How to tell DH I want him to be more dominant?

[Anonymous]

In the bedroom. Has this ever successfully worked in your relationship? I find men can be too passive, which isn’t attractive.

[Anonymous]

I just straight say it in the moment.

[Anonymous]

"I want you to be more dominant in the bedroom."

[Anonymous]

Dirty talk. Tell him what to do to your hot, wet …..

[Anonymous]

A video is worth a thousand words. Go find a film of what interests you and show it to him.

[Anonymous]

He's your husband... Use your words - Tell him.
Either in the moment or leading up to it..

[Anonymous]

Tell him what you want and that you want it hard. Sometimes my husband can get a little too passive so I get aggressive and he follows suit. Men respond to moans as they are animals at heart.

[Anonymous]

Years ago when we were newly dating I found it hard to voice my preferences. We came up with a system where I’d find what I liked explicitly described in steamy novels and leave the pages bookmarked. It worked well and I gradually grew more confident speaking up.

[Anonymous]

Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

[Anonymous]

Set some boundaries upfront, my DH took it a little too far and it was a long recovery. Maybe video examples would help put him in the right place.

[Anonymous]

send me some videos that you like. Tell him to call you names or do things that you need....

This is not a big issue if he is open to learning.

[Anonymous]

Don't just tell him to be dominant, if he's not like that normally he's going to have no idea what you want/need. Have specific examples of what you're looking for. Also have examples of what you don't like.

[Anonymous]

DH here: the hard issue here is that you need to convey the message in a way that he can understand it without feeling too criticized. A lot of men have really internalized the view that too aggressive is bad, and it can take some time to unlearn. This may sound lame but it isn’t really his fault. I think most men can come around once they understand what you actually want. I’d start with a flirty vibe and say something like “I’m a bad girl who needs a spanking” or some such, whatever the particular vibe you are looking for is. Then just goad him until you reach the appropriate level of intensity. Positive reinforcement after, he may feel a little awkward at first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Set some boundaries upfront, my DH took it a little too far and it was a long recovery. Maybe video examples would help put him in the right place.

Safe words.

[Anonymous]

PSA for the men on here: most of you need to be more dominant, especially if youve been married for a long time.