reality check please - husband who sometimes forgets to lock the front door at night

[Anonymous]

Once we went on vacation for 5 days and left the garage door open (and the door into the house) the whole time we were gone. Our neighbors didn't even notice (or they did and didn't bother to close it). Nothing was touched but a bird built a nest in my DS' bike helmet.

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Anonymous wrote:As the father and man of the house, it is most certainly HIS obligation to secure house to protect his family. Can't believe he blows it off like that.

Really? And as the Morther the woman should be in the kitchen blah blah blah. Sorry but you're wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:One way to solve this would be to get those knobs that auto-lock. It'll close money but solve a problem.

This. Better yet, one of the digital locks. That way, it auto-locks AND he can't lock himself out.

Yes! We stayed in a vacation house that had a digital lock with a code we punched in to enter. You can reprogram the code. It was great. The door locked automatically and we punched in some numbers to enter -no key needed. This sounds perfect for op. I think op's peace of mind is worth the cost of a locksmith to install a digital lock. You may have to do all entry doors, though!

Yes our front door has a keypad and then we have an app called Total Connect. You can lock the door from anywhere.

[Anonymous]

My DH does the same thing. He only smokes outside and never locks the door behind him. I get so frustrated with him. When our kids were still young and I worked 3rd shift, I came home early at 4 AM and the front door was opened WIDE. It was dark, and our stairs are right by the door. I didn't even think the worse possible reason, like someone broke in, immediately, my mind went to that damn husband of mine didn't lock the damn doors again and didn't even close it tight, and the wind probably blew it open. I was fuming. Luckily it was just that and not a break in, but even after that happened, and for 23 years, he still does the same thing to this day. You can't change a man who doesn't want to change.

[Anonymous]

Get an automatic relocking knob.

[Anonymous]

You obviously care a lot more about it than he does. I never lock my door. If it's so important to you, why aren't you the one making sure it'locked?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm laughing because I'm your husband and my husband gets so frustrated. He's rabid about the locks, it drives me crazy. He might lock the door if I'm getting the mail or putting out the trash cans. I had to break him of the habit of locking the car that is in the garage and then the door leading from the house to the garage.

I do think your locking at night before bed should do the trick. Or if he has a regular bedtime maybe a nightly phone reminder for him.

I just can't imagine that someone is testing all the locks to people's houses at night in order to break in. I can see someone doing that to break into a car in a lot or even during the day on the assumption that people are at work.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused as to why this is even an issue. We walk around last thing at night, and ensure all doors are locked, oven, etc. is off, and all indoor stuff is off. It takes but a minute, and our house is 3500 sq ft.

The issue is her husband forgets because it isn't a priority for him. I'm sorry you can't step out of your own shoes and understand how somebody else's experience might differ from your own.

Okay, so it’s a priority for her. Can she now, say, walk down the hall, and lock the door herself?

I can’t believe this is an actual issue, nucleus’s one that has so many pages on DCUM. I know few perfect people, myself, including my DH and well, me. My priorities ar not alsways my DHs, and that’s why we are a team.

Arne sure the doors arare locked? Take a quick walk around th house, get your FitBit steps, and check all the doors.

Reading comprehension not your forte, eh?

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Anonymous wrote:Was it Jeffrey Dahmer or Charles Manson that said an unlocked door was like an invitation to come in? I think it was Dahmer. People absolutely do test doors to see if they're locked.

Home invasions are extraordinarily rare. They happen but the odds of it happening to YOU, in suburbia are comically low. It is winning the bad lottery uncommon.

And what can you do to reduce the odds that it will happen to you? Lock your damn doors.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't WANT to take EVERY PRECAUTION. We'd never do anything, in that case.

Yes I lock the door. But sometimes I don't.

God, you people pick weird hills to die on.

[Anonymous]

dafuq? who resurrected a thread from 2018?

[Anonymous]

Get Alexa to remind you every night. (I do this when we go on vacation so I won’t forget to put the cat out.)

[Anonymous]

Wow! My mom in another country used to do a nightly check of a bunch of stuff and I have picked up this habit too.

[Anonymous]

We lock the door at night but if my DH forgot one night it would not be a big deal. The odds of a home invasion are already very small and the odds that one would happen on the night you forgot? Infinitesimal. It’s not like murderers go around checking the doors just in case.

It’s much more likely that your husband will kill you.

[Anonymous]

Happens here too. It means, among other things, that I am always the primary caretaker of all, that I can never rest, much less go to bed earlier than anyone, and I must think of everything at all hours since my spouse doesn't consider this, or most things, important.

Any why doesn't he? Here is the larger problem.

Unlocked door at night? We've had numerous home invasions over a period of time in my general area. Yes, and resulting in murder. Still makes no difference some people!