Location sharing with spouse

[Anonymous]

It honestly never even crossed my mind to do this. I only ever share location when we're trying to find each other out somewhere.

This just seems way too controlling and paranoid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This one is simple…..

If your spouse or s/o has an issue w/you knowing their location at all times then there is something fundamental that they are trying to hide.😶‍🌫️

I gave nothing sinister to hide, but I don’t like sharing my location . Sometimes I just want to be alone and no, I don’t want to have a therapy-speak conversation about it. I need some privacy.

So at these times you leave your phone elsewhere, right? Because if so, then anyone searching for your location wouldn't know where you were anyway. And if not, then you're not actually alone. At the very least, I bet Mark Zuckerberg knows exactly where you are.

Meaning I don’t want to explain to anyone why I’m driving aimlessly for 30 minutes. I doubt Zuckerberg is asking me for any explanations. But you knew that already and knew what I meant.

Here's the thing - if you are married to someone who would require you to explain why you're driving aimlessly for 30 minutes, then THAT is your problem. I actually have driven aimlessly for 30 minutes many times. Or I've sat in an empty parking lot. Or I've sat in the parking lot of a McDonald's eating an ice cream sundae. Not once has my husband asked me what I was doing during that time. I'm pretty sure he never checked my location during that time either, but if he did, he never asked any questions.

Also, if you're driving around aimlessly, what's to stop your husband from texting or calling you?

[Anonymous]

I would be suspicious as to what my spouse is up to at home that they need to know where I am. Definitely hiding something if they want my location on. Guess it’s to be sure they can get their lover out the door before I am home.

[Anonymous]

Hands free calling and texting has been around for ages. Most cars are equipped with systems that allow one to communicate without needing to find their phone and hold it.

Strange that everyone on here who is pro location sharing has such old cars that they aren't even aware of that option.

All of this - well, it would be so incredibly distacting to his driving that I can't call or text when he is on the road so tracking him is the only way I can know where he is. It is 2026!

And I bet if we actually looked at the data - we would see these same people who are checking their spouses locations have also texted / called their spouses on the road.

[Anonymous]

To answer OP’s original question of “is it weird?”

It’s normal for some people to want location sharing.

It’s normal for other people to want privacy.

You aren’t automatically entitled to location sharing just because it’s your preference.

If you want it that badly, you can have a conversation, but then you need to respect your spouse’s boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband, teenage kids, and I all share locations with each other. It is a basic safety issue and also convenient when I can see he hasn't left work yet so won't be home for dinner in 15 minutes or the kids are still at a friend's and haven't been picked up yet. We trust each other, I can't imagine a reason we wouldn't do this.

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It honestly never even crossed my mind to do this. I only ever share location when we're trying to find each other out somewhere.

This just seems way too controlling and paranoid.

I was with you for the first paragraph. Sharing locations is not, generally, for you. Totally cool. But you lack imagination about other people's lives if your only conclusion for why they might find location sharing useful is that they are "controlling and paranoid."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This one is simple…..

If your spouse or s/o has an issue w/you knowing their location at all times then there is something fundamental that they are trying to hide.😶‍🌫️

I gave nothing sinister to hide, but I don’t like sharing my location . Sometimes I just want to be alone and no, I don’t want to have a therapy-speak conversation about it. I need some privacy.

So at these times you leave your phone elsewhere, right? Because if so, then anyone searching for your location wouldn't know where you were anyway. And if not, then you're not actually alone. At the very least, I bet Mark Zuckerberg knows exactly where you are.

Meaning I don’t want to explain to anyone why I’m driving aimlessly for 30 minutes. I doubt Zuckerberg is asking me for any explanations. But you knew that already and knew what I meant.

Here's the thing - if you are married to someone who would require you to explain why you're driving aimlessly for 30 minutes, then THAT is your problem. I actually have driven aimlessly for 30 minutes many times. Or I've sat in an empty parking lot. Or I've sat in the parking lot of a McDonald's eating an ice cream sundae. Not once has my husband asked me what I was doing during that time. I'm pretty sure he never checked my location during that time either, but if he did, he never asked any questions.

Also, if you're driving around aimlessly, what's to stop your husband from texting or calling you?

My DH actually asks me very little in cases like this. I think you and I are just fundamentally different people. And that's OK.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

Absolutely! And all because of location tracking technology! It's wondrous stuff.

[Anonymous]

My husband would probably roll his eyes and say "sure" - but we've never shared our location with each other because we don't feel the need to track.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

Absolutely! And all because of location tracking technology! It's wondrous stuff.

While it may have made some situations safer, it has also made a lot more situations unsafe. If you watch crime shows / body cam footage, location tracking is used frequently for stalking, covering tracks, etc. I am not sure if it is net good or net bad when it comes to safety.

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

Absolutely! And all because of location tracking technology! It's wondrous stuff.

While it may have made some situations safer, it has also made a lot more situations unsafe. If you watch crime shows / body cam footage, location tracking is used frequently for stalking, covering tracks, etc. I am not sure if it is net good or net bad when it comes to safety.

My husband and my son aren't doing any of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

Absolutely! And all because of location tracking technology! It's wondrous stuff.

While it may have made some situations safer, it has also made a lot more situations unsafe. If you watch crime shows / body cam footage, location tracking is used frequently for stalking, covering tracks, etc. I am not sure if it is net good or net bad when it comes to safety.

My husband and my son aren't doing any of that.

Well teens have picked up on the messaging that sharing locations is how it should be...and they share with pretty much everyone. Half their social media posts are location tagged, they share on snapchat etc. You might think this is all very innocent and safe and there is zero risk to teens sharing their locations as that is what trusting, caring people do...but what I am saying, is that actually isn't always the case.

The comment was that we are now safer in the world than 30 years ago because of location sharing - and my point was that view is a little naive. Location sharing isn't always safe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For me this is a safety issue first and foremost. I absolutely want my husband to know where I am and vice versa. Same with our kids.

+1 Teen gets their driver’s license and these weirdos are just like “Best of luck to you!” Back in the day, before this technology, caring parents white-knuckled it until their new drivers came home. So thankful for location sharing. It absolutely reduces anxiety tremendously.

Yes, how ever did people make it through life without having the option of constantly knowing where people were at every minute of the day?!? We are SO much safer now with people driving while looking at their phones so they can track DH's pit stop at the liquor store!

We are a lot safer these days than we were 30 years ago. It's not even close.

Absolutely! And all because of location tracking technology! It's wondrous stuff.

While it may have made some situations safer, it has also made a lot more situations unsafe. If you watch crime shows / body cam footage, location tracking is used frequently for stalking, covering tracks, etc. I am not sure if it is net good or net bad when it comes to safety.

My husband and my son aren't doing any of that.

Well teens have picked up on the messaging that sharing locations is how it should be...and they share with pretty much everyone. Half their social media posts are location tagged, they share on snapchat etc. You might think this is all very innocent and safe and there is zero risk to teens sharing their locations as that is what trusting, caring people do...but what I am saying, is that actually isn't always the case.

The comment was that we are now safer in the world than 30 years ago because of location sharing - and my point was that view is a little naive. Location sharing isn't always safe.

Nothing is always safe and no one was claiming that. It's a net positive that the technology we have today allows us to be more safe.