How do I tell my daughter's partner to back off?

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

If your 23 year old is socially and emotionally mature, that’s on you, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

If your 23 year old is socially and emotionally mature, that’s on you, OP.

That's how most 23-year-old women are these days.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

If your 23 year old is socially and emotionally mature, that’s on you, OP.

That's how most 23-year-old women are these days.

I know plenty of 23 year old women who are articulate, hardworking , and mature. Not sure why dating someone a handful of years older is considered immature

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Your daughter is a grown adult!

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23 year old women are far more mature than men of the same age.

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I am in my late 40s. I came close to getting married at her agr and the guy would not have been the worst choice.

Life is long and many things change but the experience of your parents telling you, as an adult, that they don’t trust your decisions about your own life will last forever. Pipe down OP.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

Yeah but most men are a few years behind maturity wise so they are essentially the same age

That's odd. I don't know any young men who blow half their earnings on clothes and makeup.

How about cars and guitars?

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I got married at 24 to my 30 year old husband …. So it all worked out for us

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

Yeah but most men are a few years behind maturity wise so they are essentially the same age

That's odd. I don't know any young men who blow half their earnings on clothes and makeup.

How about cars and guitars?

And video games

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

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Well OP Dad, is it really the age that bothers you or the fact that he's at that age and maybe still working a dead end retail job? That is, is it his age combined with his prospects in life?

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Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

First your daughter is an adult and it's none of your business. Second why don't you tell your daughter to back off? I predict if they marry they'll cut off contact with uou right away.

That would be completely unfair of me. She's too young to realize how inappropriate this relationship is. Her growna** boyfriend, on the other hand, knows full well that this is unacceptable.

Explain to me, like I'm 5, why this is an issue. Your daughter presumably went to college, graduated, has a job, and an apartment where she pays her own bills.

Help me understand how this growna** WOMAN is a victim of a man who is in the same decade of life as she is. I'll wait.

I'm not talking about her academic or financial achievements. I'm talking about the social and emotional immaturity of her and most women her age.

So, you can’t explain how she would be a victim. She’d blow a 23 yo man, btw. And do the do.

I’m guessing you are remembering *yourself* at 29 and you were a disgusting pig. That’s not age, that’s character.

I knew better than to mess with the minds of young women.

You still haven’t said how she is going to be a victim. What is he going to DO?

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Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? They’re six years apart. Seems totally within the realm of normal to me. And the dd is 23 - not 19. By the time you’re 23, you’re just in “young adult” territory. Compared with 19 year olds, who are still kids.

I met Dh when I was 22 and he was 26. There was absolutely nothing weird about this. Together 24 years now. Great friendship and partnership.

I call troll - Otherwise OP is one misogynistic piece of shit talking about 23 year old women being more like 14 year olds, unable to make their own choices and being a victim because they are dating a man only a few years older than them...