Location sharing with spouse

[Anonymous]

The man just wants his space, let him have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it would never occur to me to track my spouse. Like WTAF.

Everyone in our family has Find My IPhone for each other. We use it to help each other find our phones. I’m surprised that you have never lost your phone in your house or car. Granted our house is 7,000 sq ft, but still. Plus, I use it for safety for my daughter and me. I absolutely want my husband to know where we are. And he doesn’t have anything to hide so he doesn’t mind sharing his location.

[Anonymous]

My husband balked at sharing his location as we were adding our kids to our cell phone plan. then he turned it on and off. I didn't think anything of it.
Then a year later he lfeft us, saying he was unhappy. then with minimal digging, I discovered his 1-2 year long affair with co-worker.
All his shady behavior began to make sense.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 sets of family sharing, one with our nuclear family (2 adults + 2 teens) and one with my original nuclear family (elderly parents, me and sibling, sibling suggested it, and surprisingly, paranoid elderly father agreed).

[Anonymous]

I find it weird not to share with spouse and kids. I got stuck a few times and he found us no issue with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it would never occur to me to track my spouse. Like WTAF.

Everyone in our family has Find My IPhone for each other. We use it to help each other find our phones. I’m surprised that you have never lost your phone in your house or car. Granted our house is 7,000 sq ft, but still. Plus, I use it for safety for my daughter and me. I absolutely want my husband to know where we are. And he doesn’t have anything to hide so he doesn’t mind sharing his location.

I recently lost my phone in a park and the only reason I found it was because my DH could use his phone to track it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man just wants his space, let him have it.

I don't get how he wouldn't be having space by sharing his location. Doesn't his spouse already know where he is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels odd as most people's only experience with location sharing is before 21 with their moms monitoring it to keep them out of trouble. The idea of someone only using your location even if only for emergencies sounds like parenting to them.

How old are you? No, this isn’t “most people’s” only or first experience with location sharing.

[Anonymous]

I don't currently, nor does my husband with me. But if that was his reaction? I'd be going through is phone TODAY. That response is suspicious AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The man just wants his space, let him have it.

To cheat? Yes, that's exactly what he wants.

[Anonymous]

Its a really weird and immature reaction, kind of suspicious. But its fine to not want to be tracked, especially if your spouse wants to know how close you are to do quick errands for them. I think most people would not find those asks so innocent, its a bit controlling as you wouldn't know what they still have for work or other issues that they then need to notify you of all small things.
If its just used out of safety and not judged, questioned or used to justify demands, it would be ok. If spouse doesn't mind extra errand asks based on where partner sees your location, then that is great for you but not something all are comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

We used to share locations. His hours were erratic and it was easier to check if he’d left work at the end of the day than for him to call and say he was on his way and less annoying than me calling him and “hounding” him. I used it to time dinner. Not a big deal, or so I thought.

When he walked out on me, it was one of the reasons he gave — saying he felt trapped because “I was constantly monitoring him.”

Of course it was an affair. I had no idea because I wasn’t actually tracking him.

Divorced now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, it would never occur to me to track my spouse. Like WTAF.

My spouse and I share locations, not to "track" each other but for convenience. I'll say I'm heading to a happy hour with my office and 2 hours later he can see I'm still there and he should just grab his own dinner, or vice versa. We trust each other and each do social things without each other, but don't have to text or call to coordinate plans as much. In the unlikely event of some emergency, like the time my car broke down on the side of a rural road, he was able to locate me and get me some assistance.

Same plus we share with our kids. Honestly I feel like my family is interested in my activities and cares about me when they check, not spying or monitoring me for bad actions when they look. DH recently said the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband, teenage kids, and I all share locations with each other. It is a basic safety issue and also convenient when I can see he hasn't left work yet so won't be home for dinner in 15 minutes or the kids are still at a friend's and haven't been picked up yet. We trust each other, I can't imagine a reason we wouldn't do this.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We used to share locations. His hours were erratic and it was easier to check if he’d left work at the end of the day than for him to call and say he was on his way and less annoying than me calling him and “hounding” him. I used it to time dinner. Not a big deal, or so I thought.

When he walked out on me, it was one of the reasons he gave — saying he felt trapped because “I was constantly monitoring him.”

Of course it was an affair. I had no idea because I wasn’t actually tracking him.

Divorced now.

Yup, he was upset that you could track him because he was actually sneaking around having an affair.