How do I tell my daughter's partner to back off?

[Anonymous]

My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

[Anonymous]

Where do you live OP?

[Anonymous]

this is a ridiculous post.

Mind your own business. Just for reference, what is your age and your husband's age?

[Anonymous]

You sound insane (sorry)

[Anonymous]

Just wait til you DD finds out what you are trying to do

[Anonymous]

You want to tell you 23 yo who she can date? Good luck to you. Please let us know how that goes.

Also, why is it "pretty gross?"

[Anonymous]

You’re right of course OP, guys who target younger women are doing it because younger women are naive, but it really isn’t your job to insert yourself. You can’t control her or him. Hopefully she’s not as naive as he hopes thanks to your good parenting.

[Anonymous]

Is there anything else wrong with him?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

OP you are a nightmare. I see very little communication between you and your daughter in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

You don’t do this. It’s not your place. And you are entirely 💯 in the wrong. You also risk doing irreparable harm to your relationship with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

This is a troll!! My mother encouraged me to date older guys when I was early 20s because she thought they'd have more money and be more ready to commit. I wasted time with guys my own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

What?! My father was 33 when he and my mother got married and she was 20! This means he was dating her when she was 19--barely of age. I guess you would have had him jailed.

Why don't you tell your daughter's boyfriend to back off and don't be surprised when your daughter tells you where to go?

You are crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter has been dating this man for a month now and I just found out that he's 29. Now, I know that he's not legally doing anything wrong, but for him to date a woman that much younger than him is still pretty gross, and he should know better. By the time I was 29, 23 already seemed very juvenile to me, and I wouldn't have even dared to considered dating someone so young.

Now, I already know what you're going to say; that most women his age are already married, so he has no choice but to date substantially younger women. To that I just have to say that that's kind of his own fault. If getting married was so important to him, he should've started looking for potential spouses in his early 20s. That said, single women his age do exist, and he can find them using online dating apps.

What?! My father was 33 when he and my mother got married and she was 20! This means he was dating her when she was 19--barely of age. I guess you would have had him jailed.

Why don't you tell your daughter's boyfriend to back off and don't be surprised when your daughter tells you where to go?

You are crazy

Things were different in those days. Mathematically, this had to have happened before 1990. People in their early 20s were very mature back then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a nightmare. I see very little communication between you and your daughter in the future.

That might be true for the time being. But when she's older and more mature, she'll look back and realize that she was a victim of this relationship; sort of like Karen Allen in Raiders of the Lost Ark.