What is the minimum salary you'd date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who have high minimum salaries as a requirement for the men you will date, just be prepared to be the "first wife" and be prepared to be replaced later in life when you get older. Women who marry for money typically end up with men who marry for youth and beauty, who will discard their first wife when she loses both.

Oh dear, it's just as common when a man who becomes an executive to "upgrade" a long-term old college sweetheart.I didn't marry for money, we were about equal but I stayed home with sick child. His career blossomed and on travels all corporate whores were after him. He dumped me for a colleague after 18 years together calling me "nobody" and that he "needs to grow".

[Anonymous]

Many of you caring more about what a man makes is why you’re in bad marriages. Notice most of the men on here say they don’t care but the women have all these expectations? I’m a woman and I could take care of myself and didn’t care what the man made as long as he could contribute and he didn’t have a bunch of debt. What mattered more was how he is as a person, how he treated me, and how he would be as a husband and father. I did get a man who makes more than me but he still doesn’t make the money that most make on here. We live a comfortable life and we are happy. He may not make $500k but he is a loving husband and a very involved father. Not saying that men who make that much can’t be a good husband and father, but choosing a guy solely on salary or earning potential may be why so many people get divorced and why so many on here hate their spouses and what to get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many of you caring more about what a man makes is why you’re in bad marriages. Notice most of the men on here say they don’t care but the women have all these expectations? I’m a woman and I could take care of myself and didn’t care what the man made as long as he could contribute and he didn’t have a bunch of debt. What mattered more was how he is as a person, how he treated me, and how he would be as a husband and father. I did get a man who makes more than me but he still doesn’t make the money that most make on here. We live a comfortable life and we are happy. He may not make $500k but he is a loving husband and a very involved father. Not saying that men who make that much can’t be a good husband and father, but choosing a guy solely on salary or earning potential may be why so many people get divorced and why so many on here hate their spouses and what to get divorced.

My exH made a 180 degrees turnaround on me at 50, started cheating, drinking, being rude and obnoxious at home. It was a shocking change, but can happen to anyone who out of a sudden goes from poor to riches. This change matched with him getting a huge promotion at job. Out of a sudden he no longer needed the wife, when stock options sale started looming...

You don't know for sure how money would change a person. All these divorced middle aged women didn't marry a-holes, they married normal men

[Anonymous]

The question was about minimum salary. Of course I’m still screening for all of the other, far more important qualities that I’m looking for in a partner. $$ is table-stakes to play because I know I want a certain standard of living. I make plenty of money solo but, as one example, I want to be able to send my kids to private school without worrying too much about our budget.

As PP said, there are plenty of incredibly kind and wonderful men who make a lot of money. Just as there are plenty of selfish, immature and unkind men who don’t make as much money. I know I’m narrowing my dating pool significantly and, at the end of the day, I actually care more about intellectual curiosity than earning power. But I haven’t felt like I’ve been constrained at all in dating when prioritizing both. On the other hand, I couldn’t care less about height or other physical qualities so I’m sure that helps.

[Anonymous]

What the hell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

Ask a woman how much a man needs to make or how tall he needs to be and that’s just preference and finding a good provider. Ask a man how big a woman’s breast need to be or if he expects her to stay at home and he is called misogynistic.

This thread is sexist but no one cares about men. They are just supposed to shut up and fall in line and be used when a woman needs him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many of you caring more about what a man makes is why you’re in bad marriages. Notice most of the men on here say they don’t care but the women have all these expectations? I’m a woman and I could take care of myself and didn’t care what the man made as long as he could contribute and he didn’t have a bunch of debt. What mattered more was how he is as a person, how he treated me, and how he would be as a husband and father. I did get a man who makes more than me but he still doesn’t make the money that most make on here. We live a comfortable life and we are happy. He may not make $500k but he is a loving husband and a very involved father. Not saying that men who make that much can’t be a good husband and father, but choosing a guy solely on salary or earning potential may be why so many people get divorced and why so many on here hate their spouses and what to get divorced.

You post is literally

I don’t care about money
But my h has to contribute (aka make money)

It’s not that you dont have a minimum it’s just that your minimum is low, so what is it? How much does he have to contribute?

[Anonymous]

What is the maximum weight you'd date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

Ask a woman how much a man needs to make or how tall he needs to be and that’s just preference and finding a good provider. Ask a man how big a woman’s breast need to be or if he expects her to stay at home and he is called misogynistic.

This thread is sexist but no one cares about men. They are just supposed to shut up and fall in line and be used when a woman needs him.

Asking your man to contribute equally is sexist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the maximum weight you'd date?

My minimum is in the lower 25% of the BMI or lower.

Maximum, depends.

[Anonymous]

W-2 Salary? Don’t care

$500k annual dividends, cap gains, interest

$3-10M annual carried interest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

Ask a woman how much a man needs to make or how tall he needs to be and that’s just preference and finding a good provider. Ask a man how big a woman’s breast need to be or if he expects her to stay at home and he is called misogynistic.

This thread is sexist but no one cares about men. They are just supposed to shut up and fall in line and be used when a woman needs him.

I’m dating a woman with natural 36I and a thin waist. Life is good.

[Anonymous]

Woman. I didn’t have a salary requirement but wanted to meet someone with similar lifestyle goals. That way, regardless of the income split, we were on the same page about what we wanted in life. Ended up meeting someone who came from a fairly similar background. I think it was a rude awakening when I pointed out in our mid twenties what that lifestyle cost, but nearly ten years later we’re still on the same page.

[Anonymous]

$123,472.86. And not a penny less!

[Anonymous]

0. I want a SAHM