Being Counseled Out

[Anonymous]

We are new to private schools. Is it unusual for a school to just start a conversation about a school not being a good fit a few weeks before reenrollment contracts go out? Never had an indication it was a thought until a meeting today. There were no prior meetings indicating it was a possibility. Wondering if this is normally how the process works? I would think they would try to let families know in time to apply other places? Just wondering other experiences. Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

Were there prior indications that things weren’t going well for your child? Either academically or behaviorally or both. And if yes, how did you respond to them?

[Anonymous]

There weren’t. We had one incident of behavior in December but it was relatively minor and did not seem like a big deal. Nothing at the parent conference in November.

[Anonymous]

We had a contract held back, but we worked with a therapist and had improvements, and were then offered one in April. Yes, conversation started in January. Stayed for a few more years. Private schools don’t want to deal with behavioral issues or ADHD at all, even minor things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a contract held back, but we worked with a therapist and had improvements, and were then offered one in April. Yes, conversation started in January. Stayed for a few more years. Private schools don’t want to deal with behavioral issues or ADHD at all, even minor things.

sucks that they do that because applications were due a month ago!

[Anonymous]

Is this your first year at the school? Unless there's been something really big, I would say it's unusual to be counseled out during the first year without prior communication.

My child was counseled out, but we had had many, many parent teacher conferences about the challenges.

[Anonymous]

The incident in December is probably more problematic than you think. People are paying $$$ for private school to escape the behavior that public school teachers can’t kick out of their classroom.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the replies. Not our first year and just shocked by the timing and lack of transparency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the replies. Not our first year and just shocked by the timing and lack of transparency.

I’m really sorry about the timing OP

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry. Can the school share more info with you about the basis for their position?

[Anonymous]

Grades? How is performance academically?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There weren’t. We had one incident of behavior in December but it was relatively minor and did not seem like a big deal. Nothing at the parent conference in November.

Well, duh, the one incident of bad behavior happened after the November conference so . . .

"Relatively" minor? Hmm.

[Anonymous]

No it’s not normal. I’d want more info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The incident in December is probably more problematic than you think. People are paying $$$ for private school to escape the behavior that public school teachers can’t kick out of their classroom.

This.

And, as noted by another poster above, the incident occurred in December AFTER your November parent-teacher conference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The incident in December is probably more problematic than you think. People are paying $$$ for private school to escape the behavior that public school teachers can’t kick out of their classroom.

I bet the other family decided to make a big stink about it. I know from conversations with my relative with a kid in private and my own experience that a lot of this turns on whether the other parent/s decide to gang up on your kid.