Mother Left 4.5M Estate to Unemployed, Alcoholic Sister

[Anonymous]

I don't even know what to think. My brother and I were completely cut out. There was no drama. Where do I start to unravel this?

[Anonymous]

sounds like your sister can use the money

[Anonymous]

She should have left it in trust to her with a responsible trustee

[Anonymous]

She didn't think you needed it...probably because she's enabled your sister for years and is continuing to do so. Alcoholism sucks. It is the #1 factor that destroys generations.

[Anonymous]

It was her money, she made her choices. You can sue if you want to, but it may not go in your favor.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps she believed that you and your sibling would be ok since you were provided with the tools to manage on your own while she was raising you to become the functional adults that you are now.aube she knew something about her sister that led her to believe that her sister would never be able to manage on her own. Either way, now you know why you should never count other people's money.

[Anonymous]

Was your mother of sound mind? Any chance your sister was involved in a change of the will?

If she was of soud mind and made this decision without any form of coercion, then she had her reasons.

[Anonymous]

Is your aunt is irresponsible with money, your mother should have made a trust, perhaps with you children in charge. And a portion of the inheritance to you two, of course.

[Anonymous]

I'm shocked two siblings were cut out, but nothing you can do about it but move on with your life. You could try asking your sister to share some of it (I definitely would share), but probably unlikely in this case.

[Anonymous]

Who got the money, your aunt or your sister?

[Anonymous]

Was your sister your mom's favorite? Could your sister have done something to change the will? Are you and your brother doing well financially?

[Anonymous]

OP here to clarify.

The unemployed alcoholic is my sister. She is 48 and hasnt worked since she was 26. She is a loser. Her life is a wreck. She's 300 pounds and lives in a condo my mother bought. It's stuffed to the rafters with trash. She watches TV and posts on the internet all day. That is her life.

My brother and I both put ourselves through college and have decent jobs and stable lives. We are 'normal'.

Giving 4.5 million dollars to our sister is the same as throwing it from the top of a skyscraper.

[Anonymous]

I’d start with a lawyer. Did you and your mom have a good relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here to clarify.

The unemployed alcoholic is my sister. She is 48 and hasnt worked since she was 26. She is a loser. Her life is a wreck. She's 300 pounds and lives in a condo my mother bought. It's stuffed to the rafters with trash. She watches TV and posts on the internet all day. That is her life.

My brother and I both put ourselves through college and have decent jobs and stable lives. We are 'normal'.

Giving 4.5 million dollars to our sister is the same as throwing it from the top of a skyscraper.

Well, considering how nasty you are I can see why your mother didn't leave you any money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here to clarify.

The unemployed alcoholic is my sister. She is 48 and hasnt worked since she was 26. She is a loser. Her life is a wreck. She's 300 pounds and lives in a condo my mother bought. It's stuffed to the rafters with trash. She watches TV and posts on the internet all day. That is her life.

My brother and I both put ourselves through college and have decent jobs and stable lives. We are 'normal'.

Giving 4.5 million dollars to our sister is the same as throwing it from the top of a skyscraper.

Calm down,OP. Don’t call your sister a loser, she may be struggling with something. She doesn’t need to be employed to have a life. Relax, I k kw it might be hard but who knows maybe she’ll put the money to good use.