Did you disclose your voice activated recording?

[Anonymous]

In addition to gut feeling and a few other signs, I was only able to confirm my spouse’s emotional affair through a voice recording. He only lies otherwise and I am tempted to end it by telling him but since it’s illegal I can’t. He has denied and seems to be trying but I will not be able to trust him. I can go on living my life well-or make my kids life harder by separating and handing him over to the other woman who also happens to be a colleague (single)

[Anonymous]

Not illegal in many states.

[Anonymous]

If you can’t trust him then rip off the band aid. You’re just going to get more miserable if you force yourself to stay for the kids. Keep in mind that he might end up leaving anyways.

[Anonymous]

Divorce.
You know your husband is both cheating and lying to your face about it.

[Anonymous]

What state are you in? One party consent in VA. But, really, recorded proof of an emotional affair isn't likely to change much should you end up in court – so decide what you want to do about this and go from there.

I'm sorry. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

You’re not doing your kids any favors by staying with this POS. Lawyer up and document everything; go for his pocketbook and especially his retirement. Dont tell him anything. When you’re ready to serve papers, let the papers be his notice.

[Anonymous]

You can confront him with the voice recording, but you cannot use it in court if you recorded it in a state that requires two party consent.

What's he going to do to you if you show it to him in private? Nothing.

[Anonymous]

Not in court by you can keep it and use it how however you want.

Texas would allow it in court. Ie unbounded voice or video recordings.

[Anonymous]

Workplace affairs are stupid. Don't hand him over even if you're headed for divorce.

I would ask him to let you meet her to prove there's nothing going on. Or ask him to meet you for lunch one a week. Mess with their routine. She will notice.

[Anonymous]

pretty sure its only illegal in a court of law. You arent suing him, youre divorcing him and using it as leverage because hes such a piece of sh*t.

[Anonymous]

How can you realistically live a “well” life w/a person who has lied ➕ betrayed you in the worst way OP??

It will be nearly impossible.
If you ever want your life to end up well, then you need to remove yourself from this toxic man.

Sorry if this all sounds harsh - - but it is really the cold hard truth.

Wishing you & your children only the very best in your future endeavors. ❤️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In addition to gut feeling and a few other signs, I was only able to confirm my spouse’s emotional affair through a voice recording. He only lies otherwise and I am tempted to end it by telling him but since it’s illegal I can’t. He has denied and seems to be trying but I will not be able to trust him. I can go on living my life well-or make my kids life harder by separating and handing him over to the other woman who also happens to be a colleague (single)

Sorry I know you’re emotional right now but this is kinda dumb. No one is going to care that you recorded him. Do you know how many lawsuits judges would have to sort through with this sort of domestic drama if they did??

Of course you can confront him with it. But it won’t matter in a court for divorce purposes.

[Anonymous]

So the divorce fanboys, should be fangals, are at it again. All the SAHMS can now follow suit l, get 1/2 of everything including his retirement and if they could, the shirt off his back. Then find another sucker and repeat. Nothing but damn gold diggers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What state are you in? One party consent in VA. But, really, recorded proof of an emotional affair isn't likely to change much should you end up in court – so decide what you want to do about this and go from there.

I'm sorry. It sucks.

This. You have the proof so now you know. It's not useful for anything other than informing you.

[Anonymous]

My xH had an emotional affair and I collected evidence from his phone. Pages of evidence.

None of it mattered. He continued to deny, deny, deny. I could literally show him copies of his texts and he would deny. And when I kicked him out, he didn’t even care. No begging or promises to change.

Confrontation feels like it will be rewarding but the reality is that it isn’t. Either they’re like mine and don’t care, or they do have an emotional reaction (crying, begging, etc) and you still have to live with the fact that they are only sorry they got caught.