What do you the most judgemental about?

[Anonymous]

I judge women who make faces toward other women. Shows their insecurity.

Parents who don't pay any attention to their kids when out at playgrounds and assume other parents will be willing to help their child out (again, YOUNG kids, under 4).

Parents who take their kids to stores/restaurants and let them run wild, paying no attention to them. Parents who infringe on my rare date night with obnoxious kids up past anyone's reasonable bedtime.

People who don't vaccinate in this day and age. Modern medicine exists for a reason. If you don't like it, move to a country where vaccinations don't exist.

Parents who don't even try to breast feed. Parents who force feed the bottle. If the kids' screaming and kicking and fighting the bottle - guess what? Not every cry is for hunger.

Parents who are irresponsible with their money and more often than not put themselves before the kids. Then complain about the kids as if they thought kids were free.

Women with assymetrical (f'ed up) hair cuts. So out of date - and well, "hickish".

Women who would dare to be in another's face about their choices. They're just asking for a slap (or worse).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who breastfeed past 18-24 months, especially if it's boys. Sorry, it's just creepy to have an older toddler sucking on your boob. I don't care how bad it sounds, you can't tell me those ladies don't have attachment problems.

I judge people who are as narrow minded as you. And you somehow think the Mom is *forcing* her kid to nurse? Have you never HAD a kid that age?

And the fact that you think 'especially for boys' means YOU have the problem.

I agree with the first PP. I think it's weird, too. Both of my children stopped nursing before a year. The need to continue to nurse in some cases is an attachment issue on the mother's part.

It's not being narrow-minded; it's being practical and knowing when to cut the cord and to set boundaries. I suppose those who agree with the second PP also co-sleep, which is what I'm also judgmental about.

[Anonymous]

I judge extended nursing too. Past two (being generous!), you're doing it for you, not for the child. They eat real food now; they can handle regular milk too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so. True story: I know a family who had a live-in nanny, a full time housekeeper (mon-fri, 9-5) and 2 kids, 4 and 6. Mom not only did NOT work, but was never with the kids, always exhausted and bitchy and always looking for weekend babysitters when the nanny was off. WHAT THE F*CK?

Do you think she enjoyed being exhausted and bitchy and unable to enjoy her kids? How about feeling sorry for someone who may be depressed or who just doesn't have your coping skills?

(I just figured out what I'm most judgmental about.)

I just enablers like you - always making excuses for inexcusable behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow I hope none of you secret formula feeder judgers are my friends. Especially if you were one of my friends who to my face told me that I had certainly tried hard enough to breast feed and not to beat myself up that it wasn't working. If you are, just come clean so I don't waste any more time with you. I don't need you secretly judging me. It's one thing to agree that formula isn't the ideal way to go, and another to be this judgemental about something when you haven't walked in my shoes.

Seriously. You people need to get the f--- over yourselves. Can't believe what a bunch of sanctimonious bitches you people are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who breastfeed past 18-24 months, especially if it's boys. Sorry, it's just creepy to have an older toddler sucking on your boob. I don't care how bad it sounds, you can't tell me those ladies don't have attachment problems.

I judge people who are as narrow minded as you. And you somehow think the Mom is *forcing* her kid to nurse? Have you never HAD a kid that age?

And the fact that you think 'especially for boys' means YOU have the problem.

I guess only those that breast feed are allowed to judge. But, not allowed to be judged. Interesting.

As for the pro-Vick/they're just dogs poster, there are no words for you. You are clueless.

[Anonymous]

Women who formula feed without giving breastfeeding a try. You have to wonder about someone who chooses from day one not to do what is best for her own child.

[Anonymous]

People who misspell judgment and judgmental and misuse whose and who's.

[Anonymous]

20:41, I am from outside Newport News, Va. Rural area.

[Anonymous]

People who say "and yourself". As in, "I'm doing fine. And yourself?" If anyone can think of a situation where it's ok to say, "and yourself", please enlighten me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge extended nursing too. Past two (being generous!), you're doing it for you, not for the child. They eat real food now; they can handle regular milk too.

I'm the PP. My DD is 'only' 21 months, so I guess I don't quite make your cut, but trust me - I'm not still nursing for me. I'd be quite happy to be done, but my daughter has a different opinion on the subject. Since it makes her happy, I've never seen any studies to show extended nursing is detrimental to kids, and I HAVE seen studies saying it's beneficial, it seems a bit selfish to cut her off just because I'm ready to be done. And yes - she eats real food, and drinks milk. She just also wants to nurse.

So yeah - it may seem weird to you. It seemed weird to me before I had kids. But the folks who think extended nursing happens because Mom has an attachment issue are just wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who breastfeed past 18-24 months, especially if it's boys. Sorry, it's just creepy to have an older toddler sucking on your boob. I don't care how bad it sounds, you can't tell me those ladies don't have attachment problems.

I judge people who are as narrow minded as you. And you somehow think the Mom is *forcing* her kid to nurse? Have you never HAD a kid that age?

And the fact that you think 'especially for boys' means YOU have the problem.

I guess only those that breast feed are allowed to judge. But, not allowed to be judged. Interesting.

As for the pro-Vick/they're just dogs poster, there are no words for you. You are clueless.

Gotta respond to this too - I'm the PP you quoted and it was my first post. *I* don't judge women who choose to formula feed, so your logic doesn't hold. I do breastfeed, but if there's some breastfeeder groupthink I was supposed to subscribe to - sorry, I missed the memo.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I can't believe there is this much judgment of formula feeders. I breastfed my kids for at least 6 months each, and I wouldn't trade it for anything, but wow! Breastfeeding is really, really hard. Even for those who can physically do it you still end up shouldering a lot more of the sleeplessness, etc. Honestly, if I had more kids I'm not sure I could do it again and still be a competent mother during the day to my other children. Scary that people would judge me for it.

Would you judge someone for not making homemade babyfood and using the jar food instead? We all take short cuts don't we? We don't all do what's absolute best for our kids every time when sometimes there is a 2d best that may have some downside but has a side benefit (e.g., saves time or money).

And for someone who is very modest I could see that it might be a real problem to breastfeed in public and if you can't get over that then you'd become pretty housebound. I'm not modest like that but could empathize with someone who is and why it might impact their decision re breastfeeding.

Anyway, that said, I judge parents who let their kids play video games all the time. I find it depressing to watch little kids with those little handheld things totally zoned out. I'll probably eat my words some day, but hope I can at least put some time limits on their use if they end up in my house (everyone says it's inevitable).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who misspell judgment and judgmental and misuse whose and who's.

aren't both spellings acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge extended nursing too. Past two (being generous!), you're doing it for you, not for the child. They eat real food now; they can handle regular milk too.

I'm the PP. My DD is 'only' 21 months, so I guess I don't quite make your cut, but trust me - I'm not still nursing for me. I'd be quite happy to be done, but my daughter has a different opinion on the subject. Since it makes her happy, I've never seen any studies to show extended nursing is detrimental to kids, and I HAVE seen studies saying it's beneficial, it seems a bit selfish to cut her off just because I'm ready to be done. And yes - she eats real food, and drinks milk. She just also wants to nurse.

So yeah - it may seem weird to you. It seemed weird to me before I had kids. But the folks who think extended nursing happens because Mom has an attachment issue are just wrong.

PP I think you're doing just fine. The WHO recommends to breastfeed until the age of 2 for the best health of the child AND the mother...maybe with more breastfeeding we can cut out some of the judging against fat people.