Do any of your boyfriends/ husbands like you a normal weight vs skinny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a little doughy in college. I’d say upper range of normal BMI at around 165 lbs (I’m also 5’9” so that does make a difference). After college I got serious about my health, I was also a bit of a workaholic, and basically stopped drinking and going out because I had no time for all that. I dropped 30-35 lbs without even a thought and about 2 clothing sizes, just from being super busy and dropping a bunch of unhealthy habits. And I got SO MUCH attention from guys which I had never got before or since. It was crazy.

Sound good to me. Bra size?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generally, most husbands like their wife right at the weight when they started dating. So think back: were you skinny? Or normal? Whatever weight first attracted him, THAT is the target.

Sometimes what people like in clothes and what is amazing in the bedroom is different though.

But he saw you both in clothes and in the bedroom while dating. If he didn't like one or the other, the relationship never would have progressed into marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Generally, most husbands like their wife right at the weight when they started dating. So think back: were you skinny? Or normal? Whatever weight first attracted him, THAT is the target.

Sometimes what people like in clothes and what is amazing in the bedroom is different though.

But he saw you both in clothes and in the bedroom while dating. If he didn't like one or the other, the relationship never would have progressed into marriage.

Sure. But in the bedroom, according to OP, he was directly telling her he likes her bigger. Did you read it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a little doughy in college. I’d say upper range of normal BMI at around 165 lbs (I’m also 5’9” so that does make a difference). After college I got serious about my health, I was also a bit of a workaholic, and basically stopped drinking and going out because I had no time for all that. I dropped 30-35 lbs without even a thought and about 2 clothing sizes, just from being super busy and dropping a bunch of unhealthy habits. And I got SO MUCH attention from guys which I had never got before or since. It was crazy.

This may be harsh to say but in my experience weight presents itself very differently on short women or tall women. Short women can be "curvy" and still look "feminine", very attractive, and small, whereas tall women can go into the "big girl" category very quick with some weight gain.

it's unfair and unfortunate, but just what I've seen.

PP here and I totally agree. I’m still 135 after 2 kids. I still look good (but obviously older and not as “firm” and youthful LOL). I had a former boss who was definitely a big girl, taller than me and bigger than when I was at my biggest. Us tall women can either be totally stacked at a bigger weight/size like Megan Thee Stallion, OR we just look .... big. Big and shapeless. Like a dude almost. It’s nice to be able to fluctuate a bit and still fit in your clothes though.

[Anonymous]

I like my women soft with a little bit of belly. It's cute as hell to me. Skinny women tend to lose their butt and boobs first and it's not a good look at all.

[Anonymous]

A few lbs extra and big breasts. DD or larger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like my women soft with a little bit of belly. It's cute as hell to me. Skinny women tend to lose their butt and boobs first and it's not a good look at all.

An Asian friend of mine from university had a boyfriend tell her all the time that he liked her “Buddha belly”. So cringey. He had an Asian fetish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always been on the very thin side even after two kids. I'm active, eat healthy foods and stay the same size. I always get comments from family and strangers about how thin I am. It's wrong that people so openly discuss someone's thinness but would never do the same to a person who is overweight

Yes what is up with this? How about we just stop commenting on women’s bodies altogether?

[Anonymous]

Washington Post has this column called “Date Lab.” Once they set up two marathon runners on a date. Both very fit and in shape. At the end of the date, the guy told Date Lab that he wasn’t attracted to the woman because she didn’t have any meat on her and he preferred curvier women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Washington Post has this column called “Date Lab.” Once they set up two marathon runners on a date. Both very fit and in shape. At the end of the date, the guy told Date Lab that he wasn’t attracted to the woman because she didn’t have any meat on her and he preferred curvier women.

Women need some fat on them to look feminine

[Anonymous]

OP, is you bf a black guy?
The brothers seem to like a lot of junk in the trunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is you bf a black guy?
The brothers seem to like a lot of junk in the trunk.

He's fully white

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like my women soft with a little bit of belly. It's cute as hell to me. Skinny women tend to lose their butt and boobs first and it's not a good look at all.

An Asian friend of mine from university had a boyfriend tell her all the time that he liked her “Buddha belly”. So cringey. He had an Asian fetish.

I thought the Asian stereotype was skinny.

[Anonymous]

He prefers me happy. Weight doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

He seems to like me with a few extra pounds because he thinks my boobs are bigger and there is a little more on my hips to grab onto. I've never been skinny so he's clueless on what I'd look like.