Does anyone on this forum think nursing homes are horrific?

[Anonymous]

I’m just going to add in that I have a perfectly physically healthy aunt in her 80s - fully mobile, no arthritis, diabetes or hypertension, has her own teeth, etc. but has dementia. Trying to keep her from hurting herself or others is a full time job - she can be physically aggressive if you try and stop her she decides to go for a walk at 3am in her bare feet in 20 degree weather. She’s broken windows because she thinks her dead mother is waiting for her “up the street”and hit me with a crystal vase when I tried to convince her I was not sitting on her dead husband (a chair)! So despite being perfectly physically fit for her age, she needs to live in a memory care facility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every one I have ever been is has been awful. But I don’t know that there are any other real options.

Euthanasia

I have to go this route, but I wish we had the option after seeing my MIL suffer the way she is. No one should have to live like she does nor should any of the other residents at the nursing home. People should have the option while they are of sound mind or someone should be appointed, if not.

Wait - you want someone appointed to end another's life? That's . . . problematic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to add in that I have a perfectly physically healthy aunt in her 80s - fully mobile, no arthritis, diabetes or hypertension, has her own teeth, etc. but has dementia. Trying to keep her from hurting herself or others is a full time job - she can be physically aggressive if you try and stop her she decides to go for a walk at 3am in her bare feet in 20 degree weather. She’s broken windows because she thinks her dead mother is waiting for her “up the street”and hit me with a crystal vase when I tried to convince her I was not sitting on her dead husband (a chair)! So despite being perfectly physically fit for her age, she needs to live in a memory care facility.

How did she get dementia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to add in that I have a perfectly physically healthy aunt in her 80s - fully mobile, no arthritis, diabetes or hypertension, has her own teeth, etc. but has dementia. Trying to keep her from hurting herself or others is a full time job - she can be physically aggressive if you try and stop her she decides to go for a walk at 3am in her bare feet in 20 degree weather. She’s broken windows because she thinks her dead mother is waiting for her “up the street”and hit me with a crystal vase when I tried to convince her I was not sitting on her dead husband (a chair)! So despite being perfectly physically fit for her age, she needs to live in a memory care facility.

How did she get dementia?

NP. It's a disease that is not the person's fault. As you age, things start to go wrong with your body. My dad had dementia and had to go to a locked dementia unit for his own safety. There was a former teacher, a judge, a scientist, a homemaker..... None of them did anything to bring that onto themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m just going to add in that I have a perfectly physically healthy aunt in her 80s - fully mobile, no arthritis, diabetes or hypertension, has her own teeth, etc. but has dementia. Trying to keep her from hurting herself or others is a full time job - she can be physically aggressive if you try and stop her she decides to go for a walk at 3am in her bare feet in 20 degree weather. She’s broken windows because she thinks her dead mother is waiting for her “up the street”and hit me with a crystal vase when I tried to convince her I was not sitting on her dead husband (a chair)! So despite being perfectly physically fit for her age, she needs to live in a memory care facility.

How did she get dementia?

Probably strong genetic component - her mother had it, as did two of her older sisters.

[Anonymous]

Knollwood seems worth the cost.