Discrepancy between you want vs what you can get

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Anonymous wrote:You need to lower your standards. You seem to think very highly of yourselves. Only in DC would people think those are “good jobs”.

+1 million

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Anonymous wrote:OP! You don't realize the opportunity you have. Marry someone who thinks you are above him and you will be winning the lottery. He will worship you and be a great husband. Meanwhile you need to understand that the average man no matter what will have a more successful career more easily then the average woman, that the wheels of his life are greased in a way yours are not and will not be, and the older you get the more true this is. So even marrying someone you think is beneath you now, they are unlikely to remain beneath you and you are more likely to fall beneath them, especially if you become a mother.

Let’s be realistic, what are the chances she will find someone beneath her that is not insecure. She’s better off marrying someone at her level.

OP is overweight and way too impressed by her job. Who would be beneath her? A homeless man?

I'm a well-off, 6'4" PhD and I can't wait to marry an overweight HR executive and bring her to the Christmas party.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

You don’t have “smart genes” just because Mummy and Daddy could afford to send you to nice schools.

There you go again, assuming women who have prestigious degrees, healthy bodies, and demanding jobs must not be smart or work hard or connect with people well.
If you continue that bad attitude, and wrong attitude, then no wonder you are what you are.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

You don’t have “smart genes” just because Mummy and Daddy could afford to send you to nice schools.

If you are anywhere near being familiar with admission process of these schools, you would have known that money are just a good "extra" and not a guarantee of admission. They have hundreds of applicants from all over the world and a few are accepted. And even if you are not intelligent, after years in a private school you will have a huge educational advantage vs your peers in public schools.

My son recently came from a summer camp where he lived in tents with other kids of different background. Wilson HS kids is all about drugs, girls and partying vs a DC private school HS student who is all about college admissions, grades and future career paths. He literally felt that they spoke in 2 different languages: he's trilingual besides being far more eloquent in English. He is 2 years ahead in math vs public schools AP math level. Even their English is different: they don't know words like "abysmal". Nobody played chess or ever traveled anywhere outside the US. It was a eye opening experience for my child how privileged he truly is.

So now guess why top tier colleges still accept higher percentage of grads from my son's school vs DC public schools

I think this should just be pinned to the front page of DCUM forever!!!!!

What was his other observation is that there is no such educational gap with European schools. They had couple kids from France and Spain (from bilingual families). These kids go to public schools in their countries, are fluent in English and about same level in disciplines, sports and socially as my son in DC private.

US still has this huge educational gap between public schools: even the best public are way behind private, and thus this highly selective "casts" society when kids grow up. Everyone marries someone from a similar background: nobody wants relatives who use drugs.

So you went to public school, correct? Because surely a graduate of an elite private school would correctly use the term “caste” not “casts.” If you’re going to be an education snob, you’ve got to be word-perfect in all of your communication, PP.

Np. Oh come on. I went to public school and know that. And prob first learned it in HS British lit class or world history.

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I “settled” for a guy in my mid 30s. He had been my best guy friend of ten years. We both made fun of each other for our respective dating failures and we tried dating each other as a joke. Two years later we married. We make $120K apiece. Bought an off-market small SFH in Rockville. We vacation in places like the Republic of Georgia and Costa Rica. We have two German Shepherds and one kid, born naturally, no IVF, at 38.
I could not be happier.

Moral of the story: Mr. Right could be right under your nose. The nerd that you ignored for decades, the guy friend you drank beer with and talked about other girls, the coworker you made fun of. Quirky and interesting is better than conventionally attractive and successful. Maybe another problem with OP is that your personality and type is too basic. Everyone wants a 6’3 millionaire and a mansion. Give the 5’8, adventurous geek a try.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

You don’t have “smart genes” just because Mummy and Daddy could afford to send you to nice schools.

If you are anywhere near being familiar with admission process of these schools, you would have known that money are just a good "extra" and not a guarantee of admission. They have hundreds of applicants from all over the world and a few are accepted. And even if you are not intelligent, after years in a private school you will have a huge educational advantage vs your peers in public schools.

My son recently came from a summer camp where he lived in tents with other kids of different background. Wilson HS kids is all about drugs, girls and partying vs a DC private school HS student who is all about college admissions, grades and future career paths. He literally felt that they spoke in 2 different languages: he's trilingual besides being far more eloquent in English. He is 2 years ahead in math vs public schools AP math level. Even their English is different: they don't know words like "abysmal". Nobody played chess or ever traveled anywhere outside the US. It was a eye opening experience for my child how privileged he truly is.

So now guess why top tier colleges still accept higher percentage of grads from my son's school vs DC public schools

I think this should just be pinned to the front page of DCUM forever!!!!!

What was his other observation is that there is no such educational gap with European schools. They had couple kids from France and Spain (from bilingual families). These kids go to public schools in their countries, are fluent in English and about same level in disciplines, sports and socially as my son in DC private.

US still has this huge educational gap between public schools: even the best public are way behind private, and thus this highly selective "casts" society when kids grow up. Everyone marries someone from a similar background: nobody wants relatives who use drugs.

So you went to public school, correct? Because surely a graduate of an elite private school would correctly use the term “caste” not “casts.” If you’re going to be an education snob, you’ve got to be word-perfect in all of your communication, PP.

Np. Oh come on. I went to public school and know that. And prob first learned it in HS British lit class or world history.

Yes, I, too, am a public school grad, and am mocking PP for claiming that private school education is soooo supeeeerior, when she cannot use a generally known term correctly. Public or private, she’s a snooty dumbass.

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Anonymous wrote:I “settled” for a guy in my mid 30s. He had been my best guy friend of ten years. We both made fun of each other for our respective dating failures and we tried dating each other as a joke. Two years later we married. We make $120K apiece. Bought an off-market small SFH in Rockville. We vacation in places like the Republic of Georgia and Costa Rica. We have two German Shepherds and one kid, born naturally, no IVF, at 38.
I could not be happier.

Moral of the story: Mr. Right could be right under your nose. The nerd that you ignored for decades, the guy friend you drank beer with and talked about other girls, the coworker you made fun of. Quirky and interesting is better than conventionally attractive and successful. Maybe another problem with OP is that your personality and type is too basic. Everyone wants a 6’3 millionaire and a mansion. Give the 5’8, adventurous geek a try.

This is so sweet!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think men do not really look for anything more than good looks, especially at the get-go when it comes to meeting people.

Uh women specifically.
(Sorry.)

As long as a woman is attractive, fit, a great cook/housekeeper as well as an excellent Mother, w/a great sense of humor and has her own interests in life.
Those attributes mean so much more to many guys vs. how much money they generate.

A successful lawyer, physician or entrepreneur, etc. would marry a Nanny/Teacher/Nurse as long as she was physically attractive to him.
Bonus points if she is great in bed & enjoys frequent sex.

This is outdated. People assortive date now. Especially lawyers and doctors.

It’s amazing how so many people continue to ignore this.

Lol like the towns this lady wants to move to (CC MD or the like) aren’t chock full of sahms?!

SAHMs with Ivy degrees (where they met their spouses) or former big law, medicine, finance who left to raise their kids. These husbands want smart accomplished wives who will pass on smart genes and raise their kids well. No one marries the secretary anymore.

You don’t have “smart genes” just because Mummy and Daddy could afford to send you to nice schools.

If you are anywhere near being familiar with admission process of these schools, you would have known that money are just a good "extra" and not a guarantee of admission. They have hundreds of applicants from all over the world and a few are accepted. And even if you are not intelligent, after years in a private school you will have a huge educational advantage vs your peers in public schools.

My son recently came from a summer camp where he lived in tents with other kids of different background. Wilson HS kids is all about drugs, girls and partying vs a DC private school HS student who is all about college admissions, grades and future career paths. He literally felt that they spoke in 2 different languages: he's trilingual besides being far more eloquent in English. He is 2 years ahead in math vs public schools AP math level. Even their English is different: they don't know words like "abysmal". Nobody played chess or ever traveled anywhere outside the US. It was a eye opening experience for my child how privileged he truly is.

So now guess why top tier colleges still accept higher percentage of grads from my son's school vs DC public schools

Wow! You sound just as clueless and offensive as the OP. And not very smart.
My best employee graduated from Wilson HS.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

It’s more that you are late 30s. Your target audience is divorced men pushing 50 and they are unlikely to want (more) kids (assuming you could even get pregnant— the odds are greatly against you for that).

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OP is an obvious troll, but what income (presumably combined from both spouses) is required to live the life she describes?

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Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

I'm blonde, tall, skinny, 30E boobs, Ivy and MIT educated and still had to avoid a ton of shallow guys before meeting my H. The grass is not greener on the other side. I dated a guy who would throw pool parties nonstop just to parade me around like a show dog. These men are the type who would dump you for a 4 lbs weight gain. You are lucky not to have to deal with them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is an obvious troll, but what income (presumably combined from both spouses) is required to live the life she describes?

The income she would be happy with includes family money.
Very few folks can afford that level of lifestyle completely on their own.

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Anonymous wrote:A couple of girlfriends and I have been having some honest discussions about this. We are still single into our late 30s and have good DC type jobs. (Non profits/think tanks). We are well educated and relatively successful and we each had a certain ideas about our future husbands. We wanted a go-getter professionally successful types but those guys never seemed particularly interested in us. I can say objectively that although bright and hardworking, neither of us is particularly conventionally attractive. Those guys seem to date and marry the pretty unassuming skinny type of girls.

So here we are in a dilemma. Marry someone we do not think is "worthy" of us or stay single, as the guys we want never wanted us anyway.

WWYD?

“I’m not attractive and successful guys don’t want me”
-No woman ever

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Anonymous wrote:have good DC type jobs. (Non profits/think tanks)

Nobody cares.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Grow the hell up. It's Strike Two that you actually paid for yourself to get a masters in a pitiful paying career field like nonprofits. Lol, "some average joe making 100k". Listen to you.

Hope you enjoy cat lady life. Hope you don't get too dry down there.