Would you date a bisexual man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is bi and I love it! We’ve been together for 10 years so I’m pretty sure he’s not gay because we’ve had sex thousands of times. I’m a millennial and I find the idea of a MMF threesome very hot. I doubt he has ever been unfaithful because we are very open about the fact we are both still attracted to other people but monogamy is a choice not the result of lack of options.

But my favorite part of my husband being bi is that it really opened the door to challenging other gender stereotypes. My husband makes the $$$, works as an executive, vacuums and does the laundry without being asked, grocery shops and cooks without being micromanaged, and is great with kids. My life is easy.

That makes sense. A MFF threesome has been the male fantasy for as long as time, MMF seems like the female equivalent

The above is interesting and I wonder if its true. I think its pretty well know that the man in an MFF doesn't view the F's activities as cheating or problematic. However, it seems to me many women in an MMF would react emotionally to the M's behavior. I think women would prefer an MFM, but that wouldn't require bisexuality, so it's not relevant to this thread.

NP. Yeah, I'm a F who desires a MFM. Repulsed by a MMF.

Aren't these the same? MMF=MMF

No, the positions matter. The middle is who is getting pleasured by both of the others.
MFM= both men pleasure the F, not each other
MMF= The F and M all pleasure the other M (bi guy)
FMF= Both F pleasure the M
FFM= The F pleasure each other and the M (bi girl)

How do you write it if all three people are at one time or another pleasing each other? That's the best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

As a bi male are you monogamous and why do bi men often look for women on date apps?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

I think this is one reason many people would be reluctant to date someone they knew in advance was bisexual. If someone is very vocal about being bi, presumably it's a pretty big aspect of their identity, and that might mean that relationships with multiple genders are important to them. Whereas some people are just low key bi in that they don't limit their sexual options to one gender, but it's not like they are super invested in being seen as bi by other people. I know a decent number of bi women who are like this, and more than a few wound up marrying straight men and their bisexuality is kind of theoretical because they have no plans to ever have sex with a woman in the future. But the point is that they are attracted to women sometimes in addition to being attracted to men. It's not a big deal.

Some of the people saying they wouldn't date a bi guy probably already have and just don't know. A lot of people are not vocal about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

As a bi male are you monogamous and why do bi men often look for women on date apps?

I'm married and not on the market.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

As a bi male are you monogamous and why do bi men often look for women on date apps?

I'm married and not on the market.

Does your wife know?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - does your brother know the laws of the country re: custody - it seems that if possible he would want as much visitation as possible, and ahve it all in a legally enforceable agreement

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[Anonymous]

I love MMF which is why I date bi guys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Michael Barbaro, the guy from the New York Times podcast “the daily” was married to a man. He divorced and has been in a relationship with a woman for several years. They just had a kid.
Personally I’d love to date a bi-guy.

Why?

Different poster, but I love bi guys because they know how to give and receive better than straight men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Michael Barbaro, the guy from the New York Times podcast “the daily” was married to a man. He divorced and has been in a relationship with a woman for several years. They just had a kid.
Personally I’d love to date a bi-guy.

Why?

Different poster, but I love bi guys because they know how to give and receive better than straight men.

Are you referring to oral sex, or something else?

And what is the reasoning behind your opinion? Not that I'm disegreeing, just wondering.

[Anonymous]

No, would rather not be exposed to STDs. I also wouldn't have sex with a hetero man who didn't wan to be exclusive, so there's that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

How does a woman even know the guy is bisexual unless he tells her.

I'm a bisexual male, an unless I choose to tell people, they wouldn't know.

As a bi male are you monogamous and why do bi men often look for women on date apps?

I'm married and not on the market.

Since this site is for dads (and some moms too), my guess is 90% of the readers are also in monogamous married relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are insane. First of all, no, not wanting to date a bisexual man isn't "biphobic" and you're all acting like right-wing trolls. "I GUESS THAT MAKES ME BIPHOBIC." Literally no one said that. If you're not attracted to them, don't date them. I'm not attracted to Asian men so I don't date Asian men. That's not racist, that's just a preference. Literally no one said you were biphobic other than maybe a Jacobin writer so stop playing the martyr.

Second of all, while, yes, a lot of gay and bisexual people are more, uh, kinky, I don't think that's true of all of them. Dating a bisexual doesn't automatically equate to "you need to be in an open relationship and have nightly MMF threesomes." Wtf.

Literally someone on this thread DID say that and that is what people are responding to:

5. It is Bi-phobic to not date a Bisexual person. You are literally afraid of them and have prejudices against them. That's what a phobia is. That's what this entire thread is.

When you tell people they are biphobic for not wanting to date someone who is bisexual, even if they are in every other way tolerant and open to bi people (as friends, coworkers, as people with rights, as people who should get to choose their own sexual partners and not be persecuted for it), then yes, you wind up with a lot of people defensively saying they are NOT biphobic for not wanting to date a bisexual person.

Also, no one equated bisexuality with wanting an open marriage or having nightly threesomes. But some posters have said that one reason they are unlikely to date a bisexual person is that there is a higher likelihood that a bisexual person might want an open relationship in the future (if, say, they find over the longterm that marriage to a person of one gender does not enable them to sufficiently express their bisexuality) or might be more interested in exploring bisexual experiences like threesomes. I don't find open marriages or threesomes taboo or a mark of immorality, so I don't think the supposition that a bisexual person might be more interested in them, statistically, to be some kind of insult. It is reasonable for a straight person to be concerned that a longterm relationship with someone who knows they are attracted to multiple genders might cause issues down the road.

Literally this entire thread is full of people who are fully convinced that Bi people are inherently cheaters and absolutely incapable of monogamy. And that's a crappy, phobic, prejudiced
way of thinking.

Again is it OK for me to say I wouldn't date a religious person because I think they are repressed and into water sports?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, would rather not be exposed to STDs. I also wouldn't have sex with a hetero man who didn't wan to be exclusive, so there's that.

So you are assuming Bi people aren't monogamous. That's just not true.