I do not like the parent population at my kids school

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

DP. Idk. I’m not at all part of the social mom crowd but at sports events I politely nod to people at most. I’m there to watch the game! I don’t think I’ve even ever noticed who is sitting with someone else.

I’m puzzled by what people are reporting here. Not doubting it, just puzzled by how it even happens.

Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

Do you think you may be overestimating how much effort they are actually putting in to exclude you?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

DP. Idk. I’m not at all part of the social mom crowd but at sports events I politely nod to people at most. I’m there to watch the game! I don’t think I’ve even ever noticed who is sitting with someone else.

I’m puzzled by what people are reporting here. Not doubting it, just puzzled by how it even happens.

I think some people clearly care about this more than others. Some people are happily loners or don't feel the need to be part of a clique.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

Do you think you may be overestimating how much effort they are actually putting in to exclude you?

I am not the op but I am capable of empathizing with her.

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Some people feeling surprised by OP’s post may have grown up in this area and/or be part of the problem.

I really don’t want to be friends with the cliquish parents, but I get sad when I get totally ignored. It shows a basic lack of courtesy. I am sad my kids are growing in this environment. They seem fine and are well liked so far, but they may pick the general ethos of this area at some point and/or be ignored as well at some point.

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Why don't men have ever this types of issues? DH walks in and 30 minutes later he's chatting away with some stranger..

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't men have ever this types of issues? DH walks in and 30 minutes later he's chatting away with some stranger..

I don’t think men use the cold shoulder as much as women do. I’ve receive the cold shoulder from women at a Big 3. I don’t take it personally but it does make it uncomfortable year after year when we have to treat each other like strangers. I could never get past “Hi” without realizing these women do not want to associate with me at all. They treat other people like this too. This also happens in public school but I think I see it more in private.

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We were the people who pulled up to our kids’ private in a used Toyota minivan and whose kids started later in the game. Some parents were lovely but others had no use for us. It always felt just icky. Love our public high school now where parents are only concerned about their kids’ happiness first, grades second, and make/model of car or address not at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

DP. Idk. I’m not at all part of the social mom crowd but at sports events I politely nod to people at most. I’m there to watch the game! I don’t think I’ve even ever noticed who is sitting with someone else.

I’m puzzled by what people are reporting here. Not doubting it, just puzzled by how it even happens.

Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

Yet, it is the private school thread. More evidence that you're a troll trying to stir up trouble. Your head aches because you are a liar and lying sucks out all of your energy.

Bye bye, troll. Don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.

Wow. I hope you’re not a mom at any of my kids schools. Keep it trashy Pp.

Huh? PP is right. OP is a douche and a troll.

DP. I’ve actually been to several sporting events and back to school events this year and believe it or not I’ve heard other parents say they like the school but don’t like the parent community at our school either. These are friends that say it in confidence so maybe it’s not something they would announce but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for you to believe? And yes we are at a big three and I know several people that don’t like the parent community and are literally counting the days until their kid graduates.

I think some of the pp are clearly part of the mean parent group and are afraid they are being publicly called out although no one is naming schools so I think maybe a guilty conscience needs no accuser? Otherwise there is no explanation for their responses.

Do you all lack reading comprehension?

Seriously. I can’t understand how people can miss so much when they read. This seems … quite clear.

I don’t think anyone really cares whether op is a Troll or not because several other people are sharing their own experiences so people are responding to those. You need to ask yourself why does this thread trigger you so much?

I don't care whether OP is a troll. But if another poster think so and calls out OP's BS (in this case, not without reason), I also don't think that poster should be called "trashy". Does that explain it, armchair psychologist?

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The “trashy” epithet is so extreme and crazy reactionary.

As is calling OP a liar.

Not really. Given OPs posts, that’s a quite rational conclusion. “Trashy” is just an extreme epithet, though.

So translation: namecalling you like and agree with, fine ("liar" is your opinion, not a fact, as you don't know OP). Namecalling against you or those who agree with you -- pearl clutching ensues.

Go pound sand. NP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

Yet, it is the private school thread. More evidence that you're a troll trying to stir up trouble. Your head aches because you are a liar and lying sucks out all of your energy.

Bye bye, troll. Don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.

Wow. I hope you’re not a mom at any of my kids schools. Keep it trashy Pp.

Huh? PP is right. OP is a douche and a troll.

DP. I’ve actually been to several sporting events and back to school events this year and believe it or not I’ve heard other parents say they like the school but don’t like the parent community at our school either. These are friends that say it in confidence so maybe it’s not something they would announce but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for you to believe? And yes we are at a big three and I know several people that don’t like the parent community and are literally counting the days until their kid graduates.

I think some of the pp are clearly part of the mean parent group and are afraid they are being publicly called out although no one is naming schools so I think maybe a guilty conscience needs no accuser? Otherwise there is no explanation for their responses.

Do you all lack reading comprehension?

Seriously. I can’t understand how people can miss so much when they read. This seems … quite clear.

I don’t think anyone really cares whether op is a Troll or not because several other people are sharing their own experiences so people are responding to those. You need to ask yourself why does this thread trigger you so much?

I don't care whether OP is a troll. But if another poster think so and calls out OP's BS (in this case, not without reason), I also don't think that poster should be called "trashy". Does that explain it, armchair psychologist?

+1

The “trashy” epithet is so extreme and crazy reactionary.

As is calling OP a liar.

Not really. Given OPs posts, that’s a quite rational conclusion. “Trashy” is just an extreme epithet, though.

So translation: namecalling you like and agree with, fine ("liar" is your opinion, not a fact, as you don't know OP). Namecalling against you or those who agree with you -- pearl clutching ensues.

Go pound sand. NP.

You seem calm and not at all crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

Yet, it is the private school thread. More evidence that you're a troll trying to stir up trouble. Your head aches because you are a liar and lying sucks out all of your energy.

Bye bye, troll. Don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.

Wow. I hope you’re not a mom at any of my kids schools. Keep it trashy Pp.

Huh? PP is right. OP is a douche and a troll.

DP. I’ve actually been to several sporting events and back to school events this year and believe it or not I’ve heard other parents say they like the school but don’t like the parent community at our school either. These are friends that say it in confidence so maybe it’s not something they would announce but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for you to believe? And yes we are at a big three and I know several people that don’t like the parent community and are literally counting the days until their kid graduates.

I think some of the pp are clearly part of the mean parent group and are afraid they are being publicly called out although no one is naming schools so I think maybe a guilty conscience needs no accuser? Otherwise there is no explanation for their responses.

Do you all lack reading comprehension?

Seriously. I can’t understand how people can miss so much when they read. This seems … quite clear.

I don’t think anyone really cares whether op is a Troll or not because several other people are sharing their own experiences so people are responding to those. You need to ask yourself why does this thread trigger you so much?

+1 NP

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

Yet, it is the private school thread. More evidence that you're a troll trying to stir up trouble. Your head aches because you are a liar and lying sucks out all of your energy.

Bye bye, troll. Don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.

Wow. I hope you’re not a mom at any of my kids schools. Keep it trashy Pp.

Huh? PP is right. OP is a douche and a troll.

DP. I’ve actually been to several sporting events and back to school events this year and believe it or not I’ve heard other parents say they like the school but don’t like the parent community at our school either. These are friends that say it in confidence so maybe it’s not something they would announce but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for you to believe? And yes we are at a big three and I know several people that don’t like the parent community and are literally counting the days until their kid graduates.

I think some of the pp are clearly part of the mean parent group and are afraid they are being publicly called out although no one is naming schools so I think maybe a guilty conscience needs no accuser? Otherwise there is no explanation for their responses.

Do you all lack reading comprehension?

Seriously. I can’t understand how people can miss so much when they read. This seems … quite clear.

I don’t think anyone really cares whether op is a Troll or not because several other people are sharing their own experiences so people are responding to those. You need to ask yourself why does this thread trigger you so much?

I don't care whether OP is a troll. But if another poster think so and calls out OP's BS (in this case, not without reason), I also don't think that poster should be called "trashy". Does that explain it, armchair psychologist?

+1

The “trashy” epithet is so extreme and crazy reactionary.

As is calling OP a liar.

Not really. Given OPs posts, that’s a quite rational conclusion. “Trashy” is just an extreme epithet, though.

So translation: namecalling you like and agree with, fine ("liar" is your opinion, not a fact, as you don't know OP). Namecalling against you or those who agree with you -- pearl clutching ensues.

Go pound sand. NP.

You seem calm and not at all crazy.

Correct. Thank you for noticing.

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Why are you miserable? Do you spend 8 hours a day with them? You do not need to socialize at all beyond the friendly “hello” and the parent social, but even that you don’t really need to go. Your child’s school is not your country club. I don’t know why so many parents have this expectation that the school needs to cater to the parents socially.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you all, but luckily, this likely does not affect you on a daily basis. A few hours of awkwardness throughout the school year at events. If I'm being honest, it's not like I'm volunteering a lot at the school or putting myself out there much. I also don't live in the same neighborhood(s) that many families live in and am not on social media, so I don't really expect them to know me. I also work and find that many of the "connected" people are SAHP.

Yes, it is rude not at least to acknowledge someone, though.

DP. Actually if you have multiple kids with 1-2 games each a week that is a lot of hours to be uncomfortable! So great it doesn’t affect you but clearly it affects op and others who sit and deal with these rude people and their very loud and fake cackling laugh.

Aren't you primarily there to watch the game?

DP. Of course they are but are you that obtuse to not be able to acknowledge how it may feel for someone to sit alone when a group of parents are all sitting together nearby and making it clear to op they are not welcome? Come on how can you not understand her feelings? Are you part of the mean mom group?

DP. Idk. I’m not at all part of the social mom crowd but at sports events I politely nod to people at most. I’m there to watch the game! I don’t think I’ve even ever noticed who is sitting with someone else.

I’m puzzled by what people are reporting here. Not doubting it, just puzzled by how it even happens.

Do you sit by yourself? Does anyone talk to you?

I sit by myself or with my DH, typically. I’m not sure what you mean by talk, I mean I will nod if I pass someone or say hi, but otherwise don’t tend to have much in the way of conversation. Maybe I am not getting how I am excluded but it’s not something I’ve ever really even noticed. I guess next season I will look for this though!

Are you relatively new to the school op?