Working partners, do you resent your non-working spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here--No need for anyone to continue posting. I got my answer...

Yes, working spouses resent the shit out of the non-workers.

Oh and I learned not going to a 9-5 automatically means you sit on your ass all day. Who knew? I guess I've been doing it wrong all along! Peace!

Bye useless troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here--No need for anyone to continue posting. I got my answer...

Yes, working spouses resent the shit out of the non-workers.

Oh and I learned not going to a 9-5 automatically means you sit on your ass all day. Who knew? I guess I've been doing it wrong all along! Peace!

Just admit that your post was a joke, OP

[Anonymous]

I know someone like you. She is married to a very successful and wealthy man but no kids. Neither ever wanted them. He travels for work a lot and mostly internationally. She travels with him often, probably at least once a month. She plays two instruments very well, speaks three languages, has a very impressive academic background, is so loving towards her family, goes above and beyond for her friends (including me) and their kids, volunteers with an inner city music program. When I first met her I couldn’t believe she was for real. I was suspicious of her and initially wasn’t sure I wanted to be friends. I am so glad we ended up becoming friends because she’s a truly wonderful person. I judged her but now realize she does a lot with her life to make it worthwhile. It sounds like you are one of the lucky ones who can go down this path too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[

I don’t understand why my post is being misunderstood. Maybe I was not very clear. If you have kids and stay at home to take care of them, clean, etc that IS a job. If you are OP you do nothing all day. Also, if you don’t have kids how dirty can your house really be? Do you need to clean it everyday multiple hours a day? If OP got a job she would make much more than a cleaning lady that cleans her house 3-5 hours per week

No, the OP does nothing that YOU value because your worth is tied up in your job. The OP has different values and thinks different things are important in life than you do. It's simply incredibly rude to say that just because someone doesn't have a job or kids they do nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No, my work has a purpose. Taking care of an empty house is NOT a purpose. If you were volunteering several days a week and your work had a purpose, then yes, I agree. But if you do nothing purposeful other than “how many shows should I watch today” or “which gym class should I take at the gym”, then your day to day life has no purpose. But please tell what is your purpose. My work involves research and the purpose of my work is to eradicate world poverty. Also, I have two kids and I am trying (to the best of my ability) to give them a happy life and teaching my daughters that even if they will never NEED to work, they can still contribute by doing something meaningful that is not clean up after their husband 30 minutes of everyday.

So because my home doesn't have children in it, it's empty? Give me a break.

What is my purpose? I don't need to contribute to the outside world to have a purpose. I contribute to society by contributing to my world. Just because I am unemployed doesn't mean I'm a hermit. I'm an immense giver and I help people tremendously. Today I walked one of my neighbor's dogs. When a college-aged neighbor asked me if I could give her a ride to the bus stop once last semester because her mom had a 7am doctors appointment, I discovered said girl's first class was at the same time as my yoga class (oh the horror, I have time for yoga!) and proceeded to drive her downtown to her class for the rest of the semester. She saved an hour and a half in the mornings with my ride. When someone posts on the neighborhood facebook page at 2pm on a Wednesday that a pipe burst at their house guess who is available to run down there with a water key and turn off their water for them? When my grandmother fell and broke her hip guess which family member could drop everything and go stay with her for 5 weeks? Get the idea now? I could go on and on.

Having the leisure of time gives me purpose and I don't really care if that's not of the same global importance as curing cancer or world hunger.

I don't know where you got the idea that all OP does is clean up after her husband so assuming as much just shows your general disdain for females who don't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here--No need for anyone to continue posting. I got my answer...

Yes, working spouses resent the shit out of the non-workers.

Oh and I learned not going to a 9-5 automatically means you sit on your ass all day. Who knew? I guess I've been doing it wrong all along! Peace!

Except in 9 pages maybe only one or two posters actually answered your question. I don't remember reading any actual working partners commenting on the non-working partners, only people who had hypothetical opinions on it.

I think people who work just resent the shit out of people who don't need to, in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here--No need for anyone to continue posting. I got my answer...

Yes, working spouses resent the shit out of the non-workers.

Oh and I learned not going to a 9-5 automatically means you sit on your ass all day. Who knew? I guess I've been doing it wrong all along! Peace!

Except in 9 pages maybe only one or two posters actually answered your question. I don't remember reading any actual working partners commenting on the non-working partners, only people who had hypothetical opinions on it.

I think people who work just resent the shit out of people who don't need to, in general.

That’s because OP’s situation is so incredibly rare and there aren’t many working partners with stay at home wives to comment on it. The stay at home parents usually takes care of the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No, my work has a purpose. Taking care of an empty house is NOT a purpose. If you were volunteering several days a week and your work had a purpose, then yes, I agree. But if you do nothing purposeful other than “how many shows should I watch today” or “which gym class should I take at the gym”, then your day to day life has no purpose. But please tell what is your purpose. My work involves research and the purpose of my work is to eradicate world poverty. Also, I have two kids and I am trying (to the best of my ability) to give them a happy life and teaching my daughters that even if they will never NEED to work, they can still contribute by doing something meaningful that is not clean up after their husband 30 minutes of everyday.

So because my home doesn't have children in it, it's empty? Give me a break.

What is my purpose? I don't need to contribute to the outside world to have a purpose. I contribute to society by contributing to my world. Just because I am unemployed doesn't mean I'm a hermit. I'm an immense giver and I help people tremendously. Today I walked one of my neighbor's dogs. When a college-aged neighbor asked me if I could give her a ride to the bus stop once last semester because her mom had a 7am doctors appointment, I discovered said girl's first class was at the same time as my yoga class (oh the horror, I have time for yoga!) and proceeded to drive her downtown to her class for the rest of the semester. She saved an hour and a half in the mornings with my ride. When someone posts on the neighborhood facebook page at 2pm on a Wednesday that a pipe burst at their house guess who is available to run down there with a water key and turn off their water for them? When my grandmother fell and broke her hip guess which family member could drop everything and go stay with her for 5 weeks? Get the idea now? I could go on and on.

Having the leisure of time gives me purpose and I don't really care if that's not of the same global importance as curing cancer or world hunger.

I don't know where you got the idea that all OP does is clean up after her husband so assuming as much just shows your general disdain for females who don't work.

If you are happy with this life OP good for you. Most people would not be

[Anonymous]

If OP were a man, would you be ok with the situation? I would never be attracted to a man that stays at home without a job and without kids to take care of. I don’t care how Amazing my house looks or how many neighbors he helped

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP were a man, would you be ok with the situation? I would never be attracted to a man that stays at home without a job and without kids to take care of. I don’t care how Amazing my house looks or how many neighbors he helped

Men and women are not attracted to the same things

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

That’s because OP’s situation is so incredibly rare and there aren’t many working partners with stay at home wives to comment on it. The stay at home parents usually takes care of the kids

And because the working partners are actually at work, working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you are happy with this life OP good for you. Most people would not be

Which was exactly my point all along. People have different requirements for happiness and fulfillment and people need to be more open-minded when someone else's requirements don't line up with theirs. Instead, people got all aggressive calling the OP lazy and worthless because how dare she have non-conforming values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

If you are happy with this life OP good for you. Most people would not be

Which was exactly my point all along. People have different requirements for happiness and fulfillment and people need to be more open-minded when someone else's requirements don't line up with theirs. Instead, people got all aggressive calling the OP lazy and worthless because how dare she have non-conforming values.

Actually I thought OP’s post was fake

[Anonymous]

My DREAM job. Where do I apply?

[Anonymous]

My husband is south Asian and he actually encouraged me to stay home before we had children. I tried it for a few months but got bored to death. Working makes me feel happier. I honestly don't think my husband is resentful but he's also from a very traditional culture. I think the majority of American men would not be supportive of this arrangement.