Sleepover with gay dads

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I give gay dads extra domesticty points, so I would not have an issue sending my child to you. Statistically, I think teenage brothers in the house are probably a bigger risk.

Statistically speaking I would think 2 gay dads is a lower risk than a straight father and probably even lower than straight mother.

They aren't. Because they are male.

Women are the lowest risk. Duh.

So because they are male, they are automatically going to molest the children in their care?

No.

But males (straight or gay) are far more likely to molest children, murder people, drive recklessly and a who host of other negative things.


I just spent the last 2 hours researching this. I cannot find a single source that suggests that gay men are more likely than anyone to molest a female child. I actually cannot find a single reported case of opposite gender child molestation by a gay person period. In fact, I am led to believe that the likelihood of a woman molesting your daughter is higher than a gay man. Am I missing something or are you taking a fact that applies exclusively to same gender orientation consistent adults and applying it to gay men? If so, please justify to me how this isn't just unfounded bigotry (toward men, gay people or both)?

You are hiding your head in the sand if you think a woman is more likely to molest a child than a man.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. Strike the last sentence. Most post gay posted inside the one I was replying to in error.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me that people are so rigid in their sexuality. I married a man but dated a woman so I wouldn't assume so much based on marital status or that someone might not be bi-sexual. But I don't really think child molesters have to do as much with sexual orientation as being damaged human beings.

No it doesn't. But men are child molesters 99% of the time... married or not.

This is not true at all.

What I find interesting, is so many of you are worried about the dads - but almost 30% of the time, children who are under 9 who are sexually assulted are assulted by somone in their own age group. So those of you who are worried about sleepovers - keep an eye out for those friends and brothers.

And FFS people, teach your young kids about sex and stop using dumb ass terms like "privates" and "wee wee" because you are just asking your kid to get molested.

Let's see how statistics works.

That means 70% of the time, children who are under 9 who are sexually assaulted are assaulted by someone NOT in their own age group.

40% of the time it is an acquaintance

and again, 99% of the time the perpetrator is male.

If men are so up in arms about being judged maybe they should work on MEN being less animals.

Where are you getting your statistics from? And what age ranges are you using? As someone who works in this field you need to be more clean on your terms.

CDC
Rainn
Doj

All age ranges, 99% of men/women/boys/girls are molested/raped by men. Not gay men, btw, men.

Gay men are not more likely to abuse than straight men.

None of those sites support your claims. I pronounce you ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

I have no problrm.as long as I know you. I don't let my kids sleep over at anyone's house I don't know.

I have a male babysitter that watches my children FT while I work, so no, men do not scare me, nor do I consider men, by virtue of Pennsylvania as predators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no problrm.as long as I know you. I don't let my kids sleep over at anyone's house I don't know.

I have a male babysitter that watches my children FT while I work, so no, men do not scare me, nor do I consider men, by virtue of penis as predators.

Hahahaha! Corrected!

[Anonymous]

My kid would have to be old enough/mature enough and I'd have to know the parents and their kid. The gender/sexual orientation of the parents wouldn't matter.

Unlike some I don't assume that all men are potential predators (what a horrible outlook!)

[Anonymous]

Sexual orientation of parents does not matter at all to me when sleepover invites are extended. I think DH and I are going w the no sleepovers anywhere OR at our house rule...at least for now.

You know, I almost said yes to a sleepover invite for my daughter a few months ago. I was so close to saying yes...didn't want to helicopter, thought it was a little crazy to be so paranoid. And then I flashed back to 1991. In the town where I grew up, rumors were floating around that the physician father of my sister's friend was accused of spying on his adolescent daughter's friends. Happened during a sleepover while they were changing clothes in the family's guest house. I never knew what happened to the accused father and most people assumed it wasn't true. I googled him. He was indeed jailed for it and then some years later incarcerated again for additional sex offenses involving minors. I'm going to err on the side of helicoptering for sleepovers. I don't care who extends the invite.

Yup,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexual orientation of parents does not matter at all to me when sleepover invites are extended. I think DH and I are going w the no sleepovers anywhere OR at our house rule...at least for now.

You know, I almost said yes to a sleepover invite for my daughter a few months ago. I was so close to saying yes...didn't want to helicopter, thought it was a little crazy to be so paranoid. And then I flashed back to 1991. In the town where I grew up, rumors were floating around that the physician father of my sister's friend was accused of spying on his adolescent daughter's friends. Happened during a sleepover while they were changing clothes in the family's guest house. I never knew what happened to the accused father and most people assumed it wasn't true. I googled him. He was indeed jailed for it and then some years later incarcerated again for additional sex offenses involving minors. I'm going to err on the side of helicoptering for sleepovers. I don't care who extends the invite.

Yup,

As long you understand the consequence for that is your child becomes a social pariah.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sexual orientation of parents does not matter at all to me when sleepover invites are extended. I think DH and I are going w the no sleepovers anywhere OR at our house rule...at least for now.

You know, I almost said yes to a sleepover invite for my daughter a few months ago. I was so close to saying yes...didn't want to helicopter, thought it was a little crazy to be so paranoid. And then I flashed back to 1991. In the town where I grew up, rumors were floating around that the physician father of my sister's friend was accused of spying on his adolescent daughter's friends. Happened during a sleepover while they were changing clothes in the family's guest house. I never knew what happened to the accused father and most people assumed it wasn't true. I googled him. He was indeed jailed for it and then some years later incarcerated again for additional sex offenses involving minors. I'm going to err on the side of helicoptering for sleepovers. I don't care who extends the invite.

Yup,

As long you understand the consequence for that is your child becomes a social pariah.

We do sleepovers, but I don't think the kids who don't are pariahs. Each to their own.