How to tell DH I want him to be more dominant?

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Would you mind commenting honestly about his porn use? I’ve just realized that 95% of men seem to think it’s normal to do it at least sometimes.

This just tells you that 95% of men (and certainly 95% of married men) aren’t getting the amount of sex they want from their wives/girlfriends. Men turn to porn because you’re denying them sex or making it a huge unfun hassle.

Men may not be getting the amount they want, but women aren’t getting the kind they want. And if they get the kind they want, then they want it every day.

Men are better and more adventurous when they are having sex often. Also if the woman doesn’t act like sex is her job.

This is not my experience at all. The more time goes on, the lazier men get in bed. Surely women do too, but not as much as men, and men set the tone… like it or lump it.

Doesn't sound very feminist.

People are confused about feminism and sex. Just be a man and lead at least 50% of the time FFS. Women are tired of doing every fricking thing for you milquetoast losers.

Woman here, but why? Women can initiate and men LOVE it when you do initiate. Not nagging, but be more sexually aggressive.

Note how I left 50% of the time for her? I’m happy to be assertive, but if he’s not matching it with the same energy (read: 50/50) then it’s a turnoff.

Keeping tabs is petty and huge turnoff for men and women alike.

Men don’t like “keeping tabs” because they’re lazy AF and don’t like to get called on it.

Keeping tabs is about the unsexiest thing ever - for both sexes

And yet “she’s mad so she told me her entire list of things she’s been mad about ever since the start of the relationship” is every woman ever.

But god forbid I keep a spreadsheet showing how often she rejects my initiations.

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Would you mind commenting honestly about his porn use? I’ve just realized that 95% of men seem to think it’s normal to do it at least sometimes.

This just tells you that 95% of men (and certainly 95% of married men) aren’t getting the amount of sex they want from their wives/girlfriends. Men turn to porn because you’re denying them sex or making it a huge unfun hassle.

Men may not be getting the amount they want, but women aren’t getting the kind they want. And if they get the kind they want, then they want it every day.

Men are better and more adventurous when they are having sex often. Also if the woman doesn’t act like sex is her job.

This is not my experience at all. The more time goes on, the lazier men get in bed. Surely women do too, but not as much as men, and men set the tone… like it or lump it.

Doesn't sound very feminist.

People are confused about feminism and sex. Just be a man and lead at least 50% of the time FFS. Women are tired of doing every fricking thing for you milquetoast losers.

Woman here, but why? Women can initiate and men LOVE it when you do initiate. Not nagging, but be more sexually aggressive.

Note how I left 50% of the time for her? I’m happy to be assertive, but if he’s not matching it with the same energy (read: 50/50) then it’s a turnoff.

Keeping tabs is petty and huge turnoff for men and women alike.

Men don’t like “keeping tabs” because they’re lazy AF and don’t like to get called on it.

Keeping tabs is about the unsexiest thing ever - for both sexes

And yet “she’s mad so she told me her entire list of things she’s been mad about ever since the start of the relationship” is every woman ever.

But god forbid I keep a spreadsheet showing how often she rejects my initiations.

Found the accountant.

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Role play. Tell him you want him to play the man next time you have sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Role play. Tell him you want him to play the man next time you have sex.

This.

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I watched all three Fifty Shades movies with him and told him each part I liked. It gave him a road map.

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Would you mind commenting honestly about his porn use? I’ve just realized that 95% of men seem to think it’s normal to do it at least sometimes.

This just tells you that 95% of men (and certainly 95% of married men) aren’t getting the amount of sex they want from their wives/girlfriends. Men turn to porn because you’re denying them sex or making it a huge unfun hassle.

Men may not be getting the amount they want, but women aren’t getting the kind they want. And if they get the kind they want, then they want it every day.

Men are better and more adventurous when they are having sex often. Also if the woman doesn’t act like sex is her job.

This is not my experience at all. The more time goes on, the lazier men get in bed. Surely women do too, but not as much as men, and men set the tone… like it or lump it.

Doesn't sound very feminist.

People are confused about feminism and sex. Just be a man and lead at least 50% of the time FFS. Women are tired of doing every fricking thing for you milquetoast losers.

Woman here, but why? Women can initiate and men LOVE it when you do initiate. Not nagging, but be more sexually aggressive.

Note how I left 50% of the time for her? I’m happy to be assertive, but if he’s not matching it with the same energy (read: 50/50) then it’s a turnoff.

Keeping tabs is petty and huge turnoff for men and women alike.

Men don’t like “keeping tabs” because they’re lazy AF and don’t like to get called on it.

Keeping tabs is about the unsexiest thing ever - for both sexes

And yet “she’s mad so she told me her entire list of things she’s been mad about ever since the start of the relationship” is every woman ever.

It's not every woman ever. (I'm a man, if it matters.)

If every woman you're with does this, perhaps the common denominator is you?

[Anonymous]

Having to ask/tell him defeats the purpose.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you need him to be more dominant in bed and to go search and watch some adult videos. He’ll either develop an interest in doing it or allowing you to have a bull.

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Would you mind commenting honestly about his porn use? I’ve just realized that 95% of men seem to think it’s normal to do it at least sometimes.

This just tells you that 95% of men (and certainly 95% of married men) aren’t getting the amount of sex they want from their wives/girlfriends. Men turn to porn because you’re denying them sex or making it a huge unfun hassle.

Men may not be getting the amount they want, but women aren’t getting the kind they want. And if they get the kind they want, then they want it every day.

Men are better and more adventurous when they are having sex often. Also if the woman doesn’t act like sex is her job.

This is not my experience at all. The more time goes on, the lazier men get in bed. Surely women do too, but not as much as men, and men set the tone… like it or lump it.

Doesn't sound very feminist.

People are confused about feminism and sex. Just be a man and lead at least 50% of the time FFS. Women are tired of doing every fricking thing for you milquetoast losers.

Woman here, but why? Women can initiate and men LOVE it when you do initiate. Not nagging, but be more sexually aggressive.

Note how I left 50% of the time for her? I’m happy to be assertive, but if he’s not matching it with the same energy (read: 50/50) then it’s a turnoff.

Keeping tabs is petty and huge turnoff for men and women alike.

Men don’t like “keeping tabs” because they’re lazy AF and don’t like to get called on it.

Keeping tabs is about the unsexiest thing ever - for both sexes

And yet “she’s mad so she told me her entire list of things she’s been mad about ever since the start of the relationship” is every woman ever.

It's not every woman ever. (I'm a man, if it matters.)

If every woman you're with does this, perhaps the common denominator is you?

I’m sorry you are so stupid, and I’m fascinated by your eagerness to display your stupidity in public.

[Anonymous]

Why not just pick out some of your favorite romance novel scenes and ask him to roleplay them with you? I do that with my wife sometimes and its resulted in some really hot times.