What would happen if you denied spouse intimacy for years?

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Anonymous wrote:I can tell you that 18 months after my wife effectively announced there would be no more sex, that I moved out and filed for divorce.

Life as a single man is much better. I have more sex, and with much higher quality women.


Did you ever ask you wife why? Why did she not feel like having sex with you? Or what the real issue was?


If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll just get a big cloud of bullshit and then she'll start inventing "problems" that are the supposed reason for her not wanting sex. The typical desperate, frustrated husband will start trying to "fix" these "problems" - but whenever you fix one, she'll invent a new one. He's like a cat chasing the red dot, he never catches it.

99% of the time the real problem is:
1. You (her husband) are not attractive
2. She is attracted to someone else
3. Both of the above

She's not going to tell you either of those things. She expects you to just figure it out.

As a man, you can fix problem #1. Sometimes, but not always, that also fixes problem #2. If it doesn't, at least you've done what you need to do to prepare for your next woman.


Eh, I think you are too cynical. I love my DH, he's handsome but I have no real desire to have sex with him. We do it sometimes and I may enjoy it but if it never happened it's fine with me. Not all women are hot dogs like men and after a while my DH is a handsome roommate, not like a passionate lover. It just is what it is. Many married women agree

And how does your DH feel about it?
Anonymous
The last 9 years of a 25 year marriage.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He’d request an open marriage. But since I initiate a lot and enjoy BJ’s and other fun things I think we are good.


I requested an open marriage years ago. He said no. Not every man wants one even if the marriage is sexless.
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Ones the answer change if the issue is caused by physical issues (like a bad back)?
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Anonymous wrote:Ones the answer change if the issue is caused by physical issues (like a bad back)?


Yes yes yes. They do.
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