Would you date a bisexual man?

[Anonymous]

Gen Z and younger Millennial women seem to be really OK with this. In fact, some of them explicitly want a bisexual male partner/husband so they can bring another man into the bedroom. A threesome with two bisexual men seems to be a huge fantasy for a meaningful portion of that generation of women.

[Anonymous]

Michael Barbaro, the guy from the New York Times podcast “the daily” was married to a man. He divorced and has been in a relationship with a woman for several years. They just had a kid.
Personally I’d love to date a bi-guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Michael Barbaro, the guy from the New York Times podcast “the daily” was married to a man. He divorced and has been in a relationship with a woman for several years. They just had a kid.
Personally I’d love to date a bi-guy.

Why?

[Anonymous]

My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

PP, you said you like the idea of an MMF, but have you done it?

[Anonymous]

"Bi men are really gay but won't admit it."
"Bi women are really straight but want attention."

Both of these statements assume that a female partner is the lesser option. It's insidiously misogynistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Bi men are really gay but won't admit it."
"Bi women are really straight but want attention."

Both of these statements assume that a female partner is the lesser option. It's insidiously misogynistic.

From the same sad poster who thinks people are bi-phobic because someone won’t date her.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Bi men are gay. Period.

/mom of a bi son who agrees 100%

So is your Bi son gay or Bi. Troll FAIL. Or did you mean Bison? 🦬

Definitely not a troll. My son had been in a serious relationship with his boyfriend for four years. (He is a young adult). He has had sex with women. Usually after a few drinks. I remember talking to him about it when he was younger because I was concerned. He says it’s “fun and different”, but he could never be in an actual relationship with a women. So, he is sexually attracted to some women. But, he is gay. There is no “bi”.

Makes sense why some g a y men hit on a puzzled me

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Anonymous wrote:What about guys who are into ladyboys?
I think that is still in the range of into feminine, right?
So maybe that is fine.

I assume you mean ts? No gay guy is into ts girls regardless of the equipment they are packing. That is a straight guy thing only.

So if a guy is into fem ts's (i.e chicks with dicks)... do they count as bi or straight?

Gay

So which is it? Ladyboys are for straight guys only, or gay?

[Anonymous]

Core issue for OP is:

- how can you stay married for life, and exclusive, with a man who has unfulfilled sexual desires involving a whole gender you do not possess?

Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

That makes sense. A MFF threesome has been the male fantasy for as long as time, MMF seems like the female equivalent

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Anonymous wrote:No. Call me biphobic if you want, but I don’t believe I owe anyone dates if I don’t want to date them. You’re allowed to say no to anyone for any reason.

I think women are guilt tripped enough into dating men they don’t want to date without also adding this to the list.

Don't use Feminism to cover up your Queerphobia. Lemme guess you are a TERF too, eh?

I’m not. But bottom line is, no one has to date anyone they don’t want to date for any reason at all.

I think part of the problem is we’ve equated “sexual attraction” with “human rights”. Doing so means that only people we find sexually/romantically attractive deserve rights. I can recognize that everyone is human deserving of certain rights, without needing to be attracted or romantically interested in them. Just like I’m not romantically interested in certain ethnicities, people in larger bodies, people with lower intelligence, etc but I still recognize their humanity.

I am Black and only interested in dating Black women so shove your shock face wherever you want but there is nothing wrong with these feelings, nor if someone from any other race feels the same way.

Sorry I can't accept whites saying they only want to date whites. B.c that's what the Klan people from my hometown say.

When whites say this, it’s an expression of racism.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Call me biphobic if you want, but I don’t believe I owe anyone dates if I don’t want to date them. You’re allowed to say no to anyone for any reason.

I think women are guilt tripped enough into dating men they don’t want to date without also adding this to the list.

Don't use Feminism to cover up your Queerphobia. Lemme guess you are a TERF too, eh?

I’m not. But bottom line is, no one has to date anyone they don’t want to date for any reason at all.

I think part of the problem is we’ve equated “sexual attraction” with “human rights”. Doing so means that only people we find sexually/romantically attractive deserve rights. I can recognize that everyone is human deserving of certain rights, without needing to be attracted or romantically interested in them. Just like I’m not romantically interested in certain ethnicities, people in larger bodies, people with lower intelligence, etc but I still recognize their humanity.

I am Black and only interested in dating Black women so shove your shock face wherever you want but there is nothing wrong with these feelings, nor if someone from any other race feels the same way.

Sorry I can't accept whites saying they only want to date whites. B.c that's what the Klan people from my hometown say.

PP here. Funny thing is, when I said I’m not interested in certain ethnicities…..I’m not attracted to white men. Like at all. MY H and almost all the men I’ve dated are BIPOC. I’m sure now you’ll say I’m fetishizing them, so I can’t really win.

Interesting how your mind went to “whites only dating whites” when it could have meant a wide variety of things.

B.c I've heard so many White Supremacists saying it for so many years and when they do its extremely upsetting.

Do you think people should date people they’re not attracted to? Because I can’t think of anything worse than being led on by someone who isn’t really attracted to me, but is using me to check a box and appear a certain way. I’d rather they just date who they want to date.

DP but I’m white but generally only attracted to POC too. I thought this was a known fact, you can’t really change your sexual preferences. People don’t go around actively shunning non-preferred ethnicities (and I‘ve dated a few white people), but you are generally attracted to a type.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious. Some women don't care at all, some care a lot. (And no, I'm not a bisexual man, I'm a heterosexual woman who would date a bisexual man in the right circumstances)

Are you saying he likes giving and receiving? And is sexually aroused by men’s bodies? Or just the former?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

That makes sense. A MFF threesome has been the male fantasy for as long as time, MMF seems like the female equivalent

The above is interesting and I wonder if its true. I think its pretty well know that the man in an MFF doesn't view the F's activities as cheating or problematic. However, it seems to me many women in an MMF would react emotionally to the M's behavior. I think women would prefer an MFM, but that wouldn't require bisexuality, so it's not relevant to this thread.