Should I Mention I Saw My Sister's Husband Doing Something a Little Suspicious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch

Come on. You’d want your significant other leaving your children home alone to play graba@@ with a side piece? Great for you, but not everyone wants to be a dummy in the dark.

If he’s leaving his own kids home alone to hang out with another woman and her kid, he’s not even putting his own kids first. He’s ignoring them for another woman.

He’s the beyotch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he owns the shop, and your sister doesn't know he quit his $$$ job and invested their life savings in to his dream of owning an ice-cream shop. He was excited to tell his employee about the new ice cream flavor he ordered.

WINNER, for Best Unique Perspective.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. You people all want drama.. even suggesting OP go on a stake-out!

There are plenty of reasonable explanations. If the guy was having an affair, he'd probably be overly-friendly to cover it up, like joining you at the table etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch

Come on. You’d want your significant other leaving your children home alone to play graba@@ with a side piece? Great for you, but not everyone wants to be a dummy in the dark.

If he’s leaving his own kids home alone to hang out with another woman and her kid, he’s not even putting his own kids first. He’s ignoring them for another woman.

He’s the beyotch.

There was no grab-ass, and his own kids were out of town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch

Come on. You’d want your significant other leaving your children home alone to play graba@@ with a side piece? Great for you, but not everyone wants to be a dummy in the dark.

If he’s leaving his own kids home alone to hang out with another woman and her kid, he’s not even putting his own kids first. He’s ignoring them for another woman.

He’s the beyotch.

There was no grab-ass, and his own kids were out of town.

The wife was out of town, kids at home.

Op left and BIL was still in shop. Why? Not to eat ice cream because he ordered nothing. Men always visit ice cream shops to sit at a table with no ice cream.

[Anonymous]

People in this thread are being ridiculous. Obviously something weird was going on. It may be totally innocent. It may be an affair. It may be his brother's secret love child he feels badly about. Maybe ice cream woman is his drug hookup. But grown men don't go sit in ice cream shops sitting with random children, ignoring their own relatives and not ordering for no reason at all. That's not normal behavior.

You can think OP should MHOB even if something weird is going, but people trying to describe this as perfectly normal behavior are nuts. The fact that BIL hasn't tried to explain since (which he would absolutely do if this was his Little Sibling from BB/BS and he wasn't allowed to introduce them to family, e.g.) makes it even weirder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People in this thread are being ridiculous. Obviously something weird was going on. It may be totally innocent. It may be an affair. It may be his brother's secret love child he feels badly about. Maybe ice cream woman is his drug hookup. But grown men don't go sit in ice cream shops sitting with random children, ignoring their own relatives and not ordering for no reason at all. That's not normal behavior.

You can think OP should MHOB even if something weird is going, but people trying to describe this as perfectly normal behavior are nuts. The fact that BIL hasn't tried to explain since (which he would absolutely do if this was his Little Sibling from BB/BS and he wasn't allowed to introduce them to family, e.g.) makes it even weirder.

+1

I don’t get dcum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in this thread are being ridiculous. Obviously something weird was going on. It may be totally innocent. It may be an affair. It may be his brother's secret love child he feels badly about. Maybe ice cream woman is his drug hookup. But grown men don't go sit in ice cream shops sitting with random children, ignoring their own relatives and not ordering for no reason at all. That's not normal behavior.

You can think OP should MHOB even if something weird is going, but people trying to describe this as perfectly normal behavior are nuts. The fact that BIL hasn't tried to explain since (which he would absolutely do if this was his Little Sibling from BB/BS and he wasn't allowed to introduce them to family, e.g.) makes it even weirder.

+1

I don’t get dcum.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch

Come on. You’d want your significant other leaving your children home alone to play graba@@ with a side piece? Great for you, but not everyone wants to be a dummy in the dark.

If he’s leaving his own kids home alone to hang out with another woman and her kid, he’s not even putting his own kids first. He’s ignoring them for another woman.

He’s the beyotch.

There was no grab-ass, and his own kids were out of town.

so BIL was home alone with his wife/kids out of town and is yucking it up with sexy ice cream worker who brings her 5 yo to work all day. He must be their hero!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch

Come on. You’d want your significant other leaving your children home alone to play graba@@ with a side piece? Great for you, but not everyone wants to be a dummy in the dark.

If he’s leaving his own kids home alone to hang out with another woman and her kid, he’s not even putting his own kids first. He’s ignoring them for another woman.

He’s the beyotch.

There was no grab-ass, and his own kids were out of town.

so BIL was home alone with his wife/kids out of town and is yucking it up with sexy ice cream worker who brings her 5 yo to work all day. He must be their hero!

Hero dad left kids at home alone while wife was out of town. Bigger hero. We all know parents who leave kids at home to play reindeer games are fab parents. Sorry op. He’s put you and his kids and your sister in a pickle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time you see him: "Funny running into you at the ice cream shop [last week]. Who was the little boy you were talking to, I didn't recognize him?" Given him a chance to explain in as non-accusatory a way as you can come up with; that said, it is weird and I would absolutely tell my sister about it if I got weird vibes from the explanation.

totally normal q to ask. objective, normal words and tone. normal to wonder as well.

[Anonymous]

I'd mention it when I next saw him, but nothing crazy.

Hey, it was funny seeing you at the ice cream place! I never run into you. Who were those people you were talking with?

And leave it at that. You can always follow up with I didn't even know there was a back door, so it was really surprising when you ran in if he doesn't freak out. Do you work nearby? I've only been there twice.

[Anonymous]

He's her sponsor in AlAnon. Since it's anonymous, he's not allowed to introduce her to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who walks into an ice cream/coffee shop and doesn’t order anything but sits down and starts talking to a kid of an employee? He either has a huge crush on this young women and frequents the shop regularly to spend time with her or he is having an affair and has made a date with her while his wife is away that he has no intention of passing up even with the encounter with SIL. So he waits it out. Very suspicious and I would be on the phone to my sister right afterwards.

yeah, i know defense mechanisms kick in when in these weird situations (Home alone BIL happily dances in to the ice cream shop back door to talk to ice cream lady, sees SIL so sits somewhere else to wait it out talking to a young kid and ignoring SIL), but next time snap some photos, videos, and at least say HI, WHAT'S UP. Shake hands with the kid, introduce yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. It can be anything. Never stir shit untill you cought someone having sex. Never.

Haha ugh what. First, it's "caught". Second, nope...this was sketchy behavior and this guy is married to OP's SISTER. I would agree with the kind your own business advice if the guy at issue was OP's married coworker or neighbor, or maybe even if this was a couple friend of OP and her husband. But obviously this should be addressed. No need to make a big grand speech, just ask about it

So what are you trying to archive? Best case scenario you will cause arguments in this family for maybe no reason, worst case scenario your sister will end up divorced.