What is the minimum salary you'd date?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care, I can support myself.

+1. Good for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Several factors: age and body for me.
As an attractive, in shape male with high income (high annual six figures) in 40s, I’d be willing overlook less than 100k if her bra size, weight, looks, and age fall in line.

Also she has to have very low expectations about d*** size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:woman: be able to pay your own bills.

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:woman: be able to pay your own bills.

Yep.

+1. But I’ll add: if we plan on having kids be able to also help financially contribute to related expenses.

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$300k minimum. Female here.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you not read about all the unhappy marriages on here? And how many divorced people are on here?

Marry for love, not money! As long as your partner is kind and respectful, you'll be ok.

Exactly. This is why women are always complaining that their husbands suck

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 50 yo woman making -$200K

I could go as low as $160K if he was a scientist or artist.

I’d expect him to have $10K/month + a paid off mortgage in retirement

Do you realize most federal attorneys make about 160k? An artist is not going to make 160K. My sister in law is a Harvard PhD scientist and does not make 100k. Get a reality check on salaries.

Most federal scientists make GS-14 which is ~$160.

I make 140. The only way I’d likely make more than that is working for a company I don’t like so it’s unlikely I will make more than that. Plus I have a generous pension and fully paid for health care so that’s pretty nice. My wife makes less( we both have graduate degrees btw) we live in dc, own our house. Besides the mortgage no debt. Somehow we manage to do perfectly well. I mean we don’t get to drive luxury cars but that’s not something either of us feel strongly about. I understand wanting to be with someone with a stable job and who is financially responsible but the gross materialism on here is sad. If you are a middle aged woman with a good career why are you so concerned about dating a rich guy? At what point do you demand to see the guy’s W-2?

Are you going to stick your kids with a lifetime of school debt?

My parents paid for my degrees, graduating debt free let me take really interesting jobs where I traveled the world while my peers had to scrimp and take on side hustles to make their monthly payments. My husband and I have income sufficient to send our children to good schools debt free. I do not think “wanting to not financially cripple future children” is “gross materialism”

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I make 30K, DH 450K.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you not read about all the unhappy marriages on here? And how many divorced people are on here?

Marry for love, not money! As long as your partner is kind and respectful, you'll be ok.

Exactly. This is why women are always complaining that their husbands suck

Divorce rate for low income is higher.

Marry for love divorce broke.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you not read about all the unhappy marriages on here? And how many divorced people are on here?

Marry for love, not money! As long as your partner is kind and respectful, you'll be ok.

Exactly. This is why women are always complaining that their husbands suck

Divorce rate for low income is higher.

Marry for love divorce broke.

Maybe, but do you think the ones that don’t get divorced are happy? I know a few couples that are well off but just going through the motions and look like they will for many more years.

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Anonymous wrote:This question and most of the responses are gross. Ew.

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+1. Think of all the amazing people the PPs are willing to cast aside, like every single person who chose a service profession over a high income. It’s sad.

-1. Income and income potential is important in choosing a life partner unless you are able to support your spouse and children on your income, alone. It’s entirely fair for someone to have a standard.

“It’s entirely fair”: what does that even mean? And can you make your standards work, or are you holding out for a unicorn?

I think most people marry like incomes.

Big law/plastic surgeon
2 feds
A teacher and a store manager

I think it’s common to want a partner that holds their own in many ways.

I work at a tech company and don't see this all that often. Plenty of guys with SAHM spouses or married to artsy women.

I work at a less well paid gov contractor, and see same thing, they make $120k but spouse is a teacher or preschool instructor

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Anonymous wrote:What the hell?

Ask a woman how much a man needs to make or how tall he needs to be and that’s just preference and finding a good provider. Ask a man how big a woman’s breast need to be or if he expects her to stay at home and he is called misogynistic.

This thread is sexist but no one cares about men. They are just supposed to shut up and fall in line and be used when a woman needs him.

I’m dating a woman with natural 36I and a thin waist. Life is good.

You just won the lottery! Lucky man and don’t mess up. 👍

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 50 yo woman making -$200K

I could go as low as $160K if he was a scientist or artist.

I’d expect him to have $10K/month + a paid off mortgage in retirement

Do you realize most federal attorneys make about 160k? An artist is not going to make 160K. My sister in law is a Harvard PhD scientist and does not make 100k. Get a reality check on salaries.

Most federal scientists make GS-14 which is ~$160.

I make 140. The only way I’d likely make more than that is working for a company I don’t like so it’s unlikely I will make more than that. Plus I have a generous pension and fully paid for health care so that’s pretty nice. My wife makes less( we both have graduate degrees btw) we live in dc, own our house. Besides the mortgage no debt. Somehow we manage to do perfectly well. I mean we don’t get to drive luxury cars but that’s not something either of us feel strongly about. I understand wanting to be with someone with a stable job and who is financially responsible but the gross materialism on here is sad. If you are a middle aged woman with a good career why are you so concerned about dating a rich guy? At what point do you demand to see the guy’s W-2?

Are you going to stick your kids with a lifetime of school debt?

My parents paid for my degrees, graduating debt free let me take really interesting jobs where I traveled the world while my peers had to scrimp and take on side hustles to make their monthly payments. My husband and I have income sufficient to send our children to good schools debt free. I do not think “wanting to not financially cripple future children” is “gross materialism”

i was raised by a single mom who made a lot less than I did and on just one salary. I still had a good and comfortable life. No I couldn’t just blow through her money on whatever I wanted. I had to learn personal financial responsibility fast. And yeah I had to work like that’s so awful. Seriously come on. We make more than 95 percent of Americans and you act like I live in dire poverty. So gross and pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 50 yo woman making -$200K

I could go as low as $160K if he was a scientist or artist.

I’d expect him to have $10K/month + a paid off mortgage in retirement

Do you realize most federal attorneys make about 160k? An artist is not going to make 160K. My sister in law is a Harvard PhD scientist and does not make 100k. Get a reality check on salaries.

Most federal scientists make GS-14 which is ~$160.

I make 140. The only way I’d likely make more than that is working for a company I don’t like so it’s unlikely I will make more than that. Plus I have a generous pension and fully paid for health care so that’s pretty nice. My wife makes less( we both have graduate degrees btw) we live in dc, own our house. Besides the mortgage no debt. Somehow we manage to do perfectly well. I mean we don’t get to drive luxury cars but that’s not something either of us feel strongly about. I understand wanting to be with someone with a stable job and who is financially responsible but the gross materialism on here is sad. If you are a middle aged woman with a good career why are you so concerned about dating a rich guy? At what point do you demand to see the guy’s W-2?

Are you going to stick your kids with a lifetime of school debt?

My parents paid for my degrees, graduating debt free let me take really interesting jobs where I traveled the world while my peers had to scrimp and take on side hustles to make their monthly payments. My husband and I have income sufficient to send our children to good schools debt free. I do not think “wanting to not financially cripple future children” is “gross materialism”

i was raised by a single mom who made a lot less than I did and on just one salary. I still had a good and comfortable life. No I couldn’t just blow through her money on whatever I wanted. I had to learn personal financial responsibility fast. And yeah I had to work like that’s so awful. Seriously come on. We make more than 95 percent of Americans and you act like I live in dire poverty. So gross and pathetic.

“Dire poverty?” No. But when you choose your partner, if you’re planning to have children, you’re choosing 50% (at least, potentially more given gender wage gap) of your child’s socioeconomic status. I would have a hard time facing my child and saying I am saddling you with a burden I never had, but you may feel differently since your current situation reflects a higher SES than the one in which you were raised.

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Anonymous wrote:Several factors: age and body for me.
As an attractive, in shape male with high income (high annual six figures) in 40s, I’d be willing overlook less than 100k if her bra size, weight, looks, and age fall in line.

Also she has to have very low expectations about d*** size.

Yuck.