Location sharing with spouse

[Anonymous]

My husband and I shared location for about 20 years and very rarely I checked-only when he was flying in late or sometimes was working late. FF about two years ago, his location sometimes used to be off but I never paid attention until....here I am staring at a full-blown affair and just signed a retainer for a lawyer!

[Anonymous]

Not only is he banging somebody else, but I bet $50 it's someone you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We share. We have nothing to hide. If you are freaking out—that shows me you have something to be worried about. If your lives are as boring as ours it’s no big deal

Do you feel the same way about government surveillance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it would never occur to me to track my spouse. Like WTAF.

It has nothing to do with tracking someone. My wife has shared her location with me for over 10 years. I have maybe looked at it 5 times. 2 of those times were at her requewst to judge approximate meeting times because she would be on conference call and would not be able to update me along her route. The other 3 times were just random logistical checks so I didn't need to bother her with a phone call or text.

I share my location with her and don't know or care if she checks it.

I don't know why you would jump straight to "tracking" as the sole reason when there are numerous other reasons.

I can't tell you the number of times my wife and I used each other's locations to locate each other at kids baseall tournaments.

[Anonymous]

If someone doesn't want to be tracked, the most logical explanation is they don't agree with the principle that tracking is a good idea. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it would never occur to me to track my spouse. Like WTAF.

It has nothing to do with tracking someone. My wife has shared her location with me for over 10 years. I have maybe looked at it 5 times. 2 of those times were at her requewst to judge approximate meeting times because she would be on conference call and would not be able to update me along her route. The other 3 times were just random logistical checks so I didn't need to bother her with a phone call or text.

I share my location with her and don't know or care if she checks it.

I don't know why you would jump straight to "tracking" as the sole reason when there are numerous other reasons.

This. I occasionally check to see when my DH is on the train and heading home so I know to start dinner if it’s something time sensitive like burgers or steak. It’s hard for him to hear/talk on the train, so this is easier. It doesn’t matter to him because he has nothing to hide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone doesn't want to be tracked, the most logical explanation is they don't agree with the principle that tracking is a good idea. That's all.

They’d better never leave the house then!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone doesn't want to be tracked, the most logical explanation is they don't agree with the principle that tracking is a good idea. That's all.

This. Some people don't mind it, other people see it as intrusive. There's nothing intrinsically suspect about preferring not to.

[Anonymous]

We don't track and we also don't share phone passwords - again for no reason other than we just don't see the need and we like our privacy. We like still being two independent people.

It has never really been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We share. We have nothing to hide. If you are freaking out—that shows me you have something to be worried about. If your lives are as boring as ours it’s no big deal

Do you feel the same way about government surveillance?

Are you equating the father of my children and life partner of 28 years to a complete stranger?

You are the dumbest person I have encountered today. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We share. We have nothing to hide. If you are freaking out—that shows me you have something to be worried about. If your lives are as boring as ours it’s no big deal

Do you feel the same way about government surveillance?

Again, you all shock me. You cannot see the difference between sharing information with your spouse and with the U.S. government.

Some of you have lost all common sense and logic. Assuming you had it to begin with with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't track and we also don't share phone passwords - again for no reason other than we just don't see the need and we like our privacy. We like still being two independent people.

It has never really been an issue.

You think location sharing morphs you into someone who is not independent? But you somehow think you are not dependent on your spouse but the vary nature of them being your spouse?

[Anonymous]

np here. Hey! do whatever you want -- those who want to share. Share! Many of us do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you’re going to do what you’re going to do, and make excuses six ways to Sunday for his refusal and hesitancy to be “surveilled”. But as someone who used Find My to discover my husband’s infidelity (and ignored it and made excuses for it), I’d bet real money he’s up to something.

I encourage you to look into betrayal blindness, because it’s what you’re doing. Betrayal blindness is not allowing yourself to see what is going on, to connect the dots, or to fully engage with reality, because if you did, the information would threaten your relationship with the person who is most important to you.

Your husband is up to something.

OP said he did eventually share it though.

[Anonymous]

Of course we share location. We also share with our adult kids.