sex can't make a decision on their own without getting hysterical, swooning, and needing the vapors? This is 2023, not 1823 or 1923. But I'm pretty sure you are a troll anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

You don't think much of your child and her judgment and discernment. How sad for her and you.

[Anonymous]

I think OP’s a troll but I, and most normal people, agree with his sentiments more than the weirdos who dated or married 10 yrs + older. You’d have to have mental problems to be 19 and want to be with a 30 year old.

[Anonymous]

OMG, OP. I was a 23 yo dating a 29 yo whom I met at law school. He is now my husband. BACK OFF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, op: how old are you and your wife?

I was 31 and she was 27 when we met. Still, this was the nineties. Many people on here weren't even around then. Those were different times, a different world. How people age has changed drastically since then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, op: how old are you and your wife?

I was 31 and she was 27 when we met. Still, this was the nineties. Many people on here weren't even around then. Those were different times, a different world. How people age has changed drastically since then.

Yeah. You sound like someone who thinks womenfolk need extra looking after by their male relations and who thinks light years measure time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP’s a troll but I, and most normal people, agree with his sentiments more than the weirdos who dated or married 10 yrs + older. You’d have to have mental problems to be 19 and want to be with a 30 year old.

A 19-year-old is too young to understand just how inappropriate a relationship with a 30-year-old would be. It's up to the 30-year-old to not engage in such a relationship, particularly if said 30-year-old is male.