Why have a baby when your 40?

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Anonymous wrote:In the old days, pre birth control, women would have babies until they went through menopause. My mom and her mom were both pregnant at the same time, pre birth control, in the early 50s while abortion was illegal. Grandma didn't want to be pregnant, but oh well.

My friend's mom had her sixth child at age 47. She was pregnant at my friend's wedding.

She was pregnant at her daughter's wedding? That is beyond disgusting. I would have urged her not to attend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am guessing OP is a male in his late 20s. He believes that the women who are rejecting him now will regret it because they will end up single and alone and sad after spending their youths dating men with social skills. He believes that rejecting him means these women are unknowingly passing up a chance to have a perfect guy (even though he is bitter and hates women more and more with each passing night spent at his computer on incel forums). He thinks he will have the last laugh. It enrages him to think that some of these women will have babies later and have their happily-ever-afters because that flies in the face of his need to believe that women are screwing themselves over by rejecting him now.

How'd I do, do you think?

Incel 100%

What I don't understand is why anyone is giving serious responses. Don't feed the troll.

Indeed. OP, even at 40, they won't be desperate enough to have sex with you. Maybe at 50+...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the old days, pre birth control, women would have babies until they went through menopause. My mom and her mom were both pregnant at the same time, pre birth control, in the early 50s while abortion was illegal. Grandma didn't want to be pregnant, but oh well.

My friend's mom had her sixth child at age 47. She was pregnant at my friend's wedding.

She was pregnant at her daughter's wedding? That is beyond disgusting. I would have urged her not to attend.

Why disgusting? Explain. Tell us why.

PS - how old are YOU?

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So, OP, I'm the 41 year old who is now unintentionally pregnant. My husband and I can afford to support this baby through grad school. My ds has always said he wished he had a sibling (he wanted a sibling who is not a cat, like his sister, ha). I am happy and want the baby. The baby will be cherished if the pregnancy goes to term.

What do you suggest? Do you think I should look into abortion just because of my age? Really, I'm fascinated to know what you would do in this case.

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Having babies in your 20’s sucks. Ask me how I know 😓. I have family money and had childcare help from my family and nannies and it still sucked. I feel like I missed out on a lot of my youth. In this day and age, I would never encourage a woman to have kids in her 20’s unless they know for sure they’re ready to forever give up that wonderful feeling of total freedom and lack of responsibility.

No one cares that you’re grossed out btw OP. Why would you even bring that up?

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Anonymous wrote:Having babies in your 20’s sucks. Ask me how I know 😓. I have family money and had childcare help from my family and nannies and it still sucked. I feel like I missed out on a lot of my youth. In this day and age, I would never encourage a woman to have kids in her 20’s unless they know for sure they’re ready to forever give up that wonderful feeling of total freedom and lack of responsibility.

No one cares that you’re grossed out btw OP. Why would you even bring that up?

I had 3 kids in my 20s without family money. We are doing fine financially now in our 30s and hoping for more kids. Sounds like you were just immature - personally I'm glad because my body bounced right back after each pregnancy and we enjoyed our young youth together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having babies in your 20’s sucks. Ask me how I know 😓. I have family money and had childcare help from my family and nannies and it still sucked. I feel like I missed out on a lot of my youth. In this day and age, I would never encourage a woman to have kids in her 20’s unless they know for sure they’re ready to forever give up that wonderful feeling of total freedom and lack of responsibility.

No one cares that you’re grossed out btw OP. Why would you even bring that up?

I had 3 kids in my 20s without family money. We are doing fine financially now in our 30s and hoping for more kids. Sounds like you were just immature - personally I'm glad because my body bounced right back after each pregnancy and we enjoyed our young youth together.

Yes, my body bouncing back after pregnancy was one good thing but I see the same thing with plenty of women who had kids in late 30’s and 40’s too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having babies in your 20’s sucks. Ask me how I know 😓. I have family money and had childcare help from my family and nannies and it still sucked. I feel like I missed out on a lot of my youth. In this day and age, I would never encourage a woman to have kids in her 20’s unless they know for sure they’re ready to forever give up that wonderful feeling of total freedom and lack of responsibility.

No one cares that you’re grossed out btw OP. Why would you even bring that up?

I had 3 kids in my 20s without family money. We are doing fine financially now in our 30s and hoping for more kids. Sounds like you were just immature - personally I'm glad because my body bounced right back after each pregnancy and we enjoyed our young youth together.

You had 3 kids in your 20’s with no family money and you want to have more? What is your definition of “fine financially?” Must be different from mine or you must live in flyover.

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Anonymous wrote:Can people explain this to me please, I realize I'm being ignorant and probably will trigger the old farts on this forum. But why? Why not adopt? Do you really want to be 60 when your child is 20? 70 at 30? Women who have babies in their 40s really grosses me out.

I understand the economic and cultural differences for waiting to be older, but biologically you are at menopause age.

I think- I THINK- if you adopt, your child will still be 20 when you are 60. Just a guess.

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Oh yes, the ages old “why don’t you just adopt?” to a woman who struggled with infertility. No one has ever heard that insensitive comment before. You’re right- ADOPTION! WHY DIDNT THEY THINK OF THAT?

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I think it is better to have kids when you are older. You are more financially stable, smarter, and don't care what other people think. Sure you might die when they are 30 or not see them have grandkids, but I think you have money to do things with them and for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having babies in your 20’s sucks. Ask me how I know 😓. I have family money and had childcare help from my family and nannies and it still sucked. I feel like I missed out on a lot of my youth. In this day and age, I would never encourage a woman to have kids in her 20’s unless they know for sure they’re ready to forever give up that wonderful feeling of total freedom and lack of responsibility.

No one cares that you’re grossed out btw OP. Why would you even bring that up?

I had 3 kids in my 20s without family money. We are doing fine financially now in our 30s and hoping for more kids. Sounds like you were just immature - personally I'm glad because my body bounced right back after each pregnancy and we enjoyed our young youth together.

So ppl who didn’t have or want to have kids in their 20’s are immature? Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wrong forum OP. This town is full of women that would gross you out. The average age of a FTM on this forum is likely 36+

Yeah OP should be on babycenter

lol

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Pretty sure it was the two glasses of wine and my hot husband...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are too young yet to realize that 40 is not old.

40 is middle age and too old to be having babies.