Should I Mention I Saw My Sister's Husband Doing Something a Little Suspicious?

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Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

Nope. The above is pretty much an accusation.

Just say: "Larlo, who was the cute kid whom you were talking to at the ice cream shop?"

People don't say "whom" in casual conversation. We all know that you're aware of objective pronouns.

lol. I do. I was raised in a former British colony, and I think that is how we speak(I have not been there in ages). Why are you being snarky?

[Anonymous]

OPs sister is one of those food crazy anti treat people from dcum's general parenting boards.

She takes it a step further. Not only are the kids only allowed goldfish and yogurt on holidays or birthdays, BIL is restricted to nothing but organic water and artisan made from scratch kale.

So when SIL goes away on business, BIL runs to his favorite spot so get gourmet coffee and ice cream. He does it so much that he is on a first name basis with ice cream girl and this kid that she watches while at work.

He doesn't bring his own kids on this secret ice cream rendezvous because they are too young to keep a secret and he is afraid of what might happen if they actually try something with lactose like ice cream or the gluten containing cones, because SIL has decided the kids are lactose, gluten intolerant ever since she saw something about this condition on pinterest.

BIL is now terrified that you will spill the beans and ruin his secret love affair with ice cream, sugar and gourmet coffee.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is in AA and sponsoring someone that he meets there, but because it is anonymous he is not going to introduce you.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read al the responses, but the idea of semi-confronting him while your sister is there = you will potentially be with BOTH Of them when she finds out he is having an affair. It doesn't seem like a three person discussion

[Anonymous]

Your BIL must assume you’re going to say something to your sister, which means he already has his explanation thought out. Why not just ask him what that scene at the ice cream shop was all about and see what he has to say.

[Anonymous]

Have them over for dinner. Buy ice cream ahead of time to serve as dessert, but leave it out on the counter while you work on your main courses. That way, when it’s time for dessert, it’ll be all melted. Pour it into a bowl. As you do, look the husband dead in the eyes and say, “oh dear. It seems my ICE CREAM has MELTED.” He’ll squirm. If he doesn’t, you know he’s clean.

[Anonymous]

this is so weird. why didn't you just ask him at the time? hey whatcha doing here at Carvel in the middle of the day? who's the kid? I'm completely baffled that you just sat there with him sitting with another family and didn't ask him anything at the time. It's not like this is a random boyfriend of your sister's - it's your bil and sounds like they've been married for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MYOB. If he was having an affair with the ice cream lady, he would have walked out when he saw you, not bided his time playing with her kid.

Unless ice cream lady thinks he's single and he couldn't leave without her getting suspicious.

[Anonymous]

Who walks into an ice cream/coffee shop and doesn’t order anything but sits down and starts talking to a kid of an employee? He either has a huge crush on this young women and frequents the shop regularly to spend time with her or he is having an affair and has made a date with her while his wife is away that he has no intention of passing up even with the encounter with SIL. So he waits it out. Very suspicious and I would be on the phone to my sister right afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OPs sister is one of those food crazy anti treat people from dcum's general parenting boards.

She takes it a step further. Not only are the kids only allowed goldfish and yogurt on holidays or birthdays, BIL is restricted to nothing but organic water and artisan made from scratch kale.

So when SIL goes away on business, BIL runs to his favorite spot so get gourmet coffee and ice cream. He does it so much that he is on a first name basis with ice cream girl and this kid that she watches while at work.

He doesn't bring his own kids on this secret ice cream rendezvous because they are too young to keep a secret and he is afraid of what might happen if they actually try something with lactose like ice cream or the gluten containing cones, because SIL has decided the kids are lactose, gluten intolerant ever since she saw something about this condition on pinterest.

BIL is now terrified that you will spill the beans and ruin his secret love affair with ice cream, sugar and gourmet coffee.

He didn’t order anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

Nope. The above is pretty much an accusation.

Just say: "Larlo, who was the cute kid whom you were talking to at the ice cream shop?"

People don't say "whom" in casual conversation. We all know that you're aware of objective pronouns.

lol. I do. I was raised in a former British colony, and I think that is how we speak(I have not been there in ages). Why are you being snarky?

So was I. It's called Maryland.

[Anonymous]

He is having an affair. Believe me I know. Whether its just emotional, or also physical, its cheating. And his kids were at home? Yes, guaranteed.

Zero idea what you should say or do...

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with simply doing and saying nothing?

[Anonymous]

OP, please say something so you can report back - we need to know how this ends!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

You’re a beyotch