Would You Divorce If Adult Child Would Reject You?

[Anonymous]

Here is the situation. I filed for divorce from my W of 25 years over a year ago. We are coming up on a court date in June. W never hired a lawyer. She asked the court for a continuance and her request was denied. She is now in full panic mode. My DD has called my several times almost begging me to give her mother more time. She says my unwillingness to give more time to her mom shows what kind of man I am. Fit background I did offer a separation and property settlement that my W threw in the trash and then waited six months before filing for divorce. W says she never read anything my lawyer sent, and she has claimed she never saw the original complaint b/c DD threw it away. I love my DD, but feel her mother is manipulating her and that if I don’t bend I may have an irreparable break with her. My lawyer advised against continuing. I’m feeling very stressed. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure you're a troll, but out of curiosity, what's the reason you think she doesn't want a divorce? Money? Social pressure from her family?

[Anonymous]

Weird.

Adult child should know how procedural things go. Yes your spouse is stalling and stonewalling.

Perhaps the reason(s) for the divorce need to be more meaningfully addressed? Both with your soon to be Ex spouse and your adult children.

[Anonymous]

Of course. Time to live your life.

[Anonymous]

At this point just finish it.

[Anonymous]

Oh for pity's sakes. She's the mother of your child. Give her the continuation already. Don't know the specifics but she likely needs more time to figure things out. Was the divorce expected, or did you spring this on her? Was she a SAHM or have an outside job? Can she support herself on one income, or is she going to have to move into a hovel to make ends meet?

Your DD will never forgive you if you force her mother to suffer. I know of several divorces that went badly for dad-child relationship when they caused financial disaster for the ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Your adult child has a right to make their own opinions and decisions. She thinks you are being unfair, and that’s not likely to change. Take care to think about your next moves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for pity's sakes. She's the mother of your child. Give her the continuation already. Don't know the specifics but she likely needs more time to figure things out. Was the divorce expected, or did you spring this on her? Was she a SAHM or have an outside job? Can she support herself on one income, or is she going to have to move into a hovel to make ends meet?

Your DD will never forgive you if you force her mother to suffer. I know of several divorces that went badly for dad-child relationship when they caused financial disaster for the ex-wife.

+1

You’ve been warned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation. I filed for divorce from my W of 25 years over a year ago. We are coming up on a court date in June. W never hired a lawyer. She asked the court for a continuance and her request was denied. She is now in full panic mode. My DD has called my several times almost begging me to give her mother more time. She says my unwillingness to give more time to her mom shows what kind of man I am. Fit background I did offer a separation and property settlement that my W threw in the trash and then waited six months before filing for divorce. W says she never read anything my lawyer sent, and she has claimed she never saw the original complaint b/c DD threw it away. I love my DD, but feel her mother is manipulating her and that if I don’t bend I may have an irreparable break with her. My lawyer advised against continuing. I’m feeling very stressed. WWYD?

Do what your lawyer says: go to court in the court date.

The end.

Document all previous communications and have judge deal with it.

Too bad mediation wasn’t seriously considered by your spouse. Is she ESOL or poor or uneducated or high conflict?

Also too bad your children are involved in this whatsoever. Is your spouse a very codependent needy or mentally ill person who is dysfunctional? Unf she may dump on your adult child for the rest of their lives.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean that your dd wants you to give her mother more time? She wants you to give more time meaning don’t divorce? Or she wants you to wait and delay the divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation. I filed for divorce from my W of 25 years over a year ago. We are coming up on a court date in June. W never hired a lawyer. She asked the court for a continuance and her request was denied.

She is now in full panic mode. My DD has called my several times almost begging me to give her mother more time. She says my unwillingness to give more time to her mom shows what kind of man I am.

Fit background I did offer a separation and property settlement that my W threw in the trash and then waited six months before filing for divorce. W says she never read anything my lawyer sent, and she has claimed she never saw the original complaint b/c DD threw it away. I love my DD, but feel her mother is manipulating her and that if I don’t bend I may have an irreparable break with her. My lawyer advised against continuing. I’m feeling very stressed. WWYD?

Weird

How’d she ask the court and judge for this? Did she mess up the form or request? Use a lawyer? Have a friend or your kid do it?

Those aren’t usually denied.

[Anonymous]

Why would your “lawyer advise AGAINST continuing”? Are they a family relations psychologist too? Is something else going on here you have not told us?

Lol.

A lawyer turning down court fees and a contempt of court counter-party $$$$$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation. I filed for divorce from my W of 25 years over a year ago. We are coming up on a court date in June. W never hired a lawyer. She asked the court for a continuance and her request was denied. She is now in full panic mode. My DD has called my several times almost begging me to give her mother more time. She says my unwillingness to give more time to her mom shows what kind of man I am. Fit background I did offer a separation and property settlement that my W threw in the trash and then waited six months before filing for divorce. W says she never read anything my lawyer sent, and she has claimed she never saw the original complaint b/c DD threw it away. I love my DD, but feel her mother is manipulating her and that if I don’t bend I may have an irreparable break with her. My lawyer advised against continuing. I’m feeling very stressed. WWYD?

Are we supposed to believe a grown @$$ man wrote the above WWYD post?!?

Troll city summer is full force.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation. I filed for divorce from my W of 25 years over a year ago. We are coming up on a court date in June. W never hired a lawyer. She asked the court for a continuance and her request was denied. She is now in full panic mode. My DD has called my several times almost begging me to give her mother more time. She says my unwillingness to give more time to her mom shows what kind of man I am. Fit background I did offer a separation and property settlement that my W threw in the trash and then waited six months before filing for divorce. W says she never read anything my lawyer sent, and she has claimed she never saw the original complaint b/c DD threw it away. I love my DD, but feel her mother is manipulating her and that if I don’t bend I may have an irreparable break with her. My lawyer advised against continuing. I’m feeling very stressed. WWYD?

Are we supposed to believe a grown @$$ man wrote the above WWYD post?!?

Troll city summer is full force.

+1 the troll caps in the subject line were a nice touch too.

[Anonymous]

My marriage has been very high conflict. My D has witnessed it. There are things I’ve told my D that are only between her mother and I x d I will not discuss them her. I’m asking for a split of assets 52 percent in wife’s favor, but she says that’s not reasonable.

She went to court pro se and filed for the continuance. She claimed she did not see the original complaint b/c the process server gave it to my D who was home at the time. She also made other claims that my lawyer and I ambushed and misled her. She says she requested the continuance so she could get a lawyer. The judge denied her request. She waited too long.

Why would I write this? Because I’m stressed.