Teenage daughter troubles

[Anonymous]

I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

Yes, because she sucks.

What kind of a person wants strangers to think their own child sucks and is a user "like her mother"? She is OP's child. OP is disgusting and so are all the posters on this thread trashing a teenager and a single mother.

How'd you like to have had a parent like that -- someone who isn't even there for you, and who tries to convince others that you're awful? That's not a parent. OP is a deficit. She's better off without him AND his child support payments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

Yes, because she sucks.

What kind of a person wants strangers to think their own child sucks and is a user "like her mother"? She is OP's child. OP is disgusting and so are all the posters on this thread trashing a teenager and a single mother.

How'd you like to have had a parent like that -- someone who isn't even there for you, and who tries to convince others that you're awful? That's not a parent. OP is a deficit. She's better off without him AND his child support payments.

Guess you did the same to some poor man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

Yes, because she sucks.

What kind of a person wants strangers to think their own child sucks and is a user "like her mother"? She is OP's child. OP is disgusting and so are all the posters on this thread trashing a teenager and a single mother.

How'd you like to have had a parent like that -- someone who isn't even there for you, and who tries to convince others that you're awful? That's not a parent. OP is a deficit. She's better off without him AND his child support payments.

Guess you did the same to some poor man

Lots of incels or "men's rights" posters on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

Yes, because she sucks.

What kind of a person wants strangers to think their own child sucks and is a user "like her mother"? She is OP's child. OP is disgusting and so are all the posters on this thread trashing a teenager and a single mother.

How'd you like to have had a parent like that -- someone who isn't even there for you, and who tries to convince others that you're awful? That's not a parent. OP is a deficit. She's better off without him AND his child support payments.

Guess you did the same to some poor man

Lots of incels or "men's rights" posters on this thread.

Lots of man haters too. Most likely first wives - bitter betty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi would appreciate some feedback. My daughter will turn 18 soon. She lives in Europe with her mother. I'm a soldier we divorced when she was born. Mother didn't want to move to the U.S.
She denied me access to her till she was three. With the distance and language barrier it hasn't been an easy ride. I made sure to fly there a few times a year. Paid child support. The mom fought for sole custody and supervised all my visits. Daughter wasn't allowed to come to the states till she was 13- but this was a week holiday consisting of many shopping trips. I have done the best I could given the circumstances. She wouldn't allow her to come here incase I kidnapped her ( I would never). Over the years I have made sure to message and call my daughter regularly. My ex wife I feel always used my daughter to get extra money. I paid child support, pocket money, paid for flights to Europe, shopping trips, tuition, gym. If the amount wasn't to the mother's liking conveniently my daughter would refuse to speak to me or even wish me a happy birthday. At the age of 10 apparently ny daughter wanted to see my pay stubs.
Fast forward she takes forever to respond to my messages, doesn't pick up my calls, doesn't ever remember my birthday, her grandmother's. We only get messages when she wants something. Last month I had enough and I called her out on it. She didn't respond to my messages. And now that she is 18 I sent the child support payment directly to her rather than her mother. The mother is very angry and wants payments till my daughter is 27. She also said im out of line for telling my daughter to take responsibility for her actions and do a better job of staying In touch. I'm lost. Is it ok to tell a teenager to remember birthdays and make more of an effort. Or do I just Stat quiet and accept the relationship. I do have another daughter she's a toddler. My daughter has no interest in her either.

Your first wife and daughter consider you a good source of cash. That’s it. Be done with them already. Focus on your toddler right now.
Signed,
Single mother who never asked for a dime

[Anonymous]

I never side with the man in these conflicts but I feel really bad for you, OP. It sounds like you've tried your best. Your daughter might come around one day, but this sounds less like typical teen behavior than an adult woman going along with her mother's elaborate scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never side with the man in these conflicts but I feel really bad for you, OP. It sounds like you've tried your best. Your daughter might come around one day, but this sounds less like typical teen behavior than an adult woman going along with her mother's elaborate scam.

LOL, yeah, an elaborate scam. Have a child and then collect in child support less than half of what it costs to raise them. Great scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never side with the man in these conflicts but I feel really bad for you, OP. It sounds like you've tried your best. Your daughter might come around one day, but this sounds less like typical teen behavior than an adult woman going along with her mother's elaborate scam.

LOL, yeah, an elaborate scam. Have a child and then collect in child support less than half of what it costs to raise them. Great scam.

How do you know how much child support she's getting? She's not in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your daughter will contact you if you forget to make a payment.

Yes, because she sucks.

What kind of a person wants strangers to think their own child sucks and is a user "like her mother"? She is OP's child. OP is disgusting and so are all the posters on this thread trashing a teenager and a single mother.

How'd you like to have had a parent like that -- someone who isn't even there for you, and who tries to convince others that you're awful? That's not a parent. OP is a deficit. She's better off without him AND his child support payments.

Guess you did the same to some poor man

Lots of incels or "men's rights" posters on this thread.

Lots of man haters too. Most likely first wives - bitter betty

The coven of man-hating women on DCUM usually infest the relationship sub forum.

Guess they are here now too, sadly.

[Anonymous]

I hope OP's ex sends the DD over to live with him now. He can take care of her from now on, see how that goes. See how his DW likes it, too, feeding and dealing with someone else's kid full time so his ex can have a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope OP's ex sends the DD over to live with him now. He can take care of her from now on, see how that goes. See how his DW likes it, too, feeding and dealing with someone else's kid full time so his ex can have a break.[/quote

Ha why would she do that.. it would cut her child support check. That is why most of them want sole custody- to take revenge and get a check

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never side with the man in these conflicts but I feel really bad for you, OP. It sounds like you've tried your best. Your daughter might come around one day, but this sounds less like typical teen behavior than an adult woman going along with her mother's elaborate scam.

LOL, yeah, an elaborate scam. Have a child and then collect in child support less than half of what it costs to raise them. Great scam.

Sounds like it was the mom's choice to "collect child support" rather than raise the child in a family. She knew OP was in the military and that duty station in Germany wasn't permanent. She could have chosen to go with OP to his next assignment. Instead she chose to divorce and raise the child alone while "collecting child support."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope OP's ex sends the DD over to live with him now. He can take care of her from now on, see how that goes. See how his DW likes it, too, feeding and dealing with someone else's kid full time so his ex can have a break.[/quote

Ha why would she do that.. it would cut her child support check. That is why most of them want sole custody- to take revenge and get a check

No one gets what they want when they go to court. The judge decides what's best for the child. If men step up and say they want custody, they usually get partial custody. If a judge decides one parent gets sole custody, it's a HUGE RED FLAG that there is something wrong with the other parent. Huge.

[Anonymous]

"Ha why would she do that.. it would cut her child support check. That is why most of them want sole custody- to take revenge and get a check"


No one gets what they want when they go to court. The judge decides what's best for the child. If men step up and say they want custody, they usually get partial custody. If a judge decides one parent gets sole custody, it's a HUGE RED FLAG that there is something wrong with the other parent. HUGE.