Where can I meet a 38+ guy that I’d actually be into dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real, right?



I mean...this isn't real, guys, right???

I'm a recently divorced, good looking guy who makes about 175. Yes I pay child support/alimony but I do just fine.

LOL at this lady and her "250 after everything" demand. Legit lol, and makes me think the whole post is trolling.

Child support of course. But seriously you pay alimony in the year 2021? Why? Did you marry an incompetent retard who cannot support herself?

[Anonymous]

Wow, nice use of the R word buddy. Lovely.

I only pay child support, but I used the term collectively since a previous poster mentioned alimony as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank goodness I'm married. After reading DCUM posts, I don't think I could handle the modern dating world.

I fell in love at 19. I had no clue what my future DH would ultimately earn, nor did I care. Fast forward 25+ years, and I out-earn him by $100k. NBD. I value him for the kind husband, father, and person he is. And, he's only 5'8" to boot.

I don't mean to be harsh, OP, but your checklist will prevent you from finding a partner. I have to wonder if you even really want a new partner given the barriers you are throwing up. Why do you really want a partner? Do you even want to remarry someday? Do you truly want to build a marriage and blended family with someone new?

It seems like you need to eliminate anyone who wants their own kids since you can't provide that. That leaves you with men who don't want their own kids but will tolerate your kids (assuming you eventually want to incorporate him into your family life...but perhaps you don't). Maybe you really just want a very independent boyfriend who will hang out and travel with you when you don't have the kids? Try to find someone who values independence then.

And remember: if you have criteria, so do they. An aging woman with kids, an ex, and strong expectations about income likely isn't going to be a catch.

Did you even read OP's post? She's happy to date divorced me who have children. She just doesn't want to have more children herself.

Wealthy divorced men with kids are on the hook to support their ex and children. It’s doubtful they will invest in her family or meet her post-alimony/child support requirements. She’s looking for a unicorn.

Her best bet is a wealthy man-child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real, right?



I mean...this isn't real, guys, right???

I'm a recently divorced, good looking guy who makes about 175. Yes I pay child support/alimony but I do just fine.

LOL at this lady and her "250 after everything" demand. Legit lol, and makes me think the whole post is trolling.

Child support of course. But seriously you pay alimony in the year 2021? Why? Did you marry an incompetent retard who cannot support herself?

Why do you use the word “retard” in the year 2021? It was cool when you were a teen in the 80’s but not anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank goodness I'm married. After reading DCUM posts, I don't think I could handle the modern dating world.

I fell in love at 19. I had no clue what my future DH would ultimately earn, nor did I care. Fast forward 25+ years, and I out-earn him by $100k. NBD. I value him for the kind husband, father, and person he is. And, he's only 5'8" to boot.

I don't mean to be harsh, OP, but your checklist will prevent you from finding a partner. I have to wonder if you even really want a new partner given the barriers you are throwing up. Why do you really want a partner? Do you even want to remarry someday? Do you truly want to build a marriage and blended family with someone new?

It seems like you need to eliminate anyone who wants their own kids since you can't provide that. That leaves you with men who don't want their own kids but will tolerate your kids (assuming you eventually want to incorporate him into your family life...but perhaps you don't). Maybe you really just want a very independent boyfriend who will hang out and travel with you when you don't have the kids? Try to find someone who values independence then.

And remember: if you have criteria, so do they. An aging woman with kids, an ex, and strong expectations about income likely isn't going to be a catch.

Did you even read OP's post? She's happy to date divorced me who have children. She just doesn't want to have more children herself.

Wealthy divorced men with kids are on the hook to support their ex and children. It’s doubtful they will invest in her family or meet her post-alimony/child support requirements. She’s looking for a unicorn.

Her best bet is a wealthy man-child.

A guy who makes $250k/ yr isn’t wealthy. He’s doing fine. He’s not a baller though let’s calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real, right?



I mean...this isn't real, guys, right???

I'm a recently divorced, good looking guy who makes about 175. Yes I pay child support/alimony but I do just fine.

LOL at this lady and her "250 after everything" demand. Legit lol, and makes me think the whole post is trolling.

Child support of course. But seriously you pay alimony in the year 2021? Why? Did you marry an incompetent retard who cannot support herself?

It happens because men are lazy and force their wives to drop out of the workforce to pick up their slack. Sad really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men who make 250k plus don’t want to marry a divorced mother of two. Sure there might be a few exceptions, but the universe of men who meet OPs requirements is vanishingly small, and out of those men the ones willing to be serious with her might as well be zero. OP needs to either lower her standards or start accumulating cats.

Normal men want women their own age and in similar places in life. It’s actually the rare guy chasing a childless 20 something woman to launch a second family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who make 250k plus don’t want to marry a divorced mother of two. Sure there might be a few exceptions, but the universe of men who meet OPs requirements is vanishingly small, and out of those men the ones willing to be serious with her might as well be zero. OP needs to either lower her standards or start accumulating cats.

Normal men want women their own age and in similar places in life. It’s actually the rare guy chasing a childless 20 something woman to launch a second family.

When a single guy with $250k+ is chasing childless 20 somethings it's for sex, not for having a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

The only way it would be reasonable or acceptable to have that kind of "income requirement" would be if SHE is either already wealthy or is making close to that much or more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men who make 250k plus don’t want to marry a divorced mother of two. Sure there might be a few exceptions, but the universe of men who meet OPs requirements is vanishingly small, and out of those men the ones willing to be serious with her might as well be zero. OP needs to either lower her standards or start accumulating cats.

Normal men want women their own age and in similar places in life. It’s actually the rare guy chasing a childless 20 something woman to launch a second family.

When a single guy with $250k+ is chasing childless 20 somethings it's for sex, not for having a family.

What kind of 20 something wants to have casual sex with a divorced dad pushing 40 cruising around Vienna, VA in his 2015 350i? It’s a really weird trope on this board, that this is something 25 yr old girls want. 25 yr old girls want 25 yr old guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

The only way it would be reasonable or acceptable to have that kind of "income requirement" would be if SHE is either already wealthy or is making close to that much or more.

She is making an income in that range. That’s why it’s a requirement. She doesn’t want to subsidize her boyfriend. Makes perfect sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

The only way it would be reasonable or acceptable to have that kind of "income requirement" would be if SHE is either already wealthy or is making close to that much or more.

She is making an income in that range. That’s why it’s a requirement. She doesn’t want to subsidize her boyfriend. Makes perfect sense.

Looking back at OP looks like she actually makes way more than $250k. Maybe she’s the one who should be fooling around with 25 yr olds...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

The only way it would be reasonable or acceptable to have that kind of "income requirement" would be if SHE is either already wealthy or is making close to that much or more.

She is making an income in that range. That’s why it’s a requirement. She doesn’t want to subsidize her boyfriend. Makes perfect sense.

If it made sense, she’d know how to meet men who fit her requirements. She doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet the income, height etc requirements ... but I'd be a little weirded out that the income is a 'requirement' ... and go with someone else. (married, so it's all hypothetical)

For me that kind of "income requirement" is a red flag and there's any number of words for that - gold digger, needy, high maintenance, etc...

The only way it would be reasonable or acceptable to have that kind of "income requirement" would be if SHE is either already wealthy or is making close to that much or more.

She is making an income in that range. That’s why it’s a requirement. She doesn’t want to subsidize her boyfriend. Makes perfect sense.

Looking back at OP looks like she actually makes way more than $250k. Maybe she’s the one who should be fooling around with 25 yr olds...

Totally! With that kind of money, you can afford to not care about theirs. You can find someone whose body/soul/brain/whatever you enjoy and pay for both of you to have nice times together. If more money is actually giving you fewer choices, you're doing something wrong.