Why have a baby when your 40?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several good reasons - so my kid has a mom who knows the difference between your and you're, so that my kid has a mom who knows that 40 is not "biologically . . . menopause age [sic]," and last but certainly not least, so that I can "grosses out" [sic] teen moms.

Thanks for asking!

I was gonna answer, but I can’t top this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can people explain this to me please, I realize I'm being ignorant and probably will trigger the old farts on this forum. But why? Why not adopt? Do you really want to be 60 when your child is 20? 70 at 30? Women who have babies in their 40s really grosses me out.

I understand the economic and cultural differences for waiting to be older, but biologically you are at menopause age.

It’s good that you recognize your limitations. Why do you feel the need to spew your ignorance when you know for a fact that you are ignorant? Did you not get enough attention today?

[Anonymous]

I can assure you of this, you aren’t quite ready to be a mom yet. It may benefit not only you but specifically your future children for you to grow up and mature a bit. It may even take turning 40 before you are ready.

[Anonymous]

I'm 41 and I just found out I was pregnant two weeks ago. It wasn't intentional. But I have no good reason not to go ahead with it, and will enjoy another baby. I am not telling anyone (even dh) for another month or so because I know chances are good the pregnancy will not last. But I've been thinking a lot about the future implications, and overall I'm happy about this.

My own mother died when I was 18, and she had me when she was 28, so you really can't predict. If my current pregnancy goes to term, there's every reason to expect that he/she will have a mother longer than I did.

[Anonymous]

I personally think having a baby at 40 is old, that's why I didn't choose to have a baby at 40.

Focus on your own life OP.

[Anonymous]

OP how old are and how many kids do you have?

[Anonymous]

Having a baby at any age is pretty gross, to be fair.

[Anonymous]

I love trolls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a baby at any age is pretty gross, to be fair.

HAHAHAAHA

[Anonymous]

Pregnant women gross me out regardless of age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can people explain this to me please, I realize I'm being ignorant and probably will trigger the old farts on this forum. But why? Why not adopt? Do you really want to be 60 when your child is 20? 70 at 30? Women who have babies in their 40s really grosses me out.

I understand the economic and cultural differences for waiting to be older, but biologically you are at menopause age.

It’s good that you recognize your limitations. Why do you feel the need to spew your ignorance when you know for a fact that you are ignorant? Did you not get enough attention today?

I'm just asking. Besides a handful of reasons I got responses on a) my grammar and a bunch of pearl clutching responses. None of which explain why you chose to have a baby at such an old age.

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 and have my period right now. I just counted this morning, and exactly 31 days ago I started my last period. I'm definitely not menopausal.

[Anonymous]

I'll bite OP! I love kids, I have a high HHI and could afford having multiple children. First was at 32, 35, 37, and final one at 40. I don't care if you think I'm old, I think you're dumb

[Anonymous]

You get married late.
You want to have a baby with dh.
It takes you years to complete your education and even buy a small house.
Adoption is expensive, and has no guarantee of even getting a baby. The fact that OP says "just adopt" indicates they haven't gone through adoption.
Sometimes women even accidentally get pregnant.

In the old days, pre birth control, women would have babies until they went through menopause. My mom and her mom were both pregnant at the same time, pre birth control, in the early 50s while abortion was illegal. Grandma didn't want to be pregnant, but oh well.

Depending on what happens with Roe v Wade, you might see a lot more pregnant 40+ year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the old days, pre birth control, women would have babies until they went through menopause. My mom and her mom were both pregnant at the same time, pre birth control, in the early 50s while abortion was illegal. Grandma didn't want to be pregnant, but oh well.

My friend's mom had her sixth child at age 47. She was pregnant at my friend's wedding.