Should I Mention I Saw My Sister's Husband Doing Something a Little Suspicious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This!

[Anonymous]

Stop with the game and ask him directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the young woman possibly his daughter?

No, different races.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He entered the ice cream shop through the back entrance? The employee/service entrance?
Shady af.

If your sister is demanding as a wife, she still should not be cheated on. He can either ask her to attend counseling, or divorce, but cheating is wrong.

+1 mention when he’s in room.

This is OP. There are two entrances - one in the back and one in the front but the way he came in, it was like he knew she was there and there are no windows on the back wall so he could not have seen her through the window. Almost like they had spoken to one another earlier. I am actually just realizing this, making this whole thing even more suspcious.

[Anonymous]

I’d probably ask your sis in a way that suggests she already knows. Like, hey what’s the deal with the girl at the ice cream shop? Bill seems to know her whole family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He entered the ice cream shop through the back entrance? The employee/service entrance?
Shady af.

If your sister is demanding as a wife, she still should not be cheated on. He can either ask her to attend counseling, or divorce, but cheating is wrong.

+1 mention when he’s in room.

This is OP. There are two entrances - one in the back and one in the front but the way he came in, it was like he knew she was there and there are no windows on the back wall so he could not have seen her through the window. Almost like they had spoken to one another earlier. I am actually just realizing this, making this whole thing even more suspcious.

It’s extremely suspicious.

Marriage can be difficult and maybe your sister is difficult, but cheating and lying in a relationship is wrong.

He should not be leaving his kids at home while your sister is out of town to go play games with other women and their children.

If your sister is difficult fine, but his kids aren’t. Why use her absence to ignore them?

[Anonymous]

Given your sister's personality, I would ask him directly, but not in an accusatory or threatening tone. But that is my personality.

I would not decide on the next step until I saw how he responded. I might suggest he have an opporutnity to mention it to her before I did.

Either way, I wouldn't conceal something that made my radar signals go off. But I wouldn't jump to assumptions either.

You have a fine line to walk OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, does the kid look like him?

[Anonymous]

Yes. It makes perfect sense that he's conducting an affair at a public ice cream shop, I'm sorry--a gourmet ice cream shop which also serves coffee and tea--, in a town where apparently his family and obviously Community lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, does the kid look like him?

You’d think that was a bridge too far but stranger things occur in the world.

[Anonymous]

20 years younger, attractive, and slim--of course he's having an affair with her. With this kid's other relatives here. And you watching instead of engaging with him. Crystal clear to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. It makes perfect sense that he's conducting an affair at a public ice cream shop, I'm sorry--a gourmet ice cream shop which also serves coffee and tea--, in a town where apparently his family and obviously Community lives.

People have affairs everywhere. If his wife was out of town, he felt safe.

You know people bang their neighbors and all bar b que and run their kids to school together while banging, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mention it to her when he is in the room.

This.
“Hey sis. Did Larlo tell you we ran into him at Scoopz? I wish I’d known he was besties with the girl behind the counter. Seemed to know her family that was there. She could’ve given me the family discount on that mud pie ice cream I love. What was her name, Larlo?”

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

OK, so this is the worst idea ever. Ever.

MYOB is the only course of action here. He isn't having a fling with the ice cream girl. Stop jumping to conclusions.

[Anonymous]

In my mind this is all going down at Dolcezza in Bethesda Row

[Anonymous]

This is your brother in law, your child's uncle. Pretty close relatives. In this situation, I'd think he would at least make some introductions. It's really strange that instead of chatting with you and his niece, he sat with the other kid. Definitely ask him about it.