How to not be jealous of women who married rich?

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did marry rich. I married potential and it has worked out well.

+1 the key is to be looking for the combination of ambition and potential when you meet young. Honestly ambition is the most attractive thing to me, always has been.

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

This doesn't make any sense. If you divorce a rich man you get half, plus child support. You may not be as rich but you won't be destitute.

Not true.

It really is not true. The amount of misinformation online continues to be amaze me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It could be worse. You could be a single earner parent. Grass is always greener.

I'm a single mom and a child of a single mom. I think we've got it made. I make all of the money and all of the decisions. My kid goes to a good private school that I pay for myself. I will pay for college myself. I don't make much money but it's all mine. I am not dependent on someone else.


I am also a teacher who taught overseas and felt so sorry for the wives of rich men. They would send their nannies and drivers to pick up their kids. They were spending a lot of time and money at the gym, with their trainers, at the spa, going somewhere to recover from plastic surgery. They were missing out on their kid's lives. Maybe they enjoyed this but I wouldn't. I had a kid and I want to be with him, not trying to make myself look beautiful on the outside just to keep a man.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you that are happy about “marrying rich”, would you want that for your daughter too? Or do you hope for her to have a great career? I am truly surprised that others are jealous of people marrying wealthy people.

Many wives end up taking on the bulk of the childcare whether they have a career or not. Or they take o the bulk of the childcare and invisible load and their career ends up suffering because their children are more important. In an ideal world, yes, you wish for your sons and daughters to have good careers and independence, but the reality is that much of the time, womens careers take a backseat if they have a family. having money makes many aspects - though not all- of life easier, and if one spouse is taking on more at home, sure it’s nice if the other is a high earner so said primary caregiver isn’t completely stressed in on both the professional and home fronts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

This doesn't make any sense. If you divorce a rich man you get half, plus child support. You may not be as rich but you won't be destitute.

Not true.

It really is not true. The amount of misinformation online continues to be amaze me.

Again, please explain to me how this is not true. What is misinformation about saying a spouse is entitled to have to the money earned durning the marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

This doesn't make any sense. If you divorce a rich man you get half, plus child support. You may not be as rich but you won't be destitute.

Not true.

It really is not true. The amount of misinformation online continues to be amaze me.

Why? I get not getting necessarily half, but child support could be pretty lucrative at least until the youngest turns 18

[Anonymous]

Anyone I know that married rich really married the rich parents of the rich guy who got his rich job because of his rich dad. And the rich parents are all up in their lives. But yea, sometimes I get jealous.

[Anonymous]

In my 20s, I had several opportunities to marry rich. I was in the right circles and dated pretty seriously a few men who came from money and worked in high income fields. Most serious was the boyfriend I had for several years before I met the man I eventually married.

That boyfriend was extremely rick (family money - flies private, multiple houses around the country etc) and also had very high earning potential. We also had amazing chemistry. But honestly, he was just sorta damaged - I never felt truly comfortable or in love. He wanted to marry me, but I couldn’t do it. I knew I would never truly be happy even if I was super rich.

Then I went on to meet the man I married. This guy had fairly low earning potential when we met, though he was brilliant. And I fell DEEPLY in love. Now, almost a decade into our marriage, there is no amount of money you could give me to give this up. I can’t believe I considered marrying someone for their money even for a moment. If I were in a mediocre marriage with a low/average earner, then yea, I guess I would feel resentment. But money truly can’t comfort you like love can. It just can’t.

I am sure it doesn’t hurt that I went on to make 7 figures myself so..right…I am not struggling. But I can’t imagine making such a compromised decision to marry someone who didn’t make me so incredibly happy just bc of money.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone I know that married rich really married the rich parents of the rich guy who got his rich job because of his rich dad. And the rich parents are all up in their lives. But yea, sometimes I get jealous.

Me and my brother grew up super poor. We slept in living room most of childhood. Had food stamps one point, no heat sometimes.

But God blessed us being tall, good looking and smart so we are rich as adults.


I guess fat, ugly stupid and broke tough to get rich on your own. You cant do it yourself or even marry rich.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone I know that married rich really married the rich parents of the rich guy who got his rich job because of his rich dad. And the rich parents are all up in their lives. But yea, sometimes I get jealous.

Me and my brother grew up super poor. We slept in living room most of childhood. Had food stamps one point, no heat sometimes.

But God blessed us being tall, good looking and smart so we are rich as adults.


I guess fat, ugly stupid and broke tough to get rich on your own. You cant do it yourself or even marry rich.

Lol. I’m the PP you quoted. Good for you, seriously!

I’m tall, good looking, and smart but married for love (high school sweetheart). I’m not rich by DCUM standards but I do alright.

[Anonymous]

One of my daughters wants to SAH (like me) but will probably start out in teaching or school counseling. My other daughter wants to be a doctor. I support them both and hope they both can have what they want.

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Anonymous wrote:You will never feel that you have to stay my in a bad marriage because of your financial dependence.

I disagree. I'm married to a medium earner, I still work but my income is lower than his. I'm still financially dependent on him and can't afford to divorce. If I were married to someone super rich, I'd get enough in the divorce to live comfortably.

This. It's much more likely to be trapped in a marriage because you can't afford to divorce than to be trapped because you have too much money.

This. It’s also the reason why UMC people have low divorce rates.

Lol, that’s not why. It’s because they tend to be older and more educated when they marry, and not have to fight about money. But if you divorce, your standard of living will inevitably decline since you are now paying for two residences. And if you’ve been enjoying a cushy SAHM life, you’ll have to start working, potentially at low level jobs if you’ve been out of the workforce for a while. That’s why many SAHMs stay in bad marriages.