Working partners, do you resent your non-working spouse?
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Anonymous
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And why?
Why I want to know? I am the stay at home wife (no kids) and although we mutually agreed that I'd stay home (money isn't an issue and I handle nearly all household duties) I can't help but think there's got to be some resentment when the working partner has to slog off to work and the other doesn't. I check in every once and while about this to make sure DH is still cool with it and he always is but I just want to make sure I am aware of any potential issues. So, working partners just curious to know what your issues are, if any! |
Anonymous
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It depends on what you do all day.
OP, do you just focus on leisure time, or are you working to create a maintain a nice home life for you and your husband? Do you volunteer in a significant way/contribute to society? |
Anonymous
| Op, do you wake up with your spouse and help him get set for the day? |
Anonymous
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My wife looks after our 3 kids all day. That is WAY harder than my job.
I don’t know how she does it. |
Anonymous
Yeah, that is a job. But OP has no kids. |
Anonymous
| What do you do all day? |
Anonymous
| Is this question for people who are actually partners? |
Anonymous
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I have been. Particularly on those days when I had a rough day at work and she spent the afternoon drinking wine with her friend as the kids swam in the pool. Meanwhile, she suggests me not doing enough around the house is one of the reasons why we aren't having sex.
Me having harder days than her ebbs and flows. Lack of sex is a persistent problem. So, I'd say make sure your sex life is squared away and, if it is, any resentments will probably be temporary. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes. DH spent two years doing more or less nothing. Now he has started a graduate program, and is much busier, but still has much more flexibility than I do, but even though I work full time in and bring in 80% of household income, I still do more with the kids and around the house. Mostly, i'm just glad that he found something he is excited about. But yes, I have resentful moments. |
Anonymous
| LMAO “stay at home wife.” No kids? Lady. Get a job. You’re a joke. |
Anonymous
I am sure she does not have kids YET... right? Otherwise what are you planning to do with your life? Take care of the house where only 2 people live? |
Anonymous
Hey, it was good enough for Lucy & Ricky... |
Anonymous
| Big mistake me marrying a woman with no career ambition. Luckily I folded and cut my losses before my career really took off (was too busy doing the second shift to focus on my career, so she was like a ball and chain) and didn't have to fork over nearly the amount of money if I had stayed married to her. Remarried with a prenup to a woman who can financially hold her own. |
Anonymous
OP here, basically I do everything so that DH doesn't have to worry about anything but his work. All household management, finances and budget, travel and social lives all handled by me. He comes home to a clean and pleasant home (and a clean and pleasant wife, ha!) every single day. I do volunteer once a week at a women's organization and am usually on a fundraising committee of some sort. |
Anonymous
| OP again, wow, ya'll are harsh! We don't plan to ever have kids, never wanted them. While it's true I don't bring in any cash to the relationship I do feel that I provide support in many ways and I think being a partner means more than what kind of paycheck one brings home. But I guess it's eye opening to see how people really feel about housewives! I appreciate those who actually answered the question and provided some insight. |