What would happen if you denied spouse intimacy for years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

I think his wife was hoping he’d be gone within six months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

Eh. Both stories could be true. Wife could be done with him, not interested in sex with him ever again, and meanwhile plenty of other women find him attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

As soon as I read that, I nodded in total agreement. This is the advice I give all my friends who confide in me their low sex marriages. Some listen, and wind up like PP enjoying life as a single man. Others stay, and cheat every chance they get: is this better than the “gross”’ ones who left?

Well, you sound gross, too so that’s not surprising.

And you sound naively stupid. Normal men don't stay sexless. Call that gross, call it whatever you want, I call it a basic fact. Deal.

Low T and low drive men aren’t normal? I prefer that to man who refers to women as “better quality” any day.

No, they're not. And often they don't understand how abnormal they are until they get the low T problem corrected.

Signed,

Formerly low T, low drive man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

Maybe but instead of presenting her story, she pushed the Nuclear Destruct button. By her "announcing there would be no more sex" she simultaneously:
- rendered her point of view irrelevant
- ensured their imminent divorce
- opened the marriage for him to find sex elsewhere

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

I think his wife was hoping he’d be gone within six months.

He was cheating within 6 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.

Did you ever ask you wife why? Why did she not feel like having sex with you? Or what the real issue was?

If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll just get a big cloud of bullshit and then she'll start inventing "problems" that are the supposed reason for her not wanting sex. The typical desperate, frustrated husband will start trying to "fix" these "problems" - but whenever you fix one, she'll invent a new one. He's like a cat chasing the red dot, he never catches it.

99% of the time the real problem is:
1. You (her husband) are not attractive
2. She is attracted to someone else
3. Both of the above

She's not going to tell you either of those things. She expects you to just figure it out.

As a man, you can fix problem #1. Sometimes, but not always, that also fixes problem #2. If it doesn't, at least you've done what you need to do to prepare for your next woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

Eh. Both stories could be true. Wife could be done with him, not interested in sex with him ever again, and meanwhile plenty of other women find him attractive.

Yep. That's because wanting and having are two different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.

Did you ever ask you wife why? Why did she not feel like having sex with you? Or what the real issue was?

If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll just get a big cloud of bullshit and then she'll start inventing "problems" that are the supposed reason for her not wanting sex. The typical desperate, frustrated husband will start trying to "fix" these "problems" - but whenever you fix one, she'll invent a new one. He's like a cat chasing the red dot, he never catches it.

99% of the time the real problem is:
1. You (her husband) are not attractive
2. She is attracted to someone else
3. Both of the above

She's not going to tell you either of those things. She expects you to just figure it out.

As a man, you can fix problem #1. Sometimes, but not always, that also fixes problem #2. If it doesn't, at least you've done what you need to do to prepare for your next woman.

Usually it's a lack of communication or not resolving issues. If there's resentment it follows into the bedroom.

Why communication and compromise take precedence over sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

Maybe but instead of presenting her story, she pushed the Nuclear Destruct button. By her "announcing there would be no more sex" she simultaneously:
- rendered her point of view irrelevant
- ensured their imminent divorce
- opened the marriage for him to find sex elsewhere

Not at all. Either they work it out, or compromise. If not divorce. Cheating is what horrible people do, and chance bringing wackos into their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.

Did you ever ask you wife why? Why did she not feel like having sex with you? Or what the real issue was?

If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll just get a big cloud of bullshit and then she'll start inventing "problems" that are the supposed reason for her not wanting sex. The typical desperate, frustrated husband will start trying to "fix" these "problems" - but whenever you fix one, she'll invent a new one. He's like a cat chasing the red dot, he never catches it.

99% of the time the real problem is:
1. You (her husband) are not attractive
2. She is attracted to someone else
3. Both of the above

She's not going to tell you either of those things. She expects you to just figure it out.

As a man, you can fix problem #1. Sometimes, but not always, that also fixes problem #2. If it doesn't, at least you've done what you need to do to prepare for your next woman.

Wow. Life means getting stuff done? There is more than one thing to get done? No way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.

Did you ever ask you wife why? Why did she not feel like having sex with you? Or what the real issue was?

If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll just get a big cloud of bullshit and then she'll start inventing "problems" that are the supposed reason for her not wanting sex. The typical desperate, frustrated husband will start trying to "fix" these "problems" - but whenever you fix one, she'll invent a new one. He's like a cat chasing the red dot, he never catches it.

99% of the time the real problem is:
1. You (her husband) are not attractive
2. She is attracted to someone else
3. Both of the above

She's not going to tell you either of those things. She expects you to just figure it out.

As a man, you can fix problem #1. Sometimes, but not always, that also fixes problem #2. If it doesn't, at least you've done what you need to do to prepare for your next woman.

Usually it's a lack of communication or not resolving issues. If there's resentment it follows into the bedroom.

Why communication and compromise take precedence over sex.

+1000

Sorry @$$ excuses for unacceptable behavior isn’t attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.

Thats pretty sad you value sex over your family and marital vows.

It's pretty sad that she does not value her husband, relationship, or vows and expects him to accept her one-sided life decision.

Tell us why she should “value him”. What is he doing on the home front, with the kids, with her that is “value add?” Pay checks don’t count as character or behavior or action.

[Anonymous]

1) my vagina would dry up.
2) I'd be f'ing somebody else
3) I'd be relieved I never had to touch DH's body again.
4) I'd be lonely and sad.
5) DH would be a cranky ass.

[Anonymous]

He’d request an open marriage. But since I initiate a lot and enjoy BJ’s and other fun things I think we are good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with “much higher quality women”.

As soon as I read that, I shuddered. You sound gross.

Exactly. There's another story from his wife's point of view!

Maybe but instead of presenting her story, she pushed the Nuclear Destruct button. By her "announcing there would be no more sex" she simultaneously:
- rendered her point of view irrelevant
- ensured their imminent divorce
- opened the marriage for him to find sex elsewhere

Not at all. Either they work it out, or compromise. If not divorce. Cheating is what horrible people do, and chance bringing wackos into their lives.

There is no “working it out” or “compromise” if a wife cuts off sex. If she can’t handle the fact he is sleeping with the neighbor, well she should have just divorced him instead of “announcing there would be no more sex”. It was her decision to stay married, so deal with his solution to your problem.