How to not be jealous of women who married rich?

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

Lol, that’s not why. It’s because they tend to be older and more educated when they marry, and not have to fight about money. But if you divorce, your standard of living will inevitably decline since you are now paying for two residences. And if you’ve been enjoying a cushy SAHM life, you’ll have to start working, potentially at low level jobs if you’ve been out of the workforce for a while. That’s why many SAHMs stay in bad marriages.

You contradicted yourself and literally said the same thing I said simultanously. Why do this to yourself?

The bolded is exactly why the UMC have low divorce rates. AGAIN- you stated what I said but expanded more on what I implied.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

Fewer issues. And you do not? Really? Life is easier when you have more money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

Lol, that’s not why. It’s because they tend to be older and more educated when they marry, and not have to fight about money. But if you divorce, your standard of living will inevitably decline since you are now paying for two residences. And if you’ve been enjoying a cushy SAHM life, you’ll have to start working, potentially at low level jobs if you’ve been out of the workforce for a while. That’s why many SAHMs stay in bad marriages.

That's why so many WOHMs stay in bad marriages too. It's not easy for them to take the split either or they'll wait for kids to be out of school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

Fewer issues. And you do not? Really? Life is easier when you have more money.

+1

My marriage got better when we started paying for a cleaning service, and I know I’m not alone there. It’s also helpful to have leisure time to spend together and money to go on dates. Yes you can have a good marriage with little money but it’s harder.

[Anonymous]

OP - go into Big Law or investment banking yourself?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. Do you also feel jealous that my husband married rich?

X100. It’s so annoying that these threads imply that these dynamics apply to rich husbands vs. rich wives; there is an exploding population of rich people of both sexes.

Lol, there is not, never has been and never will be "an exploding population of rich people."

I'm pretty explosive. Don't sit behind me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you that are happy about “marrying rich”, would you want that for your daughter too? Or do you hope for her to have a great career? I am truly surprised that others are jealous of people marrying wealthy people.

I have 2 girls. I want for them what they want for themselves. That's the definition of love. I hope they marry a man who feels the same.

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Anonymous wrote:It could be worse. You could be a single earner parent. Grass is always greener.

I'm a single mom and a child of a single mom. I think we've got it made. I make all of the money and all of the decisions. My kid goes to a good private school that I pay for myself. I will pay for college myself. I don't make much money but it's all mine. I am not dependent on someone else.


I am also a teacher who taught overseas and felt so sorry for the wives of rich men. They would send their nannies and drivers to pick up their kids. They were spending a lot of time and money at the gym, with their trainers, at the spa, going somewhere to recover from plastic surgery. They were missing out on their kid's lives. Maybe they enjoyed this but I wouldn't. I had a kid and I want to be with him, not trying to make myself look beautiful on the outside just to keep a man.

This dynamic exists, but as the exception, not the norm. My husband is rich (and I am independently wealthy). He would never encourage me to do anything that wasn't healthy and natural. He doesn't understand that I want to color my hair, which is the only alteration I do to my body. I am fit, he does expect that. AND I expect him to be fit too, so that's a 2 way street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone I know that married rich really married the rich parents of the rich guy who got his rich job because of his rich dad. And the rich parents are all up in their lives. But yea, sometimes I get jealous.

This! Definitely this! Sometimes the rich in laws are horrible people too.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if we are considered rich by "rich" standards but DH makes close to 600k and I make 180k. I married DH when he was in college and had no earning potential. We got married and had stable jobs and two kids before he started his own business. It was stressful at first and he is always busy but he is also very committed to our marriage and family. He spends his spare time either playing or helping the kids or we work on projects together. I think what made our marriage work is that we achieved our SES together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

Fewer issues. And you do not? Really? Life is easier when you have more money.

I’m talking marriages issues that don’t involve money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if we are considered rich by "rich" standards but DH makes close to 600k and I make 180k. I married DH when he was in college and had no earning potential. We got married and had stable jobs and two kids before he started his own business. It was stressful at first and he is always busy but he is also very committed to our marriage and family. He spends his spare time either playing or helping the kids or we work on projects together. I think what made our marriage work is that we achieved our SES together.

If you don’t know then you’re not rich. Also, rich is defined my net worth not income.

Comments like you’re being nothing to the table.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

Fewer issues. And you do not? Really? Life is easier when you have more money.

Many marriage issues involved money. It is one of the things that married couples fight about the most.
I’m talking marriages issues that don’t involve money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

+1 well said. I don't believe that UMC people have less issues in the marriages than poor. A lot of UMC SAHM worse fare is getting a divorce because they depend on their husbands. Also, honestly this is primarily white america is we're being honest.

Fewer issues. And you do not? Really? Life is easier when you have more money.

Data now shoes that most umc leave paycheck to paycheck so the money issues are there but different for both the poor and umc.

Many marriage issues involved money. It is one of the things that married couples fight about the most.
I’m talking marriages issues that don’t involve money.