reality check please - husband who sometimes forgets to lock the front door at night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If something is important to my spouse, I do it/ it is important to me.

I don’t argue, I don’t make excuses, I don’t make jokes.

For something like a roommate or parent or (gasp) spouse, if they want the doors and windows of the house locked while we sleep, that sounds damn reasonable and I’ll make sure to do that. That is the respectful and respectable thing to do.

Honestly Op, sounds like there is something else underlying his refusal to lock the door after late night dog walking. Good luck.

This.
Just get the digital locks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If something is important to my spouse, I do it/ it is important to me.

I don’t argue, I don’t make excuses, I don’t make jokes.

For something like a roommate or parent or (gasp) spouse, if they want the doors and windows of the house locked while we sleep, that sounds damn reasonable and I’ll make sure to do that. That is the respectful and respectable thing to do.

Honestly Op, sounds like there is something else underlying his refusal to lock the door after late night dog walking. Good luck.

^^^Exactly.

The nonchalant "not gonna happen" attitude is just not normal response to a wife's legitimate request.

[Anonymous]

To people saying not.locking the door Is no big deal. I once left my house for a 10 minute trip to the grocery store. I came home and my house had been robbed. I live in suburbia. I always assumed my neighbors would see. It was so quick and unexpected. I'm grateful I wasn't home. The police officer told me it was a crime of opportunity.

[Anonymous]

If I get home after DH I automatically lock it. If I am heading to bed before him I ask him is the door locked? If I head to bed after him I go and check it.

Where I get more frustrated is with the back door. DH never locks it after taking the trash out or when he goes into the back yard to do something. I always have to run and check before I leave the house for the day just in case he had gone outside without my hearing him do it. Same for my kids.

[Anonymous]

Y’all sound like DH’s babysitter or mommy or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One way to solve this would be to get those knobs that auto-lock. It'll close money but solve a problem.

Don’t get auto locking doors. You’ll end up locking yourself out and be stuck. 100% guaranteed and I’ve been a Locksmith for 20 years.

[Anonymous]

R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-T-Y or war games?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To people saying not.locking the door Is no big deal. I once left my house for a 10 minute trip to the grocery store. I came home and my house had been robbed. I live in suburbia. I always assumed my neighbors would see. It was so quick and unexpected. I'm grateful I wasn't home. The police officer told me it was a crime of opportunity.

I had a drunk neighbor think our house was hers on multiple ocassions. Door was locked but someone came along and was messing with the door knob. I didn’t know it was a little old lady so I was freaked out. Called dh to come home (he was on a 20m errand), and called the cops.

When the cops arrived they helped the lady home.

The second time, I was like ok “just the drunk neighbor again. Hope she gets help....”

[Anonymous]

We have a digital lock and love it. It locks whenever you close the door. You punch in a code to open it.

I will never have anything else. It is perfect.

This is an easy fix, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a digital lock and love it. It locks whenever you close the door. You punch in a code to open it.

I will never have anything else. It is perfect.

This is an easy fix, OP.

This is the solution. Op has a right to feel secure in her home at all times.

[Anonymous]

Between anecdata from people who had bad things happen to them once and news programs trying to sell ads by emphasizing crime and mayhem, it's no wonder people feel scared all the time.
"Lock your doors, the Honduran migrant caravan is coming for you!"
"I knew a guy who's brother got robbed by a Honduran once. You really should lock your doors. And get a gun!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Between anecdata from people who had bad things happen to them once and news programs trying to sell ads by emphasizing crime and mayhem, it's no wonder people feel scared all the time.
"Lock your doors, the Honduran migrant caravan is coming for you!"
"I knew a guy who's brother got robbed by a Honduran once. You really should lock your doors. And get a gun!"

Locking your door is common sense and has nothing to do with migrants. If you live in area without crime, then don’t but most of us do not have that luxury. An unlocked door provides an opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To people saying not.locking the door Is no big deal. I once left my house for a 10 minute trip to the grocery store. I came home and my house had been robbed. I live in suburbia. I always assumed my neighbors would see. It was so quick and unexpected. I'm grateful I wasn't home. The police officer told me it was a crime of opportunity.

Was your door locked? Was it at night? Not sure why this story is relevant. They probably robbed your house because they saw you leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Between anecdata from people who had bad things happen to them once and news programs trying to sell ads by emphasizing crime and mayhem, it's no wonder people feel scared all the time.
"Lock your doors, the Honduran migrant caravan is coming for you!"
"I knew a guy who's brother got robbed by a Honduran once. You really should lock your doors. And get a gun!"

Locking your door is common sense and has nothing to do with migrants. If you live in area without crime, then don’t but most of us do not have that luxury. An unlocked door provides an opportunity.

"Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by the age of eighteen." -- Albert Einstein.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a digital lock and love it. It locks whenever you close the door. You punch in a code to open it.

I will never have anything else. It is perfect.

This is an easy fix, OP.

This is the solution. Op has a right to feel secure in her home at all times.

This is OP - thank you for the suggestion. I think it's what we're going to try. He really doesn't mean to leave the door unlocked, and most nights remembers to lock it. I posted this after he'd forgotten again the night before, and I was just feeling frustrated. I'd prefer to have a technological fix than to have to argue about this.

Is there a particular digital lock you recommend?