About to blow my top with my D's university.....

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Anonymous wrote:Comments are insane, you nasty, anonymous people! Life goes on with a “D”, as it has for OP’s DD. Complete the online course (or equivalent) as a pass/fail and get diploma. That D will never matter, ever! Much success to your DD.

Sure. Life goes on, without a college degree, and with having lied on numerous job applications, including to her current employer. And apparently the "online course" isn't an available option.

Drama queen.

She misrepresented herself to her employer as a college graduate. That may have been a misunderstanding on her part but it is a significant misunderstanding - she does not actually have a college degree. Is she planning to notify her employer that she is not actually a college grad, yet?

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"How did she bomb if she passed the course?"

She bombed because, at her school, getting a D prevents you from graduating.

I'm not sure how much more bombed you can be than Prevented From Graduating.

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Anonymous wrote:People here are such mindless drones.

My DH actually ended up getting his graduate degree from an Ivy before he got his undergrad diploma.

His undergrad teacher at a big name school was denied tenure and screwed him over on a paper grade. So my DH did walk the stage, then right into a job in his field. He never lied on his resume about a degree, just said he went there. 20 years later he went to the Ivy on a fellowship. When he was done he called his alma mater, told them about his Ivy league degree, and they accepted transfer credits fro. There to finally give him his bachelor's!

Again, white male -- as good as a degree.

Irrelevant. Get over it.

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OP, there's a bridge in Brooklyn I'd like to sell you.

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Wait, she KNEW the professor had a reputation as a tough grader and that she had to get a C to graduate and it just never occurred to her to check her grades?

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Could someone pls explain to me, an immigrant, how can this be a college fault, as some pps who work at universities have posted? How do you not know you didn't earn a passing grade? I am older and just going back to grad school and there are portals online that I am learning to navigate, so I could technically think I passed the class when I didn't?

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OP! I'm so sorry for all of the nasty comments. I don't know if your daughter knew or not about the grade, my instincts says that she may have. However, at this moment that isn't as important. You daughter has enough on her plate without you accusing her of anything. At this time, she needs your love and guidance to get through this. After this situaion is resolved, just reiterate to her that you love her and she can ALWAYS tell you anything.

Lots of solutions were already offered in this thread, follow up on those. Please disregard the negative ones. They do not know your daughter and a simple mistake doesnot make her a bad person. It seems that people have forgotten what it 's like to be young and in college. Also, getting a "D" does not make her an idiot. They are just some classes where the material just doesn't sink in. I can remember being overjoyed at getting a "C" and I fanatic about getting good grades. That "C" was like an "A" to me.

Remember mistakes can be made by the college. During my DS senior year, I kept on asking him if he's on point to graduate. He said yes, he had already spoken to his advisor; he even had the papers where she had wrote that he was on track. I nagged his so much that he went back to see her again. Fortunately, she was out and he had to see someone
else. Yep, he was missing a class. Thank goodness this all happened in the fall semester and he was able to take the class during the spring.

OP! Good luck! Continue to assist your daughter in correcting this situation. Please don't tell your husband, because in the grand scheme of things, this is just a blip on
the radar.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this anyone’s fault but your daughters? She must have majorly bombed that class to get a D.

How did she bomb if she passed the course?

? To me a "D" is majorly bombing - you may disagree. But in this context it was bad enough to deny her a diploma - so it had a real bad outcome, didn't i?

Holy crap, yes. I was distraught when I got a C; a D would have been horrific. Also, it's pretty widely known (at least I thought it was) that while a D is "passing" and may result in getting overall credits, it is insufficient for getting "credit" towards a major.

It wasn’t like this at university

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Notice it was the mom who asked for the diploma to frame it.
The DD never asked if her diploma came. She seems like she didn't even want to know.
I suspect if the mom hadn't asked the daughter would just go on claiming to be a college graduate regardless of the truth of the matter.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this anyone’s fault but your daughters? She must have majorly bombed that class to get a D.

How did she bomb if she passed the course?

? To me a "D" is majorly bombing - you may disagree. But in this context it was bad enough to deny her a diploma - so it had a real bad outcome, didn't i?

Holy crap, yes. I was distraught when I got a C; a D would have been horrific. Also, it's pretty widely known (at least I thought it was) that while a D is "passing" and may result in getting overall credits, it is insufficient for getting "credit" towards a major.

You need to learn some coping skill then. That’s not a normal reaction.
And before you ask, I was an A student.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this anyone’s fault but your daughters? She must have majorly bombed that class to get a D.

How did she bomb if she passed the course?

? To me a "D" is majorly bombing - you may disagree. But in this context it was bad enough to deny her a diploma - so it had a real bad outcome, didn't i?

Holy crap, yes. I was distraught when I got a C; a D would have been horrific. Also, it's pretty widely known (at least I thought it was) that while a D is "passing" and may result in getting overall credits, it is insufficient for getting "credit" towards a major.

It wasn’t like this at university

What school? It is at my kid's college.

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Bright side: you found out about it now, with plenty of time and options

My BIL listed his degree on his resume and for a big application. The HR department went to verify his degree and low and behold it was never finalized due. I believe he forgot to pay graduation fees. By the time he realized it, the graduation requirements changed and he would have to go back (to a different state) and take three more classes. He's never gone back. All that time and money, and no official degree.

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Anonymous wrote:Could someone pls explain to me, an immigrant, how can this be a college fault, as some pps who work at universities have posted? How do you not know you didn't earn a passing grade? I am older and just going back to grad school and there are portals online that I am learning to navigate, so I could technically think I passed the class when I didn't?

You can't really assume that you know what your grade is until you actually see your final grade. The Op's daughter daughter never checked her final grades and she also was apparently unaware that she never got her college diploma - which is usually a pretty big deal to a college grad.

If you are not positive how to check your final grades at your university you should ask.

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Anonymous wrote:Notice it was the mom who asked for the diploma to frame it.
The DD never asked if her diploma came. She seems like she didn't even want to know.
I suspect if the mom hadn't asked the daughter would just go on claiming to be a college graduate regardless of the truth of the matter.

+1.

OP, you have been warned.

(Probably you know already, having been a great role model as we can suspect from your rambling opening post looking for a scapegoat)

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Anonymous wrote:Bright side: you found out about it now, with plenty of time and options

My BIL listed his degree on his resume and for a big application. The HR department went to verify his degree and low and behold it was never finalized due. I believe he forgot to pay graduation fees. By the time he realized it, the graduation requirements changed and he would have to go back (to a different state) and take three more classes. He's never gone back. All that time and money, and no official degree.

Wow. Did he receive his college diploma? Most of the college grads that I know have their official college diplomas framed and hanging up.