If you had a baby in your late twenties

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Anonymous wrote:Never regretted it. Best decison eve. Was 24 and 26 when I had my kids. At 44 my kids are 20 abr 18. Its amazing. I feel so bad for my peers who have toddlers.

You are so right. When you are younger, it's incredible how much energy you have. I'm 44 and have a 5 year old. I wish I could travel and go somewhere, but can't with such a young child. On the other hand, I have travelled a lot before kids, so can't complain much.

Don’t feel bad for me! Dh and I married young and spent years having adventures, traveling, moving whenever we wanted and having a ball. We hit 40 and were kinda felt bored. We had so many years of just us (which had been awesome) but what big new thing was left? We certainly didn’t feel tired or worn out because life had been pretty much based on our whims.

Were we missing out? Would we regret not being parents? So we jumped in and have a wonderful four year old. Having a great time! Plenty of energy for all the new fun little guy adventures. Both of our grandparents lived to over 100 and our parents are super active (my mom could our run me any day) and seem a decade younger than their peers. Maybe we just got lucky, who knows. No regrets waiting so long. I’m glad we had our total freedom for the wild, young years. Now we are totally fine with being more settled and creating security for our son.

There is no right age. I don’t feel sorry for a 25 year old mom who has serious responsibilities, or 30 year old moms trying to balance motherhood at an important time in her career, or we oldies which saved the beat for last. All ages have their own downsides and perks!

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I don't think travel is really a pro one way or the other. Sure you lose your ability to travel kid free in your twenties when you have your kids in your twenties (unless you have a lot of family or nanny help and are willing to leave your kids) but then you get that same time period back after your kids leave the nest. And for a lot of travel lovers, there is a joy of traveling with your kids, seeing the world sights through their eyes - and you can experience that joy as a parent in your thirties as much as a parent in your fifties.

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I had my only at 35. Everyone is biased. My bias is, I was in the perfect time in life then and was lucky that despite never having been pregnant before had no fertility issues at all. So, try to figure out when is best for you. For me, 32-37. For you, who knows?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never regretted it. Best decison eve. Was 24 and 26 when I had my kids. At 44 my kids are 20 abr 18. Its amazing. I feel so bad for my peers who have toddlers.

You are so right. When you are younger, it's incredible how much energy you have. I'm 44 and have a 5 year old. I wish I could travel and go somewhere, but can't with such a young child. On the other hand, I have travelled a lot before kids, so can't complain much.

Don’t feel bad for me! Dh and I married young and spent years having adventures, traveling, moving whenever we wanted and having a ball. We hit 40 and were kinda felt bored. We had so many years of just us (which had been awesome) but what big new thing was left? We certainly didn’t feel tired or worn out because life had been pretty much based on our whims.

Were we missing out? Would we regret not being parents? So we jumped in and have a wonderful four year old. Having a great time! Plenty of energy for all the new fun little guy adventures. Both of our grandparents lived to over 100 and our parents are super active (my mom could our run me any day) and seem a decade younger than their peers. Maybe we just got lucky, who knows. No regrets waiting so long. I’m glad we had our total freedom for the wild, young years. Now we are totally fine with being more settled and creating security for our son.

There is no right age. I don’t feel sorry for a 25 year old mom who has serious responsibilities, or 30 year old moms trying to balance motherhood at an important time in her career, or we oldies which saved the beat for last. All ages have their own downsides and perks!

No you didn't since you were married

[Anonymous]

We started trying at 26, experienced infertility and ultimately had my first at 29. Infertility has followed us. I'm now 35 and contemplating a 3rd. I feel fortunate to have the option to ponder a 3rd.

[Anonymous]

I was glad to have my twins while we were relatively young (30) because we could handle the sleep deprivation and workload. Two years earlier would have been even better but we had fertility issues. Don’t wait if you can manage it now.

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Do it now. I started trying to conceive at 31 and wasn't able to get pregnant until I was 35, after several rounds of fertility treatment and surgeries. I had no idea I would have trouble conceiving. We are one and done even though ideally I would have liked to have more.

[Anonymous]

Such an interesting thread!

I'm pregnant with my first, and will give birth at 37. I wish I'd have been able to start earlier. I met my now-husband at 32, got married at 34, and then dealt with two years of infertility. In a perfect world, we'd want three kids. We have the frozen embryos (and infertility healthcare coverage - another benefit of being old and established in good careers) to do it, but my husband is already 42 and (understandably) isn't sure if he wants to be chasing a pre-k kiddo at 50!

I'd have loved to have kids around 28, 30, and 32 - but I was in law school, and then killing myself at a big law firm at that point. I didn't know how to make time to date, let alone raise a kid (though I know people do it every day).

I agree with those that have said there are positives and negatives no matter what you choose.

[Anonymous]

I had no interest in kids til I was about 40. Then i had my twins as a single mom by choice. I could not have had them earlier because -- well, there was no interest. Like an earlier poster, I have tons of energy and am in great shape because I push a double-stroller up hills at least an hour a day. No need for separate strength training/cardio workouts. Best of all, I get to be with my kids as i exercise. Exercise is not a chore, it's joy due to them. I no longer have any junk food/processed food in the house. So i crave exercise and eat super healthy -- yes, the best shape of my life -- even mentally.

[Anonymous]

This is a really personal decision, and you should just do you what you want. I didn't have my child until my early 40s, there are plenty of plusses and minuses to every age, so just go for it if that's what you want. I know I loved gaining new nieces and nephews when my friends started having kids in my late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had no interest in kids til I was about 40. Then i had my twins as a single mom by choice. I could not have had them earlier because -- well, there was no interest. Like an earlier poster, I have tons of energy and am in great shape because I push a double-stroller up hills at least an hour a day. No need for separate strength training/cardio workouts. Best of all, I get to be with my kids as i exercise. Exercise is not a chore, it's joy due to them. I no longer have any junk food/processed food in the house. So i crave exercise and eat super healthy -- yes, the best shape of my life -- even mentally.

If your kids are still in a stroller, they are still very young. Please get back to us when they are 16 and you are 60

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had no interest in kids til I was about 40. Then i had my twins as a single mom by choice. I could not have had them earlier because -- well, there was no interest. Like an earlier poster, I have tons of energy and am in great shape because I push a double-stroller up hills at least an hour a day. No need for separate strength training/cardio workouts. Best of all, I get to be with my kids as i exercise. Exercise is not a chore, it's joy due to them. I no longer have any junk food/processed food in the house. So i crave exercise and eat super healthy -- yes, the best shape of my life -- even mentally.

If your kids are still in a stroller, they are still very young. Please get back to us when they are 16 and you are 60

You aren’t great at math clearly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had no interest in kids til I was about 40. Then i had my twins as a single mom by choice. I could not have had them earlier because -- well, there was no interest. Like an earlier poster, I have tons of energy and am in great shape because I push a double-stroller up hills at least an hour a day. No need for separate strength training/cardio workouts. Best of all, I get to be with my kids as i exercise. Exercise is not a chore, it's joy due to them. I no longer have any junk food/processed food in the house. So i crave exercise and eat super healthy -- yes, the best shape of my life -- even mentally.

If your kids are still in a stroller, they are still very young. Please get back to us when they are 16 and you are 60

You aren’t great at math clearly.

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Are you the pp?
She said she was about 40 when she started being interested in having children, THEN she had twins. So she had her kids in her early 40's. She wasn't specific about how soon "then" was--but assuming it takes a little time to go from "interested" to actually proactively doing something about it--then 9 months gestation....Likely she was 42-44 when she had the babies. 44+16 is 60.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had no interest in kids til I was about 40. Then i had my twins as a single mom by choice. I could not have had them earlier because -- well, there was no interest. Like an earlier poster, I have tons of energy and am in great shape because I push a double-stroller up hills at least an hour a day. No need for separate strength training/cardio workouts. Best of all, I get to be with my kids as i exercise. Exercise is not a chore, it's joy due to them. I no longer have any junk food/processed food in the house. So i crave exercise and eat super healthy -- yes, the best shape of my life -- even mentally.

If your kids are still in a stroller, they are still very young. Please get back to us when they are 16 and you are 60

You aren’t great at math clearly.

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Are you the pp?
She said she was about 40 when she started being interested in having children, THEN she had twins. So she had her kids in her early 40's. She wasn't specific about how soon "then" was--but assuming it takes a little time to go from "interested" to actually proactively doing something about it--then 9 months gestation....Likely she was 42-44 when she had the babies. 44+16 is 60.

I missed that. I thought she had them at 40. Which is not too old.